3. Am I doing the right thing for my baby?
As a first-time mom, the myriad restrictions and recommendations you will encounter the moment you learn you’re pregnant can be daunting. Suddenly you are supposed to alter your diet and are told not to eat deli meat, sushi, unpasteurized cheese, and a host of other dos and don’ts. If you Google many food or beverage items, you can likely find some article claiming it is unsafe for you to consume in pregnancy. First of all, I don’t recommend spending much time Googling these kinds of things because it will only increase your anxiety. Instead, ask your healthcare provider for a list of things they recommend you do and don’t eat.
Follow this list and also listen to your body. Also, you should know that if you happen to consume something that you later find out was on the “no” list, you don’t need to panic. God is protecting your baby, and neither he nor your doctor or midwife expects you to be omniscient. Whether this thought of “Am I doing the right thing for my baby?” comes up in your diet, what prenatal vitamins you choose, what exercise regimen you adhere to, where you decide to give birth, or the choices you make for your baby after they are born, know that God has chosen you to be the perfect mom for your baby. You will not always be perfect, but you can trust that you are best suited to care for your baby.
Lastly, I would encourage you to invite others who are a positive influence into your pregnancy and parenting journey. This should certainly include your partner, but can also include a birth doula, family members, friends, coworkers, a support group—whoever God has put in your life. Ask other women about their experiences being a mom—about their struggles and the hard decisions they have had to make. Even though your story won’t parallel theirs exactly, if you ask several people, you will likely be able to glean bits of wisdom from these different experiences that you can apply to your own journey as a mother.
Beyond all of this, mama—enjoy the journey. God has blessed you with a baby and you get to see the amazing things your body is capable of and experience an incredible bond. Blessings to you, wherever you are on that journey!
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