How to Show Love to Those Who Are Alone on the Holidays

Emmanuel Abimbola

Emmanuel Abimbola

Contributing Writer
Updated Dec 06, 2023
How to Show Love to Those Who Are Alone on the Holidays

Through small, intentional acts of kindness, we have the profound opportunity to be the bearers of light for those navigating the solitude that often accompanies this time of year.

As we find ourselves immersed in the ambiance of the holiday season, with twinkling lights adorning streets and the sweet melodies of festive tunes filling the air, we must pause and acknowledge the poignant dichotomy that accompanies this joyous time. 

Amidst the celebratory cheer and warm gatherings, there exists a silent struggle for some—a battle against the pangs of solitude that can cast a shadow over the merriment.

In recognizing the struggles that some individuals face during this season of jubilation, we discover a layer of the holidays that often goes unnoticed. While many are fortunate to revel in the embrace of family and friends, some navigate this season alone, contending with the ache of isolation. 

The importance of extending compassion and reaching out to those feeling lonely cannot be overstated. Through small, intentional acts of kindness, we have the profound opportunity to be the bearers of light for those navigating the solitude that often accompanies this time of year.

Let us heed the call to be the radiant beacons of love and companionship, guided by the timeless wisdom of Galatians 5:13, which reminds us, "For, brethren, ye have been called unto liberty; only use not liberty for an occasion to the flesh, but by love serve one another." Embracing the liberating spirit of the season, our truest celebration lies in serving others with a love that transcends boundaries, bringing warmth to the hearts of those who may feel alone during this festive time.

The Emotional Toll of Isolation

Psalm 68:6 proclaims that God is the "Father of the Fatherless and protector of widows," emphasizing divine care for those who may feel abandoned or bereft of familial bonds. This verse serves as a source of assurance, suggesting that even in the absence of earthly kinship, there exists a heavenly presence that extends a nurturing hand to assuage the emotional burdens borne by the lonely.

Ecclesiastes 4:9-10 accentuates the strength of companionship, stating, "Two are better than one because they have a good reward for their toil. For if they fall, one will lift up his fellow. But woe to him who is alone when he falls and has not another to lift him up!" This passage vividly illustrates the emotional support inherent in shared experiences, highlighting the stark contrast faced by individuals without the solace of close relationships during a season that extols communal joy.

From these verses, we are brought to the understanding that God encourages empathy, kindness, and the extension of love to those who find themselves traversing the path of loneliness during the holiday season.

How We Can Show Love to the Lonely

Extend a Warm Invitation: In the spirit of the holiday season, one immensely practical and heartfelt act for believers is to extend a warm invitation to those who might otherwise find themselves navigating the festive period alone. 

This involves not only the act of inviting them to holiday gatherings or events but, more importantly, cultivating an atmosphere of inclusivity. It's about creating an environment where they feel not just welcomed but genuinely embraced—an atmosphere that goes beyond surface-level politeness to foster a profound sense of connection and belonging. 

Through this intentional act, we can transform mere invitations into beacons of warmth, ensuring that no one feels left out in the cold of holiday solitude.

Acts of Kindness: Amidst the hustle and bustle of the season, the power of small yet impactful gestures cannot be overstated. Simple acts of kindness, ranging from sending a heartfelt card to the thoughtfulness of a carefully chosen gift, can leave an indelible mark on the hearts of those experiencing loneliness. These gestures carry profound significance, serving as tangible expressions of care and consideration.  

Care Packages of Comfort: Crafting and delivering care packages filled with comforting essentials can be a tangible and thoughtful way to express love to those spending the holidays alone. Including items like cozy blankets, soothing teas, and heartfelt notes can create a sense of warmth and care, bringing a touch of holiday joy directly to their doorstep.

Memory Lane Scrapbook: Compile a personalized scrapbook that reminisces about shared memories or includes uplifting messages from friends and family. This nostalgic gesture not only shows love but also allows the recipient to relive cherished moments, turning the pages of a tangible connection that transcends the physical distance.

Meal-sharing: Organize a meal-sharing initiative where individuals or families prepare extra portions of holiday meals and deliver them to those who might be alone. Not only does this provide a comforting and festive feast, but it also reinforces the communal spirit of the season, as the act of sharing food has an intrinsic ability to foster a sense of connection.

Outdoor Adventures: For those who enjoy the outdoors, organizing an adventurous outing can be an invigorating way to show love. Whether it's a nature hike, a picnic in the park, or a stroll through holiday markets, these shared experiences can break the monotony of solitude and infuse the season with a refreshing and communal spirit.

Offering Transportation: Recognizing that transportation can be a barrier for some during the holidays, offering assistance with rides to events, gatherings, or even running errands can be a practical way to show love. This facilitates participation in festive activities and alleviates the potential isolation caused by logistical challenges.

Interactive Virtual Workshops: Host virtual workshops or classes focused on shared interests, such as art, music, or a hobby. Engaging in creative and interactive activities online enables individuals to connect over shared passions, transforming virtual spaces into hubs of shared experiences and fostering a sense of community.

Decorate Together, Virtually: Embrace the festive spirit by coordinating a virtual decorating session. Whether it's trimming the tree, hanging lights, or crafting handmade ornaments, this collaborative effort can bring the joy of holiday decorations into the homes of those who might be celebrating alone, creating a sense of unity and shared celebration.

Personalized Playlist or Book Recommendations: Curate a playlist of uplifting songs or compile a list of heartwarming book recommendations. This will offer solace and inspiration, providing a shared experience even when physically apart.

Incorporating Spiritual Love

Extending spiritual love into the lives of those who find themselves alone during the holidays not only aligns with the core tenets of Christ's teachings but also serves as a way to infuse the season with a sense of purpose, solace, and divine connection, as seen in Galatians 5:13 and 1 John 4:7.

Galatians 5:13 shows the call to a life of liberty guided by love for believers: "For, brethren, ye have been called unto liberty; only use not liberty for an occasion to the flesh, but by love serve one another." This serves as a reminder that the freedom bestowed upon us as Christians is not merely for self-indulgence but a platform to express love through acts of service to one another. 

To live by this principle, we must extend a helping hand, show kindness, and actively seek ways to serve the lonely, embodying the essence of spiritual love.

1 John 4:7 says, "Beloved, let us love one another; for love is of God, and every one that loveth is born of God and knows God." Love is not merely a human emotion but a divine essence flowing from God Himself. 

By actively engaging in acts of love through simple gestures, compassionate words, and genuine companionship, we mirror the divine love that binds humanity together in a spiritual realm.

It means sharing material gifts and offering our time, presence, and genuine care. To express spiritual love also entails actively seeking out opportunities to express kindness and compassion to the lonely during the holidays. We can show this spiritual love by inviting them or spending quality time with them.

Building Relationships Beyond the Holidays

Lastly, we must keep the relationship with our lonely fellows going even after the holidays. Having ongoing communication is a vital catalyst in the process of relationship-building. It involves more than the periodic exchange of pleasantries; it involves a deliberate and sustained effort to keep the lines of communication open.

This must include more than just the holidays, but also the holidays. We must strive to stay in touch because, by having open and continuous communication with the lonely folks around us, we lay the groundwork for relationships that deepen with each shared experience.

We should show commitment, understanding, support, and genuine care for them. This enduring friendship, grounded in mutual respect and affection, is the bedrock upon which lasting connections are built.

By building relationships beyond the holidays with the lonely people around us, we create an avenue to be present in their lives. This is a commitment to the creation of shared memories, the weathering of storms together, and the celebration of milestones, both big and small.

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Emmanuel Abimbola headshotEmmanuel Abimbola is a creative freelance writer, blogger, and web designer. He is a devout Christian with an uncompromising faith who hails from Ondo State in Nigeria, West Africa. As a lover of kids, Emmanuel runs a small elementary school in Arigidi, Nigeria.