It comes rushing in like a familiar friend who unexpectedly comes for a visit, and it’s usually bearing luggage for a long-term stay. A broken heart. Unfortunately, we’re all too familiar with its grip. The weight of a broken heart leaves grief in its wake, making most of us gasp for air as we flail our arms trying to escape its immovable grip. The pain is substantial. The vibrant blues and yellows of life quickly turn gray and we find ourselves trudging through. It’s usually not the weight of one thing that puts us under. Rather it’s the occurrence of seemingly a thousand. A thousand pains. Disappointments. Blows. One more failed relationship. Another lost job. One more rejection from a friend. A broken heart sucks the air from our mouths. We want to breathe and live and laugh. We just can’t. I want to talk to the one who is muddling through a broken heart today.
Broken hearts stem from loss – a loved one, a season, a job, health, a dream, a relationship, or the word wounds of a loved one. A broken heart comes in like a mighty river, snatching everything in its path, leaving a wake of destruction. Do you ever feel like you’ve had more than your fair share of broken hearts? Like maybe you’ve suffered one too many blows and this thing is going to take you out? Like it isn’t fair because everyone else’s life seems to be a breeze compared to the hardships you’ve suffered? I’ve been there!
I’m convinced that no one knows the familiarity of a broken heart quite like a mom. Moms make the world go ‘round. We cook and clean and work and encourage and fix and plan. We are the glue of the family. Our children need us for essays and carpool. We are expected to have all the answers and often little grace is extended when we fail, when we miss the mark, when we say the wrong thing, or when we swing and miss. We are expected to have it all together all the time. When moms suffer a heart-aching blow, the whole family can suffer. When moms function through broken hearts, with babies (big or small) in tow, the way they recover is so very important. Their lives are at stake.
Here are 7 ways to heal from a broken heart that have served me well in various seasons:
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