How I Found God's Grace During Loss and Grief

Emmanuel Abimbola

Emmanuel Abimbola

Contributing Writer
Published Jun 12, 2023
How I Found God's Grace During Loss and Grief

This event taught me that God's grace was more than just the absence of suffering; it was a tremendous force that permeated all elements of my existence. It got me through the darkest hours and resurrected my tired spirit. 

There are times when our souls are struck by tremendous loss and suffering. We frequently desire consolation during these moments of mourning and despair, looking for a guiding light to take us over the stormy oceans of sadness. 

I've encountered God's unshakable embrace, a supernatural gift that defies human explanation and heals the aching souls of people seeking peace in moments of grief. The hallowed words of God, in particular, have been my constant companion, bringing knowledge and solace in the face of enormous sadness. 

Why God's Grace Matters During Loss and Grief

When we find ourselves crossing the perilous terrain of sadness, the necessity of recognizing and embracing God's grace becomes painfully obvious because it is only through His divine kindness that we may find peace, strength, and the profound conviction that we are not alone in our suffering.

We are reminded of the unshakable promise that God's grace is sufficient to sustain us, even in our darkest hours, in 2 Corinthians 12:9, which reads, "And he said unto me, My grace is sufficient for thee; for my strength is made perfect in weakness." These divinely inspired words tell us that God's grace is more than an abstract notion; it is a power that carries us through the mountains of loss and despair.

When we face the crushing weight of loss, we may experience a flood of emotions, including sadness, rage, uncertainty, and a profound feeling of emptiness. God's grace softly wraps around us at these moments, providing peace and the certainty that He is there, sharing our pains. 

When we reflect on Psalm 34:18, we find comfort in the words, "The LORD is near to the brokenhearted, and saveth those who are of a contrite spirit." God's grace shines brightest in our brokenness, pulling us near Him and cradling our wounded spirits with His loving presence.

God's grace shines as a light of hope, lighting the way to healing and restoration. When we feel like we're lost in the desolate wilderness of grief, Isaiah 41:10 says, "Fear not, for I am with thee; be not dismayed; for I am thy God: I will strengthen thee; yea, I will help thee; yea, I will uphold thee with the right hand of my righteousness." Here, we learn that God's grace not only comforts us but also equips us to persevere and emerge stronger on the other side of our suffering

In the middle of our loss, we may ask why such tragedy has befallen us. However, we are reminded through the lens of God's mercy that He works all things for good, even in the midst of our sadness. Romans 8:28 says, "And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are called according to his purpose." We can sense a higher purpose beyond our current suffering because of God's grace, and we take solace in knowing that our agony is not in vain.

Recognizing God's mercy amid loss and suffering also enables us to witness the transformational power of His love. Ephesians 2:8 says, "For by grace are ye saved through faith, and that not of yourselves; it is the gift of God." God's grace cannot be earned or merited; instead, it is a gift freely offered to everyone who seeks His comfort and restoration. We open ourselves to a tremendous spiritual metamorphosis by accepting His grace, in which our suffering becomes a catalyst for growth, our sadness becomes a wellspring of compassion, and our hearts become vessels overflowing with love.

My Personal Experience with Loss and Grief

The loss of my first child due to birth complications was a profoundly devastating experience that rocked me to my core. This loss not only devastated me personally but also had an enormous impact on my entire family, making the grief unimaginable.

The devil did try to take advantage of our weakness in the midst of such unfathomable tragedy to undermine our faith and drive us to despair, but God kept us firmly together.

This tragedy affected every part of our lives. We were emotionally swept away in a storm of sorrow, emptiness, and anguish. We were threatened with drowning by the waves of sorrow that swept over us. It was as though a piece of our hearts had been severed, leaving an unfathomable gap in its place. We strained to mentally make sense of the event as we pondered why this had occurred.

However, I leaned on my faith and looked to God for consolation and comfort. I discovered a place of refuge where, with the help of prayer and the still, small whispers of my soul, I could pour out my deepest pains and know that they were understood. 

I discovered a strength I had no idea I possessed. The thing that helped me get through the chasms of loss and come out the other side, though scarred, was faith.

But in the middle of my anguish, while everything else seemed to crumble around me, my faith in God became an anchor for me. It turned into the solid base I could rely on to feel secure. Despite the tragedy, I knew God had a higher plan in motion that was beyond my understanding.

I turned to God in prayer and gave him my entire being. Knowing that a kind and compassionate Creator was holding my burdens in his care allowed me to find comfort in the act of giving them up. Talking to God became a lifeline that helped me stay afloat in the choppy waters of loss.

I was able to experience times of peace and clarity through prayer. The Bible was also a crucial component of my healing process since I was able to read about people who had overcome incredible hardships and adversity to become stronger as a result.  They served as a reminder that I was not the only one experiencing anguish and that a greater story was developing that included both life's joys and sorrows.

Finding God's Grace 

I found peace in the embrace of God's grace in my immense loss and overwhelming sadness. Even in those sad moments, I knew: God was with me, keeping me in His loving arms even through the most difficult days.

I discovered a calm that transcended all comprehension when I opened my heart to embrace God's compassion. I came to realize that God's love for me was steadfast and above human knowledge. And I understood that nothing could ever separate me from God's love. Even the most agonizing suffering or unimaginable grief could not break the tie between my Creator and myself. His love went beyond time and space, encompassing every facet of my existence. In the darkest of nights, I clung to the faith that His love would be a light to help me.

I realized that God's grace was more than sufficient for me as each day went by. I could only have persevered and faced each day with a glimmer of hope because of His grace. Even when I felt frail and broken, His grace lifted me up, reassuring me that I was not the only one going through this.

This event taught me that God's grace was more than just the absence of suffering; it was a tremendous force that permeated all elements of my existence. It got me through the darkest hours and resurrected my tired spirit. The grace of God reminded me that there is always a ray of hope, and a promise of divine restoration and rebirth, even in the midst of our anguish.

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Emmanuel Abimbola headshotEmmanuel Abimbola is a creative freelance writer, blogger, and web designer. He is a devout Christian with an uncompromising faith who hails from Ondo State in Nigeria, West Africa. As a lover of kids, Emmanuel runs a small elementary school in Arigidi, Nigeria.