One hurt that is not often discussed is the pain of not living up to your own expectations. Many plan from childhood their ideal career, spouse, family size, and income status. However, when life doesn’t deliver our expectations, we can start to resent the life we’ve created. This hurt not only affects us, but also those we love the most. In many cases, we may find ourselves sharing what “would have been” or “should have.”
In my own life, I would often hear my mother sharing how she planned to be a nurse before learning she was pregnant with me. As I watched her work hard at a job she hated, I felt a sense of pain, knowing that somehow interfered with “her plan.”
When we face the reality of how life looks different than our initial desires, we have to take a moment to self-reflect. Do we trust God’s plans for us? Do we trust that God is in control? Do we trust that if God redirected us, it was for our good?
When we process these questions in an honest way and choose to trust the Lord for our next step, we can journey towards healing. When we stay frustrated about the way our lives have progressed, we live a life of discontentment. This only hurts us more in the long run. When experiencing this pain, ask the Lord to highlight one thing daily that you can be thankful for.
“‘For I know the plans I have for you,’ declares the LORD, ‘plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.’” (Jeremiah 29:11)
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