A Prayer to Encourage Your Spouse When They're Struggling with Their Faith - Your Daily Prayer - August 2

A Prayer to Encourage Your Spouse When They're Struggling with Their Faith
By Kelly Balarie

“Love never fails.” -1 Cor. 13:8 NIV

Imagine walking beside a pool. Something grabs your attention. In the pool, a person is flailing their arms and struggling to gain air. Water splashes up and onto the sidewalk you walk on. You hear the loud gasps of air. Your hands get clammy. You know you have to act fast. Either you jump in and save them, or they’ll drown. Either you throw a life preserver in, or it’s over. You are the only hope for them living…Often, this is how we feel when a spouse is struggling with faith.

We must act fast, or it will be all over for them. We must react quickly, or things will not be okay.  We need to give them the answer or they’re going under. We should have the advice, the teaching, and the godly solution, or it won’t end well…Our fear often makes us manhandle the struggling faith of a spouse, believing everything is about to take a turn for the worst.

Ever been there? I know I have.

• I offer advice, but it falls flat.
• I give wise solutions; they are unwanted.
• I present long lectures on God’s faithfulness that are disregarded.
• I come up with insights on why God may be doing what He is doing; they are not received.
• I jump in to encourage to no end; I get no thanks.
• In the end, what I’ve learned through years of marriage is to never jump in to fix what God is working out with a spouse. It is an error to get in the way of God.

When we see a spouse struggling in faith, it is wise to remember that God is up to something. Backing away doesn’t mean we don’t care; it means we are about to engage in the battle a different way– through prayer. A spouse who prays knows that while advice-giving words may hold a fragment of truth, only God’s words speak volumes. Volumes that change the storylines, people’s hearts, their outlooks, their behaviors and their futures –in ways our best fix-it solutions never could. Will we trust our spouse to God?

One time, I thought I had the right answer for my husband. I knew exactly the move he should make when it came to a business deal. Yet, the Holy Spirit nudged me not to speak and to instead pray. I prayed that he would make the right decision for days, and shortly, my husband turned to me and said, “You know, I had this funny idea…” The idea he shared was exactly what I thought he should do. It is far more powerful to let a person arrive at their own conclusion with God than it is to conclude things for them.

A God-sized answer is far weightier than man’s answer. And it’s worth waiting for…To love someone enough to allow them to walk out their faith, to learn vital lessons along the way, and to still stand by them with faith is an act of patience and kindness. These are key attributes of love (see 1 Cor. 13). “Love never fails.” (1 Cor. 13:8 NIV)

Let’s pray:

Father, I lift up my spouse to you. I ask you to encourage them in all their ways. I ask you to mount them up in fresh strength and to give them faith for believing. May they increasingly trust in you. I ask you to speak truth to set them free from all sin, all doubt, and all fear. Show them your faithfulness. Reveal your ways to them. Lead them to your Word. Refresh and encounter them via your heart of love. Keep them from evil and temptation. Lead them in all their ways. In Jesus’ mighty name. Amen.

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Kelly uplifts believers with boosts of faith; be encouraged weekly by getting Kelly’s blog posts by email. Kelly, a cheerleader of faith, is a blogger, national speaker, and author of Take Every Thought Captive, Rest Now, Battle Ready, and Fear Fighting. Kelly loves seeing the power of prayer in action. She loves seeing the expression on women’s faces when they realize – their God is faithful! Kelly’s work has been featured on The Today Show, CBN’s 700 Club, Relevant and Today’s Christian Woman. 

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