But Ruth replied, “Don’t urge me to leave you or to turn back from you. Where you go I will go, and where you stay I will stay. Your people will be my people and your God my God. Where you die, I will die, and there I will be buried. May the Lord deal with me, be it ever so severely, if even death separates you and me.” Ruth 1:16
A text popped up on my phone just about the time I was prying myself off the coach to head to bed. While I don’t generally cringe at texts, I have had little to no desire or energy to answer lately. After all, it seems we have all gotten a bit jaded and used to the convenience of talking through a screen, making it feel impersonal.
Yet, as I slept-walked into my bedroom scanning my dear friend’s text, my heart sank. Her words glared back at me, and I knew in an instant, it was a cry for help. This friend had just been through a heartbreaking divorce and was now facing a fiery and ferocious custody battle. She wanted so badly for someone to just listen and offer sound advice. She longed for hope and asked for prayer. But, most of all, she needed a friend. Someone to come alongside her and remind her of who she is and better yet, Who God is!
I stewed over that text for a while then decided it was best to call her. Yes, it was late, but I needed to hear her voice. Honestly, I had no idea what I was even going to say. In these situations, there are few words that can ease the pain, but the urge and prompting that was laid so heavily on my heart had me quickly pulling up her number. I’m so grateful I called because upon hearing her shaky voice, I knew she had succumbed to the darkness of depression. I know because I have been there too.
This is why I love the story of Ruth and Naomi. It teaches us the truth behind depression and how, as women, we can extend love and support in such a meaningful way. It’s not about saying the right words or offering sage advice but just being present and willing to sit in the darkness with a dear friend in need.
After Naomi lost her husband and both of her sons, she must have felt lost herself. The darkness of depression consumed her. You can hear it in her painful cries as she re-enters the city of Judah (Ruth 1:19-21). A city in which she left years before with three men she dearly loved, only to return with a “daughter.” Oh, precious, Ruth.
Ruth also knew of great loss and pain. She was raised in the wicked city of Moab, where she was robbed of her innocence and had become an outcast. After losing her husband (Naomi’s son), Ruth was desperate (and likely in a depressed state herself), pleading with Naomi to endure the long trek back to Judah. Basically, she longed to be Naomi’s companion and faithfully stay by her side. She knew that Naomi needed her, but deep down, she also knew she needed Naomi. These women needed each other!
Unfortunately, many women are silently fighting the darkness of depression – alone. Yet, God created us to do this life together (Proverbs 17:17), all the while knowing we will fail on our own.
Sweet sis, if you are struggling with depression and can’t seem to see through the darkness, step out in faith and bravely send that S.O.S. text or call, asking for help. That could be to a close friend, a counselor, or a relative you trust. When we become vulnerable enough to allow others into our pain and dark places, we create space for God to move in those messy parts and grant healing through the servant hearts of another.
As faithful women let’s also try to be in tune with the needs of others and respond with a willing and open heart as the Holy Spirit leads. Whether that means extending a hug with heartfelt advice or sending a sincere smile their way, inwardly offering up a precious prayer. Let’s strive to be a “Ruth” to a “Naomi” in need. Then allow that exchange of love and support to be a sweet balm to your own soul as we usher a reminder that our God is faithful and good, even in our darkest places.
Faithful Father, we so desperately need You. Remind us first and foremost of Your love and that even in our lowest and darkest times You see us and know our pain. Draw close to the woman who is overcome with depression today and bring forth a dear and beloved friend who can touch her heart and remind her who she is and, even more, Who You are!
Grant us the courage to be a Ruth to a Naomi in need while also embracing the times we need help, humbling ourselves and constantly relying on the Holy Spirit to guide us. Give us the will and desire to be women and daughters that exemplify Your love, mercy, and great grace.
In Jesus’ name. Amen.
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Related Resource: Soft Words for Hard Days: A Conversation with Aundi Kolber
Some days feel heavy. Some moments leave us wondering how to keep going. If you’ve ever longed for encouragement amid life’s hardest moments, I have a special episode of The Love Offering for you. This week, I’m joined by therapist and bestselling author Aundi Kolber to discuss her latest book, Take What You Need: Soft Words for Hard Days. This beautiful collection of quotes, scriptures, prayers, and gentle exercises is designed to be a balm for your most tender places—a reminder that you are never alone on your journey to healing.
In our conversation, we explore:
✨ How to hold space for yourself and others in difficult seasons
✨ The power of compassionate words when life feels overwhelming
✨ Practical ways to embrace healing and take one more step forward
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Originally published Tuesday, 13 August 2024.
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