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Transformation Garden is a worldwide Christian ministry dedicated to encouraging and empowering women in their daily walk with Jesus. The devotional thoughts presented in Transformation Garden have their foundation in the Bible – the inspired word of God.

Transformation Garden - June 14, 2011

“And the woman of Tekoah said unto the king, ‘My lord, O king, the iniquity be on me, and on my father’s house; and the king and his throne be guiltless.’ And the king said, ‘Whosoever saith aught unto thee, bring him to me, and he shall not touch thee any more.’”
II Samuel 14: 9, 10
King James Version


“A Woman’s Wisdom” Part 4 “A Wise Woman’s Responsibility”

“Action springs not from thought, but from a readiness for responsibility.”
Dietrich Bonhoeff

Has an event happened in my life for which I took responsibility because I had made a mistake?

“To let oneself be bound by duty from the moment you see it approaching is part of the integrity that alone justifies responsibility.”
Dag Dammarskjöld


“The most important thought I ever had was that of my individual responsibility to God.”
Daniel Webster

As we have uncovered in the past few days, the “wise” woman of Tekoah was a person who was blessed with heavenly discernment. And it was this gift that gave her a voice which spoke with understanding and knowledge. But added to her discerning heart and her words of wisdom, she brought to the king her heart of compassion. I don’t know about you, but already I can clearly see why it was no wonder that the citizens of Tekoah identified this woman as a “wise” individual.

Today, our text in II Samuel 14: 9, 10, provides additional illumination into the life of this exceptional woman.

We find her having a discussion with King David. And what she tells him is quite unusual, especially in the world you and I live in today.

The “wise” woman of Tekoah, told David about two sons, and as she pointed out, one of the boys had murdered his brother. This was a shameful act – killing a sibling. Think back to the book of Genesis where Cain killed his brother Abel. And now, here in II Samuel we read that another brother, Absalom, killed his half-brother Amnon.

So in our story today, the “wise” woman of Tekoah shared with David the fact that, “I recognize what has happened in my family,” In other words, it was as though she were saying to David, “This really isn’t your problem, it’s our family problem.” What an unlikely scenario – taking responsibility for actions, good or bad. I find it totally refreshing when someone takes responsibility for their behavior. Especially when someone is willing to say, “I was wrong. I made a mistake. I am responsible. The consequences are on my shoulders.” We often refer to this contemporary society as “manning-up or womaning-up.” It is what is called “adult behavior.” We don’t try to shift the blame or lay the responsibility on another person. Instead we say, “I own up to my actions.” And this is what the “wise” woman of Tekoah did. She didn’t point the finger of fault but she accepted that what was done was wrong and it had impacted her family in a detrimental way.

But when King David responded, what a marvelous lesson is depicted for you and me. As the “wise” woman of Tekoah informed David that the guilt of this act of murder should be, “on my father’s house, not yours,” King David responded by telling her that if anyone tried to condemn her, they would have to go through him first.

As I read this passage, my mouth dropped open for I was totally shocked. Why? Because here in II Samuel 14: 9-10, we have an incredible representation of God’s plan of salvation through Jesus Christ.

To further explain the point I’m drawing from the story of the “wise” woman of Tekoah, I’d like to compare this example with an incident in the life of Jesus found in John 8: 3-5. A woman was brought to Jesus by the Scribes and Pharisees whom we are told was “ caught in adultery.” The Bible says she was guilty, according to these religious leaders. The fault was hers. She had done wrong and was ready and prepared to die by stoning, for this was what the law of Moses required. But something so wonderful…so breathtakingly generous happened in her moment of extremity. Her “King” stepped in and like King David did for the woman of Tekoah, this King said, “If you want to get to her, you have to go through Me first.” John 8: 6-11 (Amplified Bible) is a lesson book on the forgiving power of the “King” when we come before Him, taking responsibility for the actions in our lives. As John so compassionately lays out this scene, “Then He (Jesus) bent down and went on writing on the ground with His finger. They listened to Him, and then they began going out, conscience-stricken, one-by-one, from the oldest down to the last one of them, till Jesus was left alone, with the woman standing there before Him in the center of the court. When Jesus raised Himself up, He said to her, ‘Woman, where are your accusers? Has no man condemned you?’ She answered, ‘No one, Lord!’ And Jesus said, ‘I do not condemn you either. Go on your way and from now on sin no more.’”

I find it enlightening to look at the correlation between the words of King David in the Hebrew, ‘whosoever saith ought unto thee,” with Jesus’ words in John 8 in the Greek when He tells the woman caught in adultery that, “neither do I condemn thee.” In the Hebrew, “saith aught” means to “speak destructively or try to arrange to destroy.”

You see, when we come to the King, when we accept the fact that we are responsible for our behavior, that we are to blame, that the fault is on us, our King tells us, “Anyone who speaks out against you, anyone who accuses you, anyone who wants to destroy you, will not succeed. They must go through Me first for I am your protector, I am your shield, I am your saviour.” All I can say is, “Thank You,” to my Redeemer and my King. And this is what a “wise” woman does when she comes into the presence of the King who says, “Bring whatever and whoever is harassing you, and I’ll see they bother you no more.” (The Message Bible) Praise God!

“Man of Sorrows! What a name
For the Son of God, who came
Ruined sinners to reclaim!
Hallelujah, what a Saviour!

Philip Paul Bliss


“I pray thee, merciful Jesus,
that as thou hast graciously granted me
to drink down sweetly from the Word
which tells of thee,
so wilt thou kindly grant
that I may come at length to thee,
the fount of all wisdom,
and stand before thy face for ever.”
(731, ended with this prayer)

Your friend,

Dorothy Valcàrcel, Author
When A Woman Meets Jesus
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