Emily Massey

Have you ever noticed how when seasons in the natural sometimes coincide with the shifting of personal experiential seasons in our lives?

It has happened to me countless times. In the Fall, especially. 

The weather is beginning to announce that winter will be here sooner than we expect, and I am oh so thankful that God has given us transitional seasons like Fall and Spring, so that it isn't too much of a jolt of change for our bodies.

I believe the Lord does the same thing for us with spiritual things as well. 

When He announces that a new season is ahead for us, He almost always gives us a period of time for preparation so that we will be...well...prepared for the next new assignment that He has for us. 

For me, little did I know at the time, I was being prepared to go back out into the marketplace to be a light in the world. Although it has only been almost two years of being a stay-at-home mom, I haven't been out in the marketplace since May 2013. For four and a half years, the Lord used a job (that some days I seriously loathed) to change my heart and mindset about assignments from Him.

I was so consumed with the idea that God cared so much more about what I did for Him. Because of the nature of the job (in a small medical office), I constantly questioned why a girl with a theatre and dance degree was making insurance calls and scheduling appointments. As the Lord began to change me from the inside out, I realized that God was much more concerned with WHO I was reaching instead of WHAT I was doing. That assignment taught me so much about God's heart for the lost and hurting and anchored me to a level of boldness and faith in Jesus.

Now having that experience under my belt and more years spent with the Father deepening my history with Him, ridding me of distractions and other idols, and cultivating the fruit of the Spirit, I can say that I eagerly await this new assignment!

I'm looking forward to building new relationships with coworkers and managers as well as opportunities to witness to the customers I will assist on a daily basis. I know that the enemy has his assignments against me in this next season, but as always, I choose to put on the armor of God and stand my ground for the Kingdom. I'm trusting that the work God has done in my heart and soul over the last two years has prepared me to be sent out into the field that is ripe with harvest.

God's timing is always perfect and He doesn't miss a thing when it comes to His Kingdom plans.

How about you?

Are you willing to yield to Him so He can prepare to use you in the days ahead?

Just like a tree must be pruned to bear more fruit, are you willing for God to strip some things away for a little while so you can see more fruit of the Spirit developed in you? 

Are you willing to spend time in the secret place to allow your roots to go down deeper into your relationship with the Father?

I can promise you that if you surrender to God's mighty hand, He will do the work necessary to equip you to what He has called you to do. 

As the seasons change, let it be a reminder to you that God wants to change you because He has big assignments for you to do!

A few months ago, my eyes were opened to the stark reality that I was struggling with an area of my past.

I found myself getting easily offended and constantly upset from discussions with my husband to people that I didn't even know on Facebook.

I would make great assumptions and I began to believe lies of how others were perceiving me.

I finally felt lead to call the spade a spade...

...it was the spirit of rejection.

I began reading Joyce Meyer's book, The Root of Rejection, which I was able to take home a copy while I worked at the ministry, not having any idea how much the topic would affect me later. I then created a group on Facebook called "Rejecting Rejection" to take others through the book as well as offer a safe space for others to share their struggles and stories. A couple months later, I was even asked to discuss this nasty spirit on a Christian radio show with a dear friend of mine as the host.

You would think that after months of searching and meditating on the truth of my acceptance in Christ and uncovering the lies of the enemy's old trickery with the spirit of rejection I wouldn't fall prey any longer.

It continues to be a battle, yet I realize that healing and deliverance from this spirit is a partnership and most definitely, a process. Thankfully, I am not alone in this fight.

One thing for sure is that the Lord fights for me and the Holy Spirit guides me into all truth, illuminating and highlighting lies that I was believing that are rooted in rejection.

Lies that were spoken over me.

Lies that I told myself based on others' actions.

These lies became strongholds in my life created by the spirit of rejection.

The Holy Spirit has been revealing these strongholds and it has been my job to cast them down.

For the weapons of our warfare are not carnal but mighty through God for pulling down strongholds, 5 casting down arguments and every high thing that exalts itself against the knowledge of God, bringing every thought into captivity to the obedience of Christ, 6 and being ready to punish all disobedience when your obedience is fulfilled (2 Corinthians 10:4-6, NKJV).

One way that I have been pulling down these strongholds is acknowledging the lie, repenting for believing the lie, and receiving God's truth and love, not only with my mind, but receiving it fully with my heart.

I had a mighty encounter with God's love a few weeks ago when my husband and I were praying. He whispered in my ear, "Nothing you could ever do would make me stop loving you."

I broke down crying and I know that the lie that I had to hide my bad decisions and sin was broken off of me. My husband's words pierced right through my heart, and I felt God's love envelope me in that moment.

Lie #1

I believed that if I made wrong choices or mistakes that I had to hide them for fear of disappointment from others, including God. The lie I believed was that I would be rejected if my sin or wrong-doing was discovered. Therefore, I chose to either keep silent or tell a lie myself to keep my secret hidden so that I wouldn't be a disappointment.

That lifestyle was keeping me from being fully transparent and honest with my husband and most importantly, with God. I believe this is why 1 John 1 reminds us of the importance of confessing our sin:

If we say that we have no sin, we deceive ourselves, and the truth is not in us. 9 If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness. 10 If we say that we have not sinned, we make Him a liar, and His word is not in us (1 John 1:8-10, NKJV).

Hiding our sin causes us to hide from God, very similarly to Adam and Eve when the first sin entered the world- they felt shameful and shame made them feel rejected. Because of Jesus and the finished work of the Cross, we are forever made righteous in our position as we stand before the Father and are forever forgiven, yet when we sin, it causes our fellowship with God to be hindered, and then we can very easily stray from Him. God's love toward me never changes when I sin, yet I may still experience consequences and correction for my disobedience. Repentance, as a believer, is for our benefit to keep fellowship with our Father open and unhindered.

Although Paul was the one who spoke those words of love and acceptance over me, I received them as if God Himself said them to me.

And it turns out He did say it to me in His Word through the Apostle Paul:

For I am persuaded that neither death nor life, nor angels nor principalities nor powers, nor things present nor things to come,39 nor height nor depth, nor any other created thing, shall be able to separate us from the love of God which is in Christ Jesus our Lord (Romans 8: 38-39, NKJV).

Lie #2

The next lie that the Holy Spirit revealed to me that was keeping me from total freedom from the spirit of rejection was that I was "too much."

There are two instances in my life that are still very vivid in my mind where I was told I was "too much."

You think too much. You talk too much. You are just too much, Emily! I just can't do this anymore.

Both situations were from break-ups from young men who I had given my heart and body to. Because I had tied so much of my self-worth to how others accepted me and loved me, this crushed me completely. This caused me to become a people pleas-er, and I did whatever I needed to do to get people to accept me.

I approached all relationships terrified that I would be told I was "too much." I was always hesitant to fully be myself around others and when I felt like I was being "too much," I would constantly apologize for my "too much"-ness. If I became over-zealous in a new relationship, I just knew they were going to reject me. I struggled with that mindset in my marriage for a long time and God helped me tremendously in that area to let go and be myself around Paul. One of his favorite things about me is that I am passionate.

But friends?

Oh my, that was a whole different story! If it wasn't because of my fear of being "too much," it was my fear that the relationship would only be temporary because so many of my friends (and even some family members) had moved away and our communication became scarce because of the distance. That fear created a hesitancy to even become vulnerable around others enough to let them in to build a relationship with them. If they were going to leave me anyway what was the point of even trying? I thought constantly.

Needless to say, I have always had difficulty with friendships. That difficulty caused a breeding ground for the spirit of rejection to continue to thrive.

Not anymore.

I'm calling out that lie that I am "too much" and casting it down! I refuse to apologize for how God created me. I also refuse to live in fear that all of my friendships will be temporary and trust that God's timing is perfect. He knows who needs to be in my life and for how long. If the relationship is only supposed to be seasonal, then I appreciate the time spent together, memories made, and lessons learned, but I will not become co-dependent upon others to validate me or make me feel accepted or like I belong.

Only Jesus can do that and I should never expect anyone else to fulfill that.

But like I said, healing from rejection is a process. Thankfully, God hasn't given up on me!

He won't give up on you either! If you find yourself struggling with the fear of rejection, do not hesitate to reach out to me. I believe there is power in numbers and that if God has brought us through something, it is now our job to help others with their struggles. Contact me if you would like to be added to my "Rejecting Rejection" Facebook group! You will be in great company!

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I have felt stirred to document what the Lord has been doing in my heart lately, but I have had trouble finding the right words.

He’s drawing me to Himself in a way that I haven’t experienced in quite awhile. In areas in my life where I have seen a lot of barrenness, I am starting to see the budding flowers that I know will eventually become fruit.

The promises of Spring are calling my name. Grace like rain is softening this dry heart of mine.

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We can’t help but respond to God in this way.

For me, often, giving up earthly pleasures is a way I worship God.

I used to think that I HAD TO give up earthly pleasures for God to hear my cries, my prayers better.

Quite contrary, when I freely lay down earthly pleasures that can ultimately distract me from the Lord, I can hear Him better.

Earthly pleasures are not bad or evil, but they can distort our focus and devotion to God if we allow them to have too much room in our heart and mind.

By casting aside those earthly distractions, I am free to experience unhindered communion with my Father, and I am able to still my soul to receive all that He has for me.

For almost two years, as a new mom, I have attempted to still my soul in my own strength. I have tried to recreate my quiet time that I used to have before my son was born.

God never changes but I have changed, and I believe the Lord has taught me how to seek Him in new ways so that I do not grow comfortable or complacent in my prayer life. He has also taught me not to judge my prayer life with earthly measurement= time.

Often we forget that God is not bound by our human standard of time:

But, beloved, do not forget this one thing, that with the Lord one day is as a thousand years, and a thousand years as one day (2 Peter 3:8 NKJV).

So if one day in heaven equals a thousand years here on earth, how much do you think God can accomplish with our five minutes with Him?

I am learning to receive God’s grace in this area of my life because like I said, it doesn’t look the same as it did before I became a mom. I have occasionally beat myself up for this, thinking that I haven’t been “pulling my weight” to see change happen in me.

Friends, God doesn’t need you to spend hours and hours and hours in His Presence for Him to do a deep work in your heart.

Sure, those hours and hours and hours are amazing because I enjoy just spending time with God, but not required for the Lord to change me in major ways.

It is by His Spirit that He will change me, in His time. He calls us to partner with His Spirit, yes, but our effort alone is not what transforms us.

I’m thankful that He is renewing my mind when I center my thoughts on Him and posture myself to receive His truth that is found in His Word.

Just reading through this post is evidence that the Lord is breaking off those legalistic ways and aligning my thoughts to reflect His grace and truth, and that is exactly why Jesus came.

For the law was given by Moses, butgrace and truth came by Jesus Christ (John 1:17 KJV).

Check out more of my blogs on www.emilyrosemassey.com! Also, visit my website for more information on how to stay connected with me, as well as info about my book Yielded in His Hands- now available on Amazon.com!