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what about you? - 10/8/2008 3:29:21 PM
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shell18_86
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today has been a unusually tough day so i got this idea for a topic that might not only help me but others who feel lonely sometimes.
the question is do you ever have days where you feel as though you will never find the person for you? days where you wonder how you will make it through even though you know god will get you through it? if so, share with us what you do to get through those days.
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it is in that moment, when i remember that god loves me and will never leave me, that i am overcome with a sense of peace like i have never felt before and i smile because i know everything will be ok.
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RE: what about you? - 10/8/2008 3:50:16 PM
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Kellgaste
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Ah yes...Lonliness, it can be a friend and an enemy at the same time. It can allow you to reflect on things to improve and it can allow you the time to reflect on what you feel you failed at.
What it also does it allows you to reflect on the Lord Jesus Christ  .
Now, how do I cope with it, I flip the TV on to the Contemporary Christian Channel and play that as background music, then I clean the house <sigh>, Read, bounce on the computer to go over finances, play chess against myself (Not as easy as it sounds), Meditate on the Lord, stop procrastinating on the yard work I have to do  , Pray, Do push-ups/crunches, watch a movie, play Computer........
There is other stuff but maybe that will get you jumpstarted <smile>.
Remember, God is in Control....but you have to let him be, resist the urge to take the reigns out of his hands and let him drive the coach! <smile>.
God Bless my Lady,
-Kell
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RE: what about you? - 10/8/2008 5:14:18 PM
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RubySparkles
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The only way I can escape it is to fully immerse myself in an activity. Like last week I was away from home on a fully loaded training course. Those opportunities are few and far between though.
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Lord, all our success is because of what you have done, so give us peace.
Is 26:12
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RE: what about you? - 10/8/2008 9:14:10 PM
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Grace-N-Mercy
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I do what just about everyone has mentioned so far... I stay busy. I stay up late at night waiting until I can hardly keep my eyes open before I fall asleep. Sometimes I cry, sometimes I call a friend. A lot of times I get on here. I listen to music, go for a ride, eat a container of frosting or ice cream, and sometimes I'll go for a walk. Oh, and I also immerse myself in work.
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RE: what about you? - 10/9/2008 5:48:03 PM
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Prairiehiker
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quote:
the question is do you ever have days where you feel as though you will never find the person for you? days where you wonder how you will make it through even though you know God will get you through it? if so, share with us what you do to get through those days.
Here's how I deal with it. THis has helped me through the past few days in dealing with a difficult loss. I simply acknowledge that I'm not omniscient, and accept that I DON'T KNOW. I don't know what's gonna happen tomorrow. I don't even know what's gonna happen in an hour. Though I can reasonably assume how my day will unfold, I'm learning to leave room for God to do His will in my life. Saying "I don't know" why things are the way they are or how things are going to be tomorrow takes away a lot of the fear of the negative expectations I have and gets me ready to face the day with a lot of hope.
Then,I go about my days. If it means I have to go for a long run to get rid of all my anxiety, then, I do that. If it means I have to read a book, clean the closet, call a friend, etc, then, I do that, not knowing how things will unfold, but knowing that God, with His omniscience already knows and has already taken care of it, and He will reveal to me His plans in His time.
Does that help?
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The Lord is near to those who have a brokern heart.
And saves such as have a contrite spirit.........Psalm 34:18
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RE: what about you? - 10/9/2008 6:20:27 PM
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JustJeannie
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These are all great answers. I think I needed this one! Thanks for the thread Shell!! and (((Shell)))
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RE: what about you? - 10/9/2008 10:24:00 PM
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ShallbeRebuilt
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quote:
ORIGINAL: Prairiehiker
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the question is do you ever have days where you feel as though you will never find the person for you? days where you wonder how you will make it through even though you know God will get you through it? if so, share with us what you do to get through those days.
Here's how I deal with it. THis has helped me through the past few days in dealing with a difficult loss. I simply acknowledge that I'm not omniscient, and accept that I DON'T KNOW. I don't know what's gonna happen tomorrow. I don't even know what's gonna happen in an hour. Though I can reasonably assume how my day will unfold, I'm learning to leave room for God to do His will in my life. Saying "I don't know" why things are the way they are or how things are going to be tomorrow takes away a lot of the fear of the negative expectations I have and gets me ready to face the day with a lot of hope.
Then,I go about my days. If it means I have to go for a long run to get rid of all my anxiety, then, I do that. If it means I have to read a book, clean the closet, call a friend, etc, then, I do that, not knowing how things will unfold, but knowing that God, with His omniscience already knows and has already taken care of it, and He will reveal to me His plans in His time.
Does that help?
This sounds like me. If I keep this perspective, it really helps. Sometimes I can't manage to keep it...and what's cool about that is that God says His grace is sufficient even for that.
Today a couple of interesting things happened to me. I was getting information for GP1 on a wedding venue. The secretary asked if it was me getting married and I said that while I wished God would bless me like that, He hadn't. She said she was in the same situation...her husband had died at age 33 and she was still single...I would guess that would make her single longer than me, just by looking at her.
Anyway, that was discouraging. Then I found out that an acquaintance whose marriage I thought was solid got divorced this summer...apparently the fellow I thought was a nice, solid guy was somehow really a bum, jerk or pervert.
THAT was discouraging, too.
Then I got to thinking about rgod's link that she posted over in the Hope Deferred thread.
Maybe it would be easier (and perhaps even more scriptural!) to quit living in the "ambiguous loss" place, and just go ahead and DECIDE to BE SINGLE for the rest of my life.
It won't keep me from getting married if the opportunity arises. But it might give me some peace and wisdom until that happens. It gives me some "control" over the situation...it's not GOD who is MAKING me be single...it's me CHOOSING to be single.
I don't know. It's some weird mental gymnastics, in a way. But I wonder if the pain level would go down...and scripture says we are to live in the moment, right?
Does that make sense to anybody?
shallbe
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), I just ban anything romantic on tv and go for all action/horror/thriller/whatever-excuses-me-to-hide-behind-a-pillow. 
