Do you feel the need to pray more earnestly for your husband and your marriage but now sure where to start? We often don’t pray as if we believe God will show up and do something big, but prayer works, and God longs for you to be in prayer with Him. He especially desires you pray about your marriage and the one person you are spending the rest of your life with! Here are 20 prayers for your husband:
1. Pray for his relationship with God.
Pray that your husband would put his relationship with God above all other relationships, including yours. Pray he would have a burning desire to know the Lord more closely and surrender all of his life to God. [Luke 10:27; Psalm 84:12; Psalm 105:4].
2. Pray for his spiritual discipline.
Pray for your husband’s devotion to spiritual discipline. Pray for consistent study of Scripture, memorization of the Word, and other spiritual disciplines like prayer, tithing, fasting, etc. Pray he would not be discouraged in his pursuit of God but would run the race of faith with endurance all his life. [Acts 20:24; Psalm 119:6]
3. Pray for his work.
Pray that God would bless the work of his hands, that he would enjoy his work, and see God glorified in all facets of his job. Pray he would not make an idol or identity out of his work. When his work is toilsome, pray for endurance and perspective. [Psalm 90:17; Colossians 3:23]
4. Pray for his friendships.
Pray God would grow his friendships with other men. Pray that God would bring godly men into his life to form close bonds with, men who would lead him closer to God and not away. Pray he would be a good friend to those who need friendship. Pray for selflessness on your part as he spends time with friends, even if that means sometimes sacrificing time with you. [Proverbs 13:20]
5. Pray for his role as a father.
Pray for his role as a father, if you have children. Pray he would actively seek to show your children God’s love and care for them. Pray he would seek out time with his kids and foster strong bonds with them. If you do not have children, pray for your husband’s influence in the lives of younger men in your church and community. [Titus 2:6-8; Psalm 103:13; Psalm 127:3-5]
6. Pray for romance.
Pray for romance. Pray that your husband would know the ways you receive love and actively seek to show you love in those ways. Pray you could do the same for your husband. Pray especially for God to be your Great Romancer, that you would not lean on your husband to fill a place in your heart that only God can fill. [Proverbs 19:14; Ecclesiastes 4:12]
7. Pray for relationships with his family.
Pray for his relationships with his family. Where there is any unresolved conflict, ask God to step in and soften hearts. Where there is any unhealthy dependence or distance, ask the Lord to help create healthy, appropriate boundaries. If there is a history of abuse or any unsettled pain or trauma, ask God for grace and wisdom for getting your spouse the support he needs. [Genesis 2:22-24; Exodus 20:12; Proverbs 11:29]
8. Pray for his weaknesses.
Pray for his weaknesses. Ask the Lord to give your husband clarity to see where he needs to rely more on Him. Pray your husband would not be ashamed of his weaknesses but see them as an opportunity to grow closer to his Heavenly Father. [2 Corinthians 12:10; Isaiah 40:29-31]
9. Pray for his strengths.
Pray for his strengths. Pray your husband would not be prideful about areas of strength, but that he would bless others by stewarding his gifts and talents faithfully. If your husband doesn’t know what his strengths are, pray he would gain clarity. [1 Peter 4:10; Romans 12:4-6]
10. Pray you would be quick to forgive him.
Pray that you could be quick to forgive him when he hurts you. Pray that you would let go of bitterness quickly. Pray he would understand the ways he has hurt you in the past, perhaps repeatedly. Pray he would repent of his actions and learn from his mistakes. Pray for God’s love to fill your heart and give you the grace you need to move forward in a positive direction. [Matthew 6:14-15; Isaiah 43:25]
11. Pray about any areas of disagreement.
Pray for any areas of disagreement you’re facing. Petition God to give you unity and clarity to move forward. Pray you can handle conversations about areas you disagree without petty bickering. Pray a prayer of repentance for any sinful responses you’ve had toward your husband, and then go to your husband and ask for forgiveness. [Ephesians 4:1-3; Proverbs 17:14]
12. Pray about big decisions.
Pray for any big decisions you have coming up. Whether it’s a prospective new job, moving, parenting choices or caretaking responsibilities—any decisions you have in the future, lay them at God’s feet. Ask God to reveal any red flags or reasons you shouldn’t move forward. Pray for peace about your decision together as a couple. [James 1:5; Proverbs 4:6-7]
13. Pray for his leaders.
Pray for those in leadership in his life. Pray for his bosses, his mentors, and his Bible study leaders. Pray for the people he looks up to and admires. Pray they would consistently show him the gospel. If any of these people do not reflect Christ’s love, pray that he would not be tempted to imitate them and would find other godly men to look up to instead. [Proverbs 18:24; Proverbs 12:26]
14. Pray for his physical health.
Pray for his physical health. Pray for any upcoming medical appointments. Pray for any chronic issues—that God would grant healing or continued endurance for the health issues he faces. Pray your husband would let go of any habits that make his health worse. Pray for his doctors – that they would have wisdom and kindness toward your husband during appointments. [Philippians 4:19; Psalm 107:19-21; Psalm 103:2-4]
15. Pray for his emotional health.
Pray for his emotional health. Pray he would recognize the importance of acknowledging his feelings- both good and bad. If there is any emotional pain in his life, pray God would bind up those wounds and that he would find the help he needs to work through them. Pray for sensitivity to his feelings and guidance for talking to him about emotional issues. [Philippians 4:6-7; Psalm 147:3]
16. Pray for any persistent areas of sin.
Pray for any temptations to sin or persistent sin issues he is facing. Pray he would see clearly the evil of sin, the devil’s schemes and his own insufficient means to do battle alone. Pray he would love obeying Jesus more than whatever is tempting him. [Mark 14:38; James 1:13-18; 1 Corinthians 10:13]
17. Pray for his service to the church.
Pray for his role in your church. Pray he would serve faithfully and humbly, pray for ministry opportunities that meet real needs in your church body and also allow him to use his gifts and talents. Pray for his relationships with the people he does ministry with and for- that any disagreements or misunderstandings would be handled with grace and kindness. [1 Samuel 12:24; Romans 12:11; James 4:1-7]
18. Pray for money management.
Pray for money management. Pray God would give you both wisdom for how to handle financial responsibilities. Pray your husband would be thoughtful as you work together to create a budget, pay off bills, and spend for needs. Pray you would be aligned on tithing and stewarding your money for God’s Kingdom. Pray for any areas where you disagree about spending or saving money, that God would give you clarity and agreement. [Matthew 6:21; Malachi 3:10; Romans 13:8; Hebrews 13:5]
19. Pray for his passions.
Pray for his passions – for the things that God has created in him to love and enjoy. Pray for a vision for how to help him pursue the things he loves in such a way that God is glorified. Help him see how his loves are a gift from God, to bless him and bless others. [Ecclesiastes 8:13; 1 Corinthians 10:31]
20. Pray that your marriage would be a faithful witness to Christ.
Pray that you could partner with him to faithfully spread the gospel.Take a moment to thank God for your marriage. Recall and give thanks for the blessings God has given you both. Recall and praise Him for any trials God has faithfully seen you both through. Ask God to help you both see how you might share the gospel with your children, your neighbors, you coworkers, your community, and the greater world. Ask for hearts that long to share the good news of Christ’s death for our sins and the resurrection hope you now have. [Matthew 19:4-6; Acts 20:24;Psalm 105:1]