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need some expert advice.... - 6/5/2008 5:29:22 PM
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BornAgainDan
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I'm having my sister over for dinner this Tuesday. she's an 'exotic dancer' and a stoner. she hangs out with some very immoral people and she has NEVER given her life to the Lord (or even considered it as far as i know). i was saved a few months back and since, my mother and father have both been saved. the three of us AND my wife were baptized this past month. i want to help turn my sisters life around. she has a son who has just turned 5. he means the world to me and I'd like to see her step up and become a good example for him. I've been praying on this and my family has been praying on this as well. if anyone has any ideas how i can get through to her, let me know.
God bless!!
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RE: need some expert advice.... - 6/5/2008 6:26:24 PM
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she's an 'exotic dancer' and a stoner. she hangs out with some very immoral people
My words of wisdom are to avoid the above quoted topics. That's what so many 'good Christians' do---dealing with the lifestyles of others.
Jesus comes in love. He doesn't insist on our cleaning up our acts first. That is what your sister and her son need to know---how very much they are loved---by you, by your family and by Jesus.
Focus on love and win her to Him with love. That's what He does. And it works.  Bless ya!
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RE: need some expert advice.... - 6/5/2008 6:44:47 PM
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mvic
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Hi again,
My advice is: don't bring the subject of Christianity in the conversation, or how you were saved, baptised etc ... etc ... Unless of course she raises the subject, then you can tell her how you feel and how it altered your life - (but don't overdo it).
Also, don't mention or criticise her lifestyle.
Instead - and that's the tricky bit: hand the whole situation to God. Tell Him in your own words how you feel. Thank Him for what He has done for you and ask Him to help her too so she may also get to know Him.
Having done so, don't interfere with His plans. Let Him work at His own pace. Don't rush Him.
One more thing: be a good example of Christianity to your sister and all those who know you.
The last one is very difficult - I'm having problems with it myself everyday !!!
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RE: need some expert advice.... - 6/5/2008 9:15:40 PM
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4IMPersuaded
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ORIGINAL: Liveloved
My words of wisdom are to avoid the above quoted topics. That's what so many 'good Christians' do---dealing with the lifestyles of others.
Jesus comes in love. He doesn't insist on our cleaning up our acts first. That is what your sister and her son need to know---how very much they are loved---by you, by your family and by Jesus.
Focus on love and win her to Him with love. That's what He does. And it works. Bless ya!
Excellent advice, here. Don't preach, just love her and show her how Jesus' love has impacted your life. She doesn't need to hear how bad her choices are, she needs to know that Jesus loves her no matter what-- THAT is the gospel. Too often we are quick to judge and that is where Christianity gets a bad rap. It is God's to judge, our job is to love. That will speak volumes to her. Continue to pray. God is faithful!
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RE: need some expert advice.... - 6/5/2008 9:26:05 PM
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makarizo
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she is joining your for dinner, so when you pray and ask God to bless the meal, let her hear you tell God how much you love her.... say something encouraging in that moment.
seeds are sooooo tiny, but they grow into big things when they land on the good soil.
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RE: need some expert advice.... - 6/6/2008 6:03:35 AM
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BibleL7
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Pray for her continuously that the Lord will work on her heart. Show her love and respect. Tell her that Christ died for her sins and can change her life if she wants. Do this lovingly and not in judgemental way. If she is open to hearing more then tell her more if not at least she has been told that Jesus loved her enough to die for her sins. She probably has an idea of her life being thought of as sin. If she asks you about it then answer her honestly and lovingly. Dont lie or tell half truths and dont get upset if she disagrees with you or cusses you out. If she gets argumentative then be calm and tell her you love her and will pray for her. And since I believe you mentioned that your wife was also recently baptized pray about it for perhaps your wife would be the better one to tell her about Jesus. Women seem to have better report with women. Also let her know the only reason you are telling her about Jesus is that you care for her. Remember this will take a good deal of prayer for you and wife before your sister arrives. The things you dont want to do is lose your cool or get angry with your sister. You dont want to act judgemental however if she does something which is not acceptable in your house then You are the one to let her know it is not acceptable in a nice way not raising your voice.
Most of all realize that one dinner is probably not going to get her to change her mind I have been witnessing to my sister for years yet she still clings to Buddha. So realize you need to plant the seed of the Gospel that Jesus died for her sins and all of our sins. Then continue to pray for her and realize that there may be times that will be rough and strain the relationship. Jesus said He came to bring a sword dividing families and it may cause hurt feelings this is not the end of the world Prayer and witnessing to her is what we are commanded to do. And yes you may be cussed out, told your an idiot or judgmental bigot, or any number of things do not take it personal be calm and if she breaks the rules of your house let her know it is not acceptable. And if it really gets bad and you have to ask her to leave then do it politely and firmly, not in anger.
One other thing you will never change her live around only the Lord working on her will do that so keep in prayer. And as was suggested pray and ask the Lord how you should talk to her.
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1 way to go about it - possibly - 6/6/2008 11:45:32 AM
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1 way to go about it - to possibly portray it to her
If you had some old friends and you made a new friend, would you not want your old friends to also become friends with your new friend so you could all hangout & do things together?
I want you to meet & get to know my new friend, Jesus.
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