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RE: Pet Peeves: What are the worst assumptions made ab... - 12/28/2007 9:54:14 PM
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hispen
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The worst assumption that I've encountered as a 44 never been married single is that people think I'm too old to still want to be married, that I should just "accept" that it must not be God's will and that I should stop believing that God will answer that prayer. This hurts more than all the other assumptions put together, but I see it for what it is, an attack on my faith, and I have learned to rebuke/reject/refute it with confidence in love every time.
well, almost every time ;-)
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RE: Pet Peeves: What are the worst assumptions made ab... - 12/28/2007 9:55:27 PM
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Ugh, that's just awful that people would say something like that!
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RE: Pet Peeves: What are the worst assumptions made ab... - 12/29/2007 8:26:58 PM
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The worst assumption that I've encountered as a 44 never been married single is that people think I'm too old to still want to be married, that I should just "accept" that it must not be God's will and that I should stop believing that God will answer that prayer. This hurts more than all the other assumptions put together, but I see it for what it is, an attack on my faith, and I have learned to rebuke/reject/refute it with confidence in love every time.
well, almost every time ;-)
I'm 30 and about two years ago, I had a small group leader (who is married with two kids) tell me that I was called to be single, and that I should look into going into the mission field. If I was called to be single, why would God tell someone else something that important about my life and not me? I also don't think missions is a default calling for singles. It's a noble thing to go into the mission field, but I also think that it takes a special calling from God. If God wants me to serve in missions, He will tell me directly and not use liaisons.
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RE: Pet Peeves: What are the worst assumptions made ab... - 1/13/2008 3:39:03 PM
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The worst assumption that I've encountered as a 44 never been married single is that people think I'm too old to still want to be married, that I should just "accept" that it must not be God's will and that I should stop believing that God will answer that prayer. This hurts more than all the other assumptions put together, but I see it for what it is, an attack on my faith, and I have learned to rebuke/reject/refute it with confidence in love every time.
well, almost every time ;-)
I'm 30 and about two years ago, I had a small group leader (who is married with two kids) tell me that I was called to be single, and that I should look into going into the mission field. If I was called to be single, why would God tell someone else something that important about my life and not me? I also don't think missions is a default calling for singles. It's a noble thing to go into the mission field, but I also think that it takes a special calling from God. If God wants me to serve in missions, He will tell me directly and not use liaisons.
Today in church our Pastor told us that he just married a couple that was in their 70's. That is awesome! If, God an get a woman pregnant in her 90's (Sarah), then God can do anything! Just b/c you are an older single, does not mean you are suppose to accept your singleness for the rest of your life. People need to keep their opinions to themselves. I believe that those that called to be single, know it already. Those that are not, long for a mate.
 Stay encouraged everyone!
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RE: Pet Peeves: What are the worst assumptions made ab... - 1/13/2008 9:54:42 PM
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I don't appreciate how some of my friends seem to think that because I'm 29 and not sparkling new, that I should lower my standards. I'd rather be alone than do that!!!
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RE: Pet Peeves: What are the worst assumptions made ab... - 1/13/2008 11:10:12 PM
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RE: Pet Peeves: What are the worst assumptions made ab... - 1/14/2008 4:03:38 PM
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ORIGINAL: hispen
The worst assumption that I've encountered as a 44 never been married single is that people think I'm too old to still want to be married, that I should just "accept" that it must not be God's will and that I should stop believing that God will answer that prayer. This hurts more than all the other assumptions put together, but I see it for what it is, an attack on my faith, and I have learned to rebuke/reject/refute it with confidence in love every time.
well, almost every time ;-)
I'm 30 and about two years ago, I had a small group leader (who is married with two kids) tell me that I was called to be single, and that I should look into going into the mission field. If I was called to be single, why would God tell someone else something that important about my life and not me? I also don't think missions is a default calling for singles. It's a noble thing to go into the mission field, but I also think that it takes a special calling from God. If God wants me to serve in missions, He will tell me directly and not use liaisons.
An easy answer to that is that someone cannot determine God's will for someone else.
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RE: Pet Peeves: What are the worst assumptions made ab... - 1/15/2008 10:59:51 PM
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simpleone
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I worst assumption I heard was someone tell me "You must of did something wrong, that's why you are still single" and "Your standards are too high. You should give non-christians a shot."
I don't know why people think you need to lower your standards in order to get someone interested in you. Yes, at times some us may set standards that no one can reach but you are not suppose to just accept anyone anyway w/out some guidelines.
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RE: Pet Peeves: What are the worst assumptions made ab... - 1/17/2008 5:24:25 PM
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Regarding people who think singles automatically make good missionaries - I don't understand the thought process of singles not being good enough to be part of a local congregation, yet somehow they are good enough to be over seas missionaries. Go figure that one.
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RE: Pet Peeves: What are the worst assumptions made ab... - 1/17/2008 5:29:33 PM
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ORIGINAL: A-Tech
Regarding people who think singles automatically make good missionaries - I don't understand the thought process of singles not being good enough to be part of a local congregation, yet somehow they are good enough to be over seas missionaries. Go figure that one.
LOL!
Great post!
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RE: Pet Peeves: What are the worst assumptions made ab... - 1/17/2008 7:22:02 PM
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Regarding people who think singles automatically make good missionaries - I don't understand the thought process of singles not being good enough to be part of a local congregation, yet somehow they are good enough to be over seas missionaries. Go figure that one.
 It can be assumption sure I understand- but depends ones own personal observations and experience.
Because of the growth in Protestantism is happen mostly in the 3rd worlds countries its vibrant as most their populations are young. Where the faith is growing people dont wait or think much about if they have the gift of evangelist or missions, but just that they are supose to tell the GoodNews as they have been told. As many can observe there are many missionaries from many nations in great numbers around the world that are not from 1st world in those nations that used to be strong Christians nations . And sure many go by God's providence and faith because there are not much funds as $$$$ to missions etc going on and many times not well prepered as "good" as those comming from 1st world nations because of $$$ and acess to education . Plus many local congregation are evangelistic and missionary in its mission they "breed" evangelism and missions naturaly.
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But I do understand what you are talking about, A- Tech.
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RE: Pet Peeves: What are the worst assumptions made ab... - 1/17/2008 7:25:55 PM
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I don't appreciate how some of my friends seem to think that because I'm 29 and not sparkling new, that I should lower my standards. I'd rather be alone than do that!!!
I agree.
Me too.
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RE: Pet Peeves: What are the worst assumptions made ab... - 8/10/2008 4:50:36 PM
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A-Tech
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Why does the church find singlehood to be a social disease? There is only one logical explanation: fear.
I don't think it's so much fear as it is ignorance. In society, people tend to think that others that are different than them are bad.
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RE: Pet Peeves: What are the worst assumptions made ab... - 8/22/2008 9:08:51 PM
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That we would be a "perfect match" for your other "too-old-and-still-singl"e friend.
That we want to go on blind dates with every "too-old-and-still-single" friend you know. :)
I WISH!!!!! I would beg my friends to set me up with someone, but they'd all say they didn't know anyone worthy of me. I tried to be thankful for the compliment...
For single women, the assumptions are she's too picky, she's not interested in sex, or she's really goofy from a male perspective.
For single men, they're gay, they're real losers, or mama's boys.
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