RE: Pet Peeves: What are the worst assumptions made about singles?
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RE: Pet Peeves: What are the worst assumptions made ab... - 12/13/2005 6:08:58 PM
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adoration
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I'll second that. You mention a guys name more than once in a week and the first question out of the listening person is "Are you interested in him?"
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RE: Pet Peeves: What are the worst assumptions made ab... - 12/13/2005 6:12:24 PM
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I'll second that. You mention a guys name more than once in a week and the first question out of the listening person is "Are you interested in him?"
So Sarah, who are you interested in? Do you like him? Does he like you? Has he asked you out yet?
Just curious, -Caspian
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RE: Pet Peeves: What are the worst assumptions made ab... - 12/13/2005 6:26:28 PM
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Thankfully, at this time I do not have to deal with this. But, in the past I have heard various things that have already been mentioned, especially the "something must be wrong with him" or "why aren't you looking?" or "are you interested in..."
Oh... I've got a good one!
This afternoon, I was calling some places about apartments to rent. I called this one guy and he said that the only place that he had that would be openning soon was a 3 bedroom house. He then asked if I was married, had any kids, etc. I replied that I was single with no kids. He then says, half into his cellphone, half to someone else, "Hey, Heather (I think), do you need someone to room with you?" Very politely, I declined the "invitation." I think she did so, too. 
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RE: Pet Peeves: What are the worst assumptions made ab... - 12/13/2005 6:37:08 PM
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I hate the assumption that if you're single after 24 or 25, that you're either inclined to the same gender, there's something wrong with you, or you need to get out more.
As for getting out more, maybe, but not to the places "they" say. I work, sing, and go to church. Just not a great place to meet folks.
There's nothing "wrong" with me except for that I'm on the buxsome side, am REALLY conservative, don't dress like a tramp, and am picky...  Okay, so maybe a little is wrong with me...
And...I'm definitely into fellers....that's insulting!!!
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RE: Pet Peeves: What are the worst assumptions made ab... - 12/13/2005 9:57:15 PM
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I come from a family of people that get married at 18 and multiply like rabbits, so at my ripe old age, I'm suspect. I've had more than one person ask me if I was gay. Man, I really hate that. I really don't dress that well, and I belong to the NRA, but I still get it.
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RE: Pet Peeves: What are the worst assumptions made ab... - 12/13/2005 10:33:07 PM
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That just because the other person has attended church once in his/her life, s/he must be an "excellent" catch...
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RE: Pet Peeves: What are the worst assumptions made ab... - 12/13/2005 10:51:59 PM
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Well, I have got to agree entirely with all these post so far. Our collective knowlege of experiencing the same treatment for being single is uncannily similar. It just goes to show that no matter where you live, if your single you will be treated the same as any other single.
One item I will add that I don't think anyone has mentioned is that people often think we are single because we choose to remain single. While this may be true for some, it certainly is not worthy of a quick and absolute assumption of the single population. This really makes my blood boil when my family thinks this. Because I want to get married, but have not.
People will say "if he/she wanted to get married he/she would". This makes me so mad that they have the ignornace to think that we as humans have complete control over our lives and the events that happen within them. Now I believe we should take initiatives toward our goals in life, but the counterbalance is that we are not "all-powerful" over our lifes. We are subject to the world around us with experiences beyond our control. People who truly think we are single because we choose to be are ignorant of how this world that God created works. Unwanted things happen....(you might have seen this on bumper stickers with a slightly different wording :)
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RE: Pet Peeves: What are the worst assumptions made ab... - 12/14/2005 2:54:34 AM
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I come from a family of people that get married at 18 and multiply like rabbits, so at my ripe old age, I'm suspect. I've had more than one person ask me if I was gay. Man, I really hate that. I really don't dress that well, and I belong to the NRA, but I still get it.
That happened to me once, but more often they just whisper it behind my back.
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RE: Pet Peeves: What are the worst assumptions made ab... - 12/14/2005 8:19:07 AM
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all are so true.
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RE: Pet Peeves: What are the worst assumptions made ab... - 12/14/2005 8:43:07 AM
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Along with this is that we know nothing about relationships.
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Oh…Oh I got one,
I hate when married people tell me I need to hold or take care of their children so I can learn how it's done or baby-sit their children (and in one case their pets) so I can practice being a good Daddy. I have feed, clothed and changed more diapers than many fathers I've meet (who often let their wives do all the hard work) and I've never had any children of my own. I guess it would make more sense if I was still a teen or in my early 20's but I think it’s just rude to assume that I know "nothing" about children at all. Am I wrong?
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RE: Pet Peeves: What are the worst assumptions made ab... - 12/14/2005 10:05:45 AM
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I hate the assumption that if you're single after 24 or 25, that you're either inclined to the same gender, there's something wrong with you, or you need to get out more.
As for getting out more, maybe, but not to the places "they" say. I work, sing, and go to church. Just not a great place to meet folks.
There's nothing "wrong" with me except for that I'm on the buxsome side, am REALLY conservative, don't dress like a tramp, and am picky... Okay, so maybe a little is wrong with me...
And...I'm definitely into fellers....that's insulting!!!
Sometimes I used to list all the things I was involved in when people would want to know why I wasn't seeing anyone. If I was lucky, their eyes would glaze over and they'd leave me alone. If I wasn't, they'd make some comment about how I was too busy and I should drop some of my activities so I'd have time to look for a man.
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RE: Pet Peeves: What are the worst assumptions made ab... - 12/14/2005 11:15:18 AM
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That you don't become a grown-up, worthy of respect until you're married-- they tell their children to call you Miss Firstname, but if you're married, you're called Mrs. Lastname. No, thank you. I'd prefer your children to call me Miss Lastname. I am 32, FCOL, not their teenaged babysitter!
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RE: Pet Peeves: What are the worst assumptions made ab... - 12/14/2005 11:27:38 AM
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sunshinesoprano
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That you don't become a grown-up, worthy of respect until you're married-- they tell their children to call you Miss Firstname, but if you're married, you're called Mrs. Lastname. No, thank you. I'd prefer your children to call me Miss Lastname. I am 32, FCOL, not their teenaged babysitter!
No Kidding! That's so annoying.
Something else that I've noticed is that you become a major THREAT! If you're single and friendly, people are always suspicious of your interactions with other people, married, engaged, dating, single, whatever. You're like public enemy # 1 because you're not attached to someone else.
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RE: Pet Peeves: What are the worst assumptions made ab... - 12/14/2005 10:10:39 PM
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HighPlainsDrifter
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ORIGINAL: p31woman
That you don't become a grown-up, worthy of respect until you're married-- they tell their children to call you Miss Firstname, but if you're married, you're called Mrs. Lastname. No, thank you. I'd prefer your children to call me Miss Lastname. I am 32, FCOL, not their teenaged babysitter!
No Kidding! That's so annoying.
Something else that I've noticed is that you become a major THREAT! If you're single and friendly, people are always suspicious of your interactions with other people, married, engaged, dating, single, whatever. You're like public enemy # 1 because you're not attached to someone else.
Along those lines, over the years, I've acquired a reputation among all my friends wives as an overwhelmingly "nice guy" and someone who is very straight-laced. Thus, my friends can always go places with me, without their wives thinking they may be getting into trouble. So, I haven't been the threat much.
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RE: Pet Peeves: What are the worst assumptions made ab... - 12/14/2005 10:55:35 PM
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That any man you come to church with MUST be your new love interest
AMEN! Particularly embarassing if the person you come to church with is someone YOU'RE interested in, but you have good reason to suspect that they're not interested in YOU.
The money assumption got under my skin today when someone said a single person with a job might be OK with paying a certain amount of money but a married person with kids might not. SCUSE me?? Singles are poor too!
Re: The Mrs. Lastname . . . I have a married co-worker who bristles at this. She says that according to ettiquitte, she is Mrs. Hubbysfirstname Theirlastname and not Mrs. Herfirstname Theirlastname. She has a first name that is usually associated with a man and feels when they call her Mrs. Herfirstname Theirlastname they're saying she's married to herself!
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RE: Pet Peeves: What are the worst assumptions made ab... - 12/15/2005 11:12:59 AM
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that single women "NEED" a man to take care of them. geesh!! could rant and rave all day about that one but will refrain from doing so. (I think) 
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RE: Pet Peeves: What are the worst assumptions made ab... - 12/15/2005 12:50:17 PM
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My favorite is when I inquire about doing something BIG all the women look at eachother and nod and tell me I need to be married first to have a husband to protect me before I do that, like I'm dangerous to myself or something hahaha.
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RE: Pet Peeves: What are the worst assumptions made ab... - 12/15/2005 1:42:37 PM
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Someone once said about me that [because I am still single] I'll probably have 20 cats someday. Little did they know that I'm more of a dog person.
LOL! I get that 20 cats comment too. And I'm also a dog person plus I'm allergic to cats. When some gives me the 20 cats line, I just tell them "I'm highly allergic to cats. Otherwise, I'd have thirty".
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RE: Pet Peeves: What are the worst assumptions made ab... - 12/15/2005 1:48:55 PM
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Well, I sometimes try to make it a joke when someone says something stupid to me about my being single.
For example.....at my cousin's wedding a few years ago, since I am the only grandchild on my mom's side who is not yet married, everyone kept telling me how I'm next. So, when an old lady at the reception said that to me; I in my most serious look and voice said back to her::::
"Look, I appreciate your concern in my singleness. But, I don't tell you that you are next when we are at a funeral, so please don't tell me I'm next at a wedding."
She, nor any of my family or church people, have said that to me at a wedding again.
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