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RE: Maggie's Musings VI - 4/16/2005 11:10:57 PM
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magdaleine
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Thanks, Diane. It's not been the greatest weekend. Dh and I had a big fight. Well, I don't know that "fight" is the right word. It started over a couch that's for sale but really it was about my continued sense that I don't matter to him. He doesn't listen. He shuts me down. If I can't discuss the pros and cons of a couch for sale how can I feel safe enough to say anything else? What's the point of talking if my words don't matter and if my words don't matter, do I? And if he sees me in pain but does nothing to reach out but sits in rigid, stony silence, do I really matter?
When we talked out all the issues, he could repeat back to me what I said so it seems like he understands it in his head but there was no connecting of hearts. Rather, it's like he wants to relate only in relation to a checklist. So long as he follows all the "rules", things are fine. But relationships and especially marriages aren't built on rules, they are built on the connecting of two hearts.
He doesn't get it. He seems to be completely clued out. So what do I do? Do I fight to get his heart or do I live the rest of my married life without mattering to him in the ways that matter to me? Does it matter if I matter to him?
I know I matter to God. He's been making that joyously obvious. Is that all that matters? Why do I hurt so much if it is?
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RE: Maggie's Musings VI - 4/16/2005 11:18:29 PM
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RE: Maggie's Musings VI - 4/17/2005 12:11:50 AM
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Thank you, Dee Dee. I love that hugging smilie. It's so good!
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RE: Maggie's Musings VI - 4/17/2005 12:44:50 AM
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Do I fight to get his heart or do I live the rest of my married life without mattering to him in the ways that matter to me?
That question ignores the promise God gave me about my marriage. Somehow that promise factors into all this. Maybe I have to be WILLING to continue with out dh's heart and trust God to do what he said he would do and realize that when he does it might not look like I expect it to.
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RE: Maggie's Musings VI - 4/17/2005 1:56:25 AM
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Maybe I have to be WILLING to continue without dh's heart and trust God to do what he said he would do and realize that when he does, it might not look like I expect it to.
I believe you have dh's heart Maggie, or should I say it this way; that you are in his heart, it's just that he still can't show you, it seems, in a way that makes you feel like you matter on the deeper level. But in your thought up there about it might not look like I expect it to, I do believe that God knowing your heart and your need, that he would reveal in a way that you may be fullfilled. Praying for that anyway. (((Maggie)))
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RE: Maggie's Musings VI - 4/18/2005 12:06:01 AM
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Hello Maggie.
You probably don't know or remember me from the old forums at CW.
I just started there about a month or two before the new forum came along.
I just wanted to tell you how blessed I am to hear your testamony.
It's always a blessing for a new christain to hear something like that. A blessing for anybody, for that matter.
So, thank you Maggie.
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RE: Maggie's Musings VI - 4/18/2005 1:21:45 AM
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Hi Sharon.
How are you?
Hey what ever happened to " flat awed " anyway. I thought that was awsome!
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RE: Maggie's Musings VI - 4/18/2005 1:39:55 AM
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Cool!
I speak from the heart, and my heart is with God, like so many others here.
Thank you. I would like to get to know all of you better. You guys are a blessing in my life.
I really must get to bed though, cause i've been up for over 18 hours now trying to get ready to go on night shift for the summer. 3:00pm to 1:00am.
So, good night Sharon and God bless you.
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RE: Maggie's Musings VI - 4/18/2005 2:49:17 AM
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Maggie, I haven't had a chance to read through your whole thread yet, but I just wanted to say hi and that I'm still thinking of you.
I'm sorry that you haven't had the best weekend. I hope that things improve really soon.
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RE: Maggie's Musings VI - 4/18/2005 12:28:19 PM
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Hi Brian! I remember you! Welcome to Maggie's Musings! Thank you for stopping by and telling me you've been blessed. I really appreciate that. You write, "It's always a blessing for a new christain to hear something like that." Are you a new Christian?
Sharon, you're right about the mix and match and actually I'm already seeing some things that might work. Here's a picture of what we bought: http://www.mts.net/~theborg/sofa1.jpg
Hi Trish!
I've been busy working on my website and now have a blog added (thanks to Kimberly and my ds1 for their help). Now I have to work on appearance to kind of bring everything together and looking nice, but it's a start.
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RE: Maggie's Musings VI - 4/18/2005 12:31:56 PM
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Hello Maggie.
Yes, I'm only about 4 months old and God a VERY strong in my life.
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RE: Maggie's Musings VI - 4/18/2005 12:50:00 PM
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Welcome to the family of God, Brian! I'm going to have to go look and see if the old forums are still up so I can find your testimony.
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RE: Maggie's Musings VI - 4/18/2005 12:54:20 PM
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Awwww, that would be wonderful.
If you find it let me know, will ya?
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RE: Maggie's Musings VI - 4/18/2005 1:03:37 PM
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Awwww, that would be wonderful.
If you find it let me know, will ya?
I thought he was gonna say "If you find me let me know." 
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RE: Maggie's Musings VI - 4/18/2005 1:35:34 PM
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Just thought I'd pop in and say Hi Maggs :) I can't wait for summer break and more time to catch up with everyone! Oh, and the couches sound beautiful...my mom's livingroom is in greens and roses and it's gorgeous.
Mom should be getting her biopsy report back tomorrow...I'm more worried about it than she is, I think 
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RE: Maggie's Musings VI - 4/18/2005 1:43:30 PM
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Brian, I found it and read the first 16 posts (what shows up in one window according to my settings there) of your blog. I'll read more later. I'm really enjoying it.
Ben, you're goofy.
Hi Karlie! I hope all will be well with your mom. I like green and rose tones--one reason I was willing to buy the couch etc. It's what I have in my kitchen.
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RE: Maggie's Musings VI - 4/18/2005 1:58:54 PM
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To find me, just feed me clicks every now and then!
And no, Ben, NOT chicks, clicks! 
I don't eat little chickens.
Why not? They taste just like rabbit![img]http://www.anchoredbygrace.com/smileys/mgyes.gif[/img]
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