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RE: A little dab will do ya....and other first date tips - 8/12/2008 1:35:21 PM
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offtheisland
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oh yeah, one of the last guys I dated thought he was going to land me in bed and when I clearly stated that I am a christian, he started to look at other women and ignore me.
Stick to your standards!
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RE: A little dab will do ya....and other first date tips - 8/12/2008 4:38:21 PM
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I wouldn't normally use cologne but I have been told by a female friend that they enjoy it. So before a date I spray one spray on my wrist. I then rub my wrists together and rub some off of my wrist onto my neck (still using that one spray). Those areas are where there is a lot of blood flow so the warmth causes the cologne to evaporate, supposedly. I did the same type of spraying when I was in a serious relationships and got no complaints.
In highschool I saw a movie where the girl seemed to not like the whole chivalry thing and the first girl I went on a date with seemed real uncomfotable with me opening doors so I first dated thinking chivalry was in the past. That was over a decade ago and I ended up learning differently.
Here are some of my suggestions:
Don't lie about your looks when it is a blind date.
Don't talk about yourself the entire time.
Now I have a question:
If I go on a date with a girl, how long should I stay if I realize we just aren't good together? I have been on blind dates where I knew after the first minute. I think I hid it from her but I wondered if I should have stayed for so long. I also told her I would call but I knew I probably wouldn't. Finally, I just learned to say, "It was nice meeting you. Have a nice night." without promising to call or anything. I once asked a girl who I dated years ago what she thought I should improve on. She told me that if I don't like the girl then I should move on. It so happens that when I dated her I continued to date her even after I just didn't have big feelings for her. Too many times I would end up not liking ther girl but I felt bad about dumping her or I felt I was being too picky. So on a first date, any suggestions for leaving when you know they just are not what you are looking for?
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RE: A little dab will do ya....and other first date tips - 8/12/2008 4:55:39 PM
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If you go to eat, make sure you carry gum or mints so as not to be offensive.
Edited b/c I misspelled something.
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RE: A little dab will do ya....and other first date tips - 8/12/2008 5:01:19 PM
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Always keep a blanket in the trunk of the car. You never know when you may spontaneously want to go to the park. You can spread the blankie out and talk for hours. (I find this very romantic!)
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RE: A little dab will do ya....and other first date tips - 8/12/2008 5:36:11 PM
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But gentlemen, DO NOT mention the blanket and the park before she does. No matter how nicely and innocently you may suggest it, it always sounds like "Hey baby, Want to go get on the blanket and make out?"
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RE: A little dab will do ya....and other first date tips - 8/12/2008 5:42:17 PM
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I don't know about that, John. I have always thought a really nice date would involve stargazing on a blanket. It might be unwise, though, lol. Unless I brought my 12 yo...he's a stickler for physical boundaries.
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RE: A little dab will do ya....and other first date tips - 8/12/2008 5:51:48 PM
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Always allow the guy to open a door for you. If he fails to take the intiative, simply stand at the door and wait. Then thank him for being so kind as to open the door for you. If he doesn't pick up on the clue, move on to guy #2.
Would you have her call my gramma for me? I once had to give her a talking to because she wouldn't let a man open a door for us. Somehow in the last 80 years she forgot that gentleman like to do that and feel appreciated? I dunno.
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RE: A little dab will do ya....and other first date tips - 8/12/2008 9:53:35 PM
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I don't know about that, John. I have always thought a really nice date would involve stargazing on a blanket. It might be unwise, though, lol. Unless I brought my 12 yo...he's a stickler for physical boundaries.
If previously arranged it could work (I'd even bring my telescope on such a date) but just out of the blue I'd think it was near sleazy. And I'm a guy even. (It's almost like having prophylactics in the glove box)
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RE: A little dab will do ya....and other first date tips - 8/12/2008 10:44:14 PM
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No matter how nicely and innocently you may suggest it, it always sounds like "Hey baby, Want to go get on the blanket and make out?"
that is so not true..........not all men only think physically.
I have gone to the park, feed the ducks and sat on a blanket, watching the stars and talking........and not once did either of us think about making out.
First date advice..........go with the flow and be flexible.
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RE: A little dab will do ya....and other first date tips - 8/12/2008 10:49:05 PM
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No matter how nicely and innocently you may suggest it, it always sounds like "Hey baby, Want to go get on the blanket and make out?"
that is so not true..........not all men only think physically.
I have gone to the park, feed the ducks and sat on a blanket, watching the stars and talking........and not once did either of us think about making out.
First date advice..........go with the flow and be flexible.
I've never been flexible, and I don't really go for the contortionist type... 
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RE: A little dab will do ya....and other first date tips - 8/12/2008 11:21:03 PM
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No matter how nicely and innocently you may suggest it, it always sounds like "Hey baby, Want to go get on the blanket and make out?"
that is so not true..........not all men only think physically.
I have gone to the park, feed the ducks and sat on a blanket, watching the stars and talking........and not once did either of us think about making out.
But was it a date or was it just two friends hanging out? Especially on a first date?
Also I wasn't concerned with what the men were thinking. I was looking at it from how I'd guess the women would think, especially in this day and age. If I was a woman and some guy showed up for our first date with a blanket I'd be somewhat concerned. (For that matter if a girl showed up for my first date with a blanket I'd be concerned!)
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First date advice..........go with the flow and be flexible.
I do agree with this though
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RE: A little dab will do ya....and other first date tips - 8/12/2008 11:27:04 PM
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If previously arranged it could work (I'd even bring my telescope on such a date) but just out of the blue I'd think it was near sleazy. And I'm a guy even. (It's almost like having prophylactics in the glove box)
I can see where you are coming from...and that latter bit, that is just unacceptable. Even if there were a good reason, it isn't good for them to be left in the glove box. 
That's just it. There is no good reason while dating for things to be in the glove box at all. It's just wrong.
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RE: A little dab will do ya....and other first date tips - 8/12/2008 11:32:26 PM
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Oh, I definitely agree. I was just thinking that if one's brother borrowed the car or something, there might be an innocent (to the date in question) explanation.
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RE: A little dab will do ya....and other first date tips - 8/13/2008 9:13:06 AM
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So on a first date, any suggestions for leaving when you know they just are not what you are looking for?
start doing meet & greets where you are meeting for coffee or ice cream instead of full blown dates. you can always extend m&g into dinner, minigolf, etc
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RE: A little dab will do ya....and other first date tips - 8/13/2008 9:33:07 AM
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Now I have a question:
If I go on a date with a girl, how long should I stay if I realize we just aren't good together? I have been on blind dates where I knew after the first minute. I think it depends on what the date is. If it is just meeting for coffee, have a cup or two and then thank her and say you need to leave. If you went out to dinner, finish dinner, take her home and say thankyou for having dinner with me (I don't mean "gulp and run", spend a half hour or so talking after dinner- it's not a huge time commitment, ya know?) . If you went to a park or an open ended type date, spend an hour or so, maybe 2, and then take her home. An hour or two of your life isn't ever wasted getting to know someone, even if it won't end up in a romantic realtionship.
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I also told her I would call but I knew I probably wouldn't. Finally, I just learned to say, "It was nice meeting you. Have a nice night." without promising to call or anything. Do not say you'll call unless you definitely plan to. What you "learned" to say is perfect, much better than leading someone to think you will call when you won't.
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So on a first date, any suggestions for leaving when you know they just are not what you are looking for?
Finish the date, again on what type of date it was plays into how you "finish" it, thank her for having spent time with you and say goodnight.
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RE: A little dab will do ya....and other first date tips - 8/13/2008 12:34:19 PM
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A picnic date on the beach waiting for the sunset would be very nice!
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RE: A little dab will do ya....and other first date tips - 8/13/2008 12:36:01 PM
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. An hour or two of your life isn't ever wasted getting to know someone, even if it won't end up in a romantic realtionship.
I disagree. I had a couple dates a year and a half or so ago with this one woman. We spent some time talking , ate some good food, went a saw a movie. The dates weren't too bad (until her voice really got on my nerves) but she was so not a fit that it was an entire waste of time. I remember nothing of her except that her voice and mannerisms annoyed me. And she had kind of curly brown hair.
Total waste of time that could have been better spent elsewhere. But I wouldn't have known that unless I did the date. (first date was a blind date)
Once you're on the date manners demand that you be gracious until the very end of it. Whether you plan on asking her out again or not, you owe her your attention and time for that evening.
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