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Would you date someone who's dating others?
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(last vote on : 8/18/2008 2:07:19 AM)
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RE: Would you date someone who's dating others? - 7/26/2008 9:41:32 AM
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LivingParadox
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I think the very definition of "casual dating" should imply there isn't any sexual activity and the term "dating exclusively" or "courting" implies limited affection -- until marriage.
While I contend that when there isn't an established relationship it shouldn't be a big deal to be playfully spend time with others of the opposite gender, but , in general, at least speaking from my female point of view -- usually having too many suitors can lend to TOO much drama. At least for me, I prefer to only have one guy in my life.
BTW...from my experience, guys are MUCH more likely to be the ones "playing the field" but are usually the ones that complain if they have competition.
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RE: Would you date someone who's dating others? - 7/26/2008 12:20:01 PM
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Chrystal-J-007
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ORIGINAL: LivingParadox
I think the very definition of "casual dating" should imply there isn't any sexual activity and the term "dating exclusively" or "courting" implies limited affection -- until marriage.
While I contend that when there isn't an established relationship it shouldn't be a big deal to be playfully spend time with others of the opposite gender, but , in general, at least speaking from my female point of view -- usually having too many suitors can lend to TOO much drama. At least for me, I prefer to only have one guy in my life.
BTW...from my experience, guys are MUCH more likely to be the ones "playing the field" but are usually the ones that complain if they have competition.
I have to say, I agree with you on many points. Back in my pre-marriage dating days, I can remember LOTS of drama surrounding dating. And that is something I'm not looking forward to. I was hoping that since I'm older that there won't be so much of that...we'll see.
And my experience is the same with men feeling they can date and run around--but, heaven forbid a woman they are seeing should do the same.
I'm looking forward to dating and dreading it at the same time. 
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RE: Would you date someone who's dating others? - 7/26/2008 10:27:05 PM
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Child4Jesus
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As long as there is no sexual activity going on (either side) I don't see a problem with it. Its a way to get to meet others and go on casual dates. Why should a person (male or female) be restricted to one person? Once you've dated a person and you think this is the one, then you have a serious talk.
But until that time, its healthier (no sex involved) to date more then one. Otherwise you won't know what you are looking for. The hard part for most people is the 'no sexual activity" during these casual dates!
You can definitely know what you are looking for without dating a bunch of people. This is a straight up worldly way of thinking. I can't know what I want unless I'm dating several girls? Who says?
< Message edited by Child4Jesus -- 7/26/2008 10:38:44 PM >
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RE: Would you date someone who's dating others? - 7/27/2008 3:34:28 PM
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buckifn
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It looks horrible in terms of commitment on someone who dates three to four people a week.
I don't see committment and dating as being related. Committed relationship would be engagement and marriage for me. There was never anything horrible about that when I was part of that crowd, but maybe times have changed.
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RE: Would you date someone who's dating others? - 7/27/2008 11:14:38 PM
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Chrystal-J-007
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It looks horrible in terms of commitment on someone who dates three to four people a week.
I don't see committment and dating as being related. Committed relationship would be engagement and marriage for me. There was never anything horrible about that when I was part of that crowd, but maybe times have changed.
I would not consider myself committed either if I was dating 2 or 3 people at once. I think stage one would be meeting someone, then (if things were going good) stage two, which would be a committment. But, I wouldn't expect committment right out the door. Although, I respect that some here perfer courting and would expect committment from the beginning.
Thanks for posting.
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RE: Would you date someone who's dating others? - 7/28/2008 11:51:32 PM
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LaVidaBonita
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I don't think that there is anything wrong with it as long as all of the players are in agreement. If he were honest with me and let me know that he was seeing other people, then I could make the choice not to get too emotionally invested in him. I also believe that this only works if/when one of the players begins to feel more, they are willing to initiate a DTR (define the relationship) chat
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