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AdrianaS -> RE: Ultimate Mama's Boys (5/12/2008 7:19:07 PM)
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ORIGINAL: woodwind228
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If you want a good husband.. look for the man that is a good son.
The way he treats his mom is a solid indicator of how he will ultimately treat you.
But something entirely different when they're still living with mama without paying rent, doing chores, etc. like the video depicted. How can they learn to be responsible in that situation? How could they be prepared to get married and be a proper husband if they're still mooching off the parents and aren't required to "pay their dues" so to speak.
I think that to forget in understanding we are dealing, by the exemple in the video, with a specific culture , not a behaviour we may had experience in a totaly different culture, from the exemple in the video.
We are dealing with a culture, where the father of a home get pleasure and honor to feed the ones who are living under their roofs or are guest whom they share the foods and its commom to invite people to their homes to eat and etcs. Plain generosity that naturaly goes on between people who love one another in a family structure. I dont think those sucessful males with jobs etc are taking advantage of their elderly parents or the parents in those videos feel been taken advantage off. They clearly say over and over is cultural ways and the opposite would be shameful.
Those son may be contributing with their shares of $ if required, needed and etc..dont know the specifics of those particular families - as if Mama is a widow for exemple, I very much doubt their kids taking advantage of her pension and not providing for her and etcs its against the strong family values to not help parents, siblings in need. If there are some whom may take advantage of the arranjament of being a mama's boy, of course it may happen but still to honor and love ones mother/father/elderly is very strong drive in many cultures. As there are Mamas who are not into being a Mama like the video, as I think "just" 37% of Italians males between 25 and 35 are living with their parents etc
Plus many of those women generation, in the clips, are at least in their 60's (most Mamas boys are in their 25's to 35's, I think..), they do those thing because they enjoy to take care of their families, is a full time job as they are not slaves being treated as domestic maids some may see as they are doing domestic work. Its commom in many cultures women get up early daily, to go to market to buy fresh bread, fresh foods etc the way of life is just different around the world and its regions. US is not the natural way of living to the majority of the population of the world. In many places things are doing from scratch as people dont use the services of the dry cleaners and choose (or have to $$$) to do things "old fashioned".
Many Mamas are very much a strong influence and personality in their families life and some may choose use manipulation ways behind the scenes, to get Mamas ways too. The Italian culture is expressive by nature and if some one is not happy with arranjaments they would be dramaticaly complaining one way or another, as some may do, of course. Still things done to the family the way they do is what its natural, in their cultures as those in the video said so.
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