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Baby/Toddler Chat (take 3)
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| I love shirts with saying on them!!! |
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| I don't mind shirts with sayings on them |
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| It depends on the saying on the shirt whether I like it or not |
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| I generally don't like or dislike shirts with sayings |
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| I dislike shirts with sayings of any kind on them |
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| I refuse to buy them for my kids, but will accept them as gifts |
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| We don't allow them to be worn even if they were given it by someone |
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| My favorite saying on a shirt is...______ |
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(last vote on : 7/18/2008 2:29:32 PM)
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RE: Baby Chat (take 3) - 7/8/2008 6:44:31 PM
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manda59
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Both... if I'm with him I feel like I'm a bad mom or something if I can't get him to stop crying. I know in my head that isn't true, but it's hard not to feel that way.
If I leave him with someone else I worry that they'll not be able to calm him and might get frustrated with him or something.
I felt the same re the second one and only left my ds with someone once, and that was my mum, for an hour while I went to the dentist - and that was the first and the last time I left him with her. I left him in creche at church once - and that was the first and last time too, as they didn't come and get me when he was upset.
Even with my dd, who was a calm and placid baby, I didn't leave her with anyone until she was about 9 months old (and that was at the creche at the gym, just for an hour or so).
Really, the only way you're going to be able to do more is if you bite the bullet and work on neglecting those irrational feelings you mentioned in your first paragraph. What other people think doesn't actually matter, doesn't and cannot change anything about who you are. I know it is hard, but the more you get out, the more practice you have, the easier it will get. I took hold of the phrase from the Bible "setting your face like flint" and took it into this situation with my ds. I learned to just "fade out" any possible negative looks from anyone else, learned to master the insecurity, rather than letting it master me. It will also mean you develop a real empathy for mums in your situation, so that when Caden is past this phase, you will be able to go up to mums with grizzly babies and be able to encourage them, since you've "been there". I do that now in the supermarket - if there is a mum whose baby is crying, I tell the mum that she's doing a great job and not to worry. Every time I've done it, it's been appreciated. Especially as my ds was a grizzly, unsettled baby, a stroppy toddler, but a calm and placid little boy, older lad and teen.
How many times a week do you get out of the house, and for how long?
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RE: Baby Chat (take 3) - 7/8/2008 7:03:53 PM
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lilyofthefield
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Thanks Sarah, Nicole and Manda.  I feel better not being the only one.
Nicole, we don't have any family here, but it won't be that long before I can take him in the pool with me for short bits.
Manda, we go for a walk almost every morning. He loves that! Other than that, I've only gone out for necessary errands (doctor appts, post office, etc.) I am going to try to visit the nursing home with him this week though.
BTW, thanks for being the kind of person who would encourage struggling moms - I hope to be able to do the same for someone else!
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RE: Baby Chat (take 3) - 7/8/2008 8:57:53 PM
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Georgia-Peach
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My hubby and I went to church for the first time when Hunter was 2 weeks old. I didn't go out by myself until Hunter was probably 4 weeks old. As long as hubby was with me I was fine, but I felt comfortable to do it alone around 4 weeks. They were short trips nothing long. I would gradually make the trips longer once I was more comfortable and knew his schedule better. It definitely takes time.
My fear that kept me home more than the baby was whether or not I would be able to unfold and fold the stroller. Seriously I had the hardest time with that dumb stroller, I am good with it now though...lol!
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RE: Baby Chat (take 3) - 7/8/2008 10:11:28 PM
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Sideways
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Re: strollers. That's why I loved the Snap 'n Go stroller. It's nothing but a lightweight frame that you snap the car seat into. I was almost sad when Nathan moved out of his infant car seat at 6 months (he was over 20lbs and 29" tall). Seriously, that was the best thing we got from our baby shower.
Now, with two kids under two, I have to decide whether to purchase a double stroller (which I'm sure is monstrous) or expect Nathan to walk and use the Snap 'n Go for the baby. I think I'm gonna go with the double stroller, 'cause I really can't expect a 21 month old to walk any sort of real distance.
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RE: Baby Chat (take 3) - 7/8/2008 10:55:19 PM
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Karaboo2
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ORIGINAL: Sideways
Now, with two kids under two, I have to decide whether to purchase a double stroller (which I'm sure is monstrous) or expect Nathan to walk and use the Snap 'n Go for the baby. I think I'm gonna go with the double stroller, 'cause I really can't expect a 21 month old to walk any sort of real distance.
Depends on which double stroller you get. I got a really nice one at Walmart, and it will hold any brand of infant seat. (I'll have to check which brand of stroller, as this preggy brain forgets) ... but it retails for $90, which I certainly didn't object to paying!!! (The same one here goes for around $250!!!)
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RE: Baby Chat (take 3) - 7/8/2008 11:59:33 PM
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Mrs.Wifey
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What about one of the Sit n Stand or Sit n Stroll ones, Ruth? Or you could wear the new baby and push Nathan in the stroller... That's what I was planning on doing but by the time we start on #2 Gabby should be plenty old enough to walk.
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RE: Baby Chat (take 3) - 7/9/2008 1:15:43 AM
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nicole6598
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Ruth I was going to say what Ryanne suggested. I wear Nathaniel in an Ergo carrier and Grace used to go in the trolley (shopping cart) when we went to the shopping centre (mall). But you could put Nathan in a little stroller and carry the new bub which would be easier and then once Nathan is a little older and able to walk next to you holding your hand the other baby will be old enough to sit in the stroller. Now I either wear Nath, put him in the stroller and Grace walks next to me (or pushes the stroller) or I put them both in the shopping trolley.
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RE: Baby Chat (take 3) - 7/9/2008 1:50:20 AM
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Mrs.X
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We bought a used double stroller for $35 just in case it didn't get much use. It has though, especially at the zoo where I certainly don't want to wear the baby the whole time, and Timmy can't walk that long.
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RE: Baby Chat (take 3) - 7/9/2008 4:15:40 AM
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manda59
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quote:
ORIGINAL: Sideways
Now, with two kids under two, I have to decide whether to purchase a double stroller (which I'm sure is monstrous) or expect Nathan to walk and use the Snap 'n Go for the baby. I think I'm gonna go with the double stroller, 'cause I really can't expect a 21 month old to walk any sort of real distance.
My ds stopped wanting to ride in the stroller at 2, and my dd at 15 months (she was walking at 9 months). A double stroller is a lot to fork out for when you're not sure how long (or if) you're going to be using it. Not to mention a massive thing to be pushing around.
I'd agree with Ryanne, you could wear your baby and push Nathan (if he wanted to be pushed).
Or you could carry Nathan in a backpack and push the baby in the stroller. We actually used the backpack most of all.
I'd never heard of the Sit n Stand - didn't have those back in the Dinosaur era. THIS ONE (link)
looks good, and not a bad price.
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RE: Baby Chat (take 3) - 7/9/2008 4:31:35 AM
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nicole6598
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Ruth I have a friend that had the sit and stand type and her child hated it. Especially standing for long periods of time and at a young age. Her son was almost 2 I think.
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RE: Baby Chat (take 3) - 7/9/2008 7:37:10 AM
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Sideways
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My ds stopped wanting to ride in the stroller at 2, and my dd at 15 months (she was walking at 9 months). A double stroller is a lot to fork out for when you're not sure how long (or if) you're going to be using it. Not to mention a massive thing to be pushing around.
Nathan started walking at 8 months, doesn't mean he likes to walk long distances or that he always walks exactly where he's told. And while we're working on holding my hand for walking, I'm not going to count on that. I need to have something to stick him in if he gets tired or acts up.
Wearing the baby and using a smaller stroller for Nathan is one idea, certainly. But I got very appreciative of not having to take the baby in and out of his car seat every time I needed to get in and out of the car. Baby wearing has it's place, but not having to wake up a sleeping child to try and handle some wrap is definitely convenient.
I've seen those Sit n Stands, and I don't personally car for them. But for most "everyday" stores like the grocery stores, they have a trolley that can accommodate an infant and a toddler. I'd only need something special for more unusual trips. I'm not terribly concerned about money, since we won't have to buy very much at all for this baby. I'll definitely be taking any stroller for a test run before I buy it. I won't purchase something that's to unwieldy for me to use easily.
ETA: I do appreciate everyone's ideas. I'm really gonna think hard about whether or not I'll even need this double stroller enough, especially if a lot of stores are building their trollies to seat as many as two older children and one infant (the infant would stay in his car seat).
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RE: Baby Chat (take 3) - 7/9/2008 8:32:20 AM
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KatMack
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We opted for a double stroller when Kenna-baby joined us. This is the one we got. I've really liked it. It does take up a lot of room in the van but we mainly use it for trips to the mall, zoo, museum, park, etc where their aren't store buggies available.
Luke's two now and doesn't want to stay in it much, but he doesn't want to stay in ANYTHING much right now. He wants freedom!
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RE: Baby Chat (take 3) - 7/9/2008 9:14:41 AM
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lilyofthefield
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I have one of the travel systems with the big honkin' stroller. I thought it would be a nightmare, but really it has been just fine.
Re: going out... I need to get into some kind of new routine I guess. I feel like I'm floundering a bit since things have changed so much as far as what I can do. Caden already seems to kind of have put himself on a bit of a routine as far as eating and sleeping, so I can work with that. We do our walk in the mornings (we're about to go now), but other than that I don't know... we'll go to the post office today, but I'd like to have one more thing in my day (besides errands) that is kind of regular routine (something in the afternoon). It doesn't have to be the same thing everyday. Any suggestions?
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RE: Baby Chat (take 3) - 7/9/2008 10:05:55 AM
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JoyfulLady
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I've been so busy the last few days I haven't had time to keep up with you ladies!! 
But, I need some help! 
Levi has always been a really happy, quiet, content baby. The last week or two, he has started this awful whining. (he's 6 1/2 months now btw) Sitting at the table with us, being held, sitting on the floor, in the exersaucer, no matter what, he's not happy. The only time he's not whining, some days, is when we make a trip to the store, or he's asleep. 
If I ignore the whining, it eventually turns into crying/tears. But, even if I get down on the floor and play with him, or hold and rock him, nothing makes it stop.
I don't think he hurts....Tylenol doesn't make a difference. He doesn't want teething rings, so if it is teeth, nothing helps.
Do I need to take him to the doctor and have him checked out? There's no fever.....he's still pooping every other day (although it's a smaller amount and harder than it used to be). What about a food allergy? The only new thing I've started is yogurt....the only possible "symptoms" I've seen is more spitting up lately, and for a few days he had a bumpy rash on his cheeks...it's gone now.
It's just really frustrating some days.
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