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Baby/Toddler Chat (take 3)
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| I love shirts with saying on them!!! |
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| I don't mind shirts with sayings on them |
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| It depends on the saying on the shirt whether I like it or not |
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| I generally don't like or dislike shirts with sayings |
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| I dislike shirts with sayings of any kind on them |
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| I refuse to buy them for my kids, but will accept them as gifts |
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| We don't allow them to be worn even if they were given it by someone |
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| My favorite saying on a shirt is...______ |
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(last vote on : 7/18/2008 2:29:32 PM)
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RE: Baby Chat (take 3) - 7/7/2008 10:25:29 AM
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Mrs.Wifey
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Ryanne - Did we already discuss AP somewhere? I feel like we did but can't remember and am interested in it.. trying to decide where we fall or will fall with things..
Oh, I don't know if we have talked about it... We are relatively AP although around here it's called "instinctual" or "intuitive" parenting. We do believe in spanking and negative punishment, obviously I didn't breastfeed, and cosleeping didn't work for us after the first couple months, but we're AP in almost every other way. No CIO, babywearing, baby led solids, etc...
Janine, Jadon is being a normal baby. If I go by your description then Gabby is a high needs sleeper but ya know, we have learned in the past 11 months to just roll with the punches. Sometimes she needs to cry for a few minutes before she sleeps, sometimes she needs a bottle, sometimes she goes down fine. Sometimes she sleeps through the night, sometimes she wakes up once to eat, and SOMETIMES she wakes up at 1am ready and willing to play for several hours.
Now, I could label her high needs and read books, OR I can accept that she is a baby who is growing and developing faster then our minds can ever comprehend and because of that, her sleep will be erratic. It is the nature of having a child, you cannot fit him in a box and compare him to other children.Yeah, it's frustrating. Especially at 1am when I've had an hour or two of sleep and she's wanting to play. But this is such a SMALL phase of our lives. It will last a couple of years at the most, and then we will be longing for the times when our babies wanted to nurse, cuddle or even scream themselves to sleep. It is not *bad* that he changes everyday, it's just his way of growing and developing. He is becoming his own little person.
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RE: Baby Chat (take 3) - 7/7/2008 11:28:25 AM
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PrincessDonna
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If I had had Hannah as my first baby...little miss must be held, wouldn't sleep in her own bed ever, had to eat every 90 minutes round the clock...I would have been overwhelmed. Sometimes I was anyway, but having dealt with two other kids, I knew that it was not anything I was doing or not doing that made her the way she was. And yes, at that point, I was more able to adapt to whatever she needed at the moment.
Jae, I think that's what you need most at this point...the ability to just adapt and say it's okay that Jadon is the way he is TODAY, without worry about yesterday or tomorrow. Sometimes it's better to focus on the far-away future than the near future. Know that those traits that make Jadon the way he is are the very things God will use in him to make him a mighty man of God. Rejoice in that and ask God how you can best raise him up to use those things for the Kingdom of God.
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RE: Baby Chat (take 3) - 7/7/2008 12:21:13 PM
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Sideways
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Isn't it harder when your later children are higher needs? I mean, I don't even think I'll nurse to sleep with this baby, even though it worked great with Nathan. I just won't have the time to fuss to much over a newborn if I'm trying to keep up with a 22 month old Nathan.
Nathan will still a lot of discipline and structure and entertainment. I'm not gonna be able to rest on the couch for two hours while the baby sleeps on my chest, or spend 30 minutes doing the "pat and shush" routine.
You women with more then one child constantly amaze me, and I mean that in the best possible way.
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RE: Baby Chat (take 3) - 7/7/2008 12:31:42 PM
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Mrs.X
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Isn't it harder when your later children are higher needs? I mean, I don't even think I'll nurse to sleep with this baby, even though it worked great with Nathan. I just won't have the time to fuss to much over a newborn if I'm trying to keep up with a 22 month old Nathan.
LOL, that was my biggest fear when I found out I was pregnant with Jimmy...."How will I supervise Timmy if I am rocking Jimmy to sleep?" Well, Jimmy just learned to nurse to sleep in a noisy living room, and Timmy learned to try to be quiet. If Jimmy doesn't go to sleep because of noise, I wait a half an hour and nurse him again. Luckily for me Jimmy was not as high needs as Timmy, and I also don't fight him to sleep like I did with Timmy. If Jimmy's not going to sleep, well then, too bad, he just has to stay awake and be cranky cause I don't have time and got another child to tend to. I kinda got into this mindset of being able to tune the other one out while I was taking care of the needs of one of them if there was nothing I could do. You do what you can when you can, and sometimes they just have to wait. It sounds kind of cold and heartless, but that's what I had to do.
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RE: Baby Chat (take 3) - 7/7/2008 12:37:26 PM
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PrincessDonna
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Isn't it harder when your later children are higher needs?
Yes and no. Harder because you can't focus solely on them and finding what works for them. Easier because hopefully by then, you've learned to relax a little bit.
I will admit I was VERY thankful that Levi was such an easy baby, since Hannah was not quite two when he was born and still pretty high-maintenance.
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RE: Baby Chat (take 3) - 7/7/2008 12:43:37 PM
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Hey, I totally think that mothers sometimes need to be cold and heartless in order to be a good parent. If we're to soft and mushy then we'd quickly go nuts and our children would walk all over us.
I agree. I love my kids dearly, but there are times I have to lay down the law very sternly. Namby-pamby parenting in the Walmart aisles drives me batty...JUST SAY NO...you're the parent! 
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RE: Baby Chat (take 3) - 7/7/2008 1:06:39 PM
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Sideways
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Thanks, Ruth. When I found out I was pregnant with Jimmy, I came on here kinda freaking out (Jimmy was a suprise) asking all the seasoned moms, but isn't it like double the difficulty having two babies, and most agreed that from zero to one is much harder than going from one to two.
Now, my SIL said that going from 1 to 2 was quadruple the work, not double. Her baby is the lowest needs baby I've ever seen, except she woke up a lot at night, but even SIL admits she's a totally easy baby during the day. But her little one is 10 months, and I think it's gotten a lot easier for her. It's kind of a good thing her that she gave up nursing early, because I think she survived those first 6 months on caffeine alone (and I did offer to babysit while she napped; she never took me up on it).
But also with the "cold and heartless" deal; I think we need to remember that we're human beings with needs, too. Sure an infant often comes first, but I think a lot of women drive themselves to illness by never taking a moment for themselves, to eat a decent meal or get a little bit of rest.
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RE: Baby Chat (take 3) - 7/7/2008 1:24:47 PM
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Now, my SIL said that going from 1 to 2 was quadruple the work, not double.
I'd agree - I'd have said 3 or 4 times the work, and my dd was a very easy placid baby (*and* we left a 3 yr gap before trying for our second baby!). I reckon it's me that's "high needs" - I found it very hard to adapt to being unselfish with my time, my body, my energy, and probably still do, even now.
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RE: Baby Chat (take 3) - 7/7/2008 2:07:52 PM
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Oh, I don't know if we have talked about it... We are relatively AP although around here it's called "instinctual" or "intuitive" parenting. We do believe in spanking and negative punishment, obviously I didn't breastfeed, and cosleeping didn't work for us after the first couple months, but we're AP in almost every other way. No CIO, babywearing, baby led solids, etc...
Ryanne, so much like us, except for nursing.
Dedicated APers might go as far as to call us abusive because we spank. 
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Now, my SIL said that going from 1 to 2 was quadruple the work, not double.
I didn't find that at all. It was going from two to three that really threw me.
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RE: Baby Chat (take 3) - 7/7/2008 2:25:18 PM
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Mrs.Wifey
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Yeah, and a baby carrier can be indispensable for a baby who likes contact to nap. That is probably the thing I like most about AP'ing is the babywearing.
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RE: Baby Chat (take 3) - 7/7/2008 2:35:29 PM
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Brandy
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now i understand sarahs smiley posts.
babe in hand make typing hard
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). But it does not necessarily mean that Jadon is high needs. Otherwise I would have to label Gabby that way and while she has some "high needs" characteristics she is by no stretch of my imagination anything but a normal infant. Sometimes I find that it's more the mama who is high needs then the baby. 
my soldier! 
Don't hold him or yourself to society's "regulations" about "good babies" ("good babies sleep through the night well before 3 months and love being alone in their beds") and "good mothers" ("good mothers get their babies on a proper schedule, never miss a nap, and never let their baby have anything but a smile on their face"). 
