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RE: Purity Rings? - 5/1/2008 4:08:06 PM
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stateofgrace
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The use of ownership terms is from the bible, not terms made up for this thread.
Just curious, but how many of you believe that God wants you to consider your children as something/someone you (and/or your spouse) "own"?
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RE: Purity Rings? - 5/1/2008 6:16:04 PM
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I can only answer for myself, but I take very seriously and my daughter has been taught that hubby is the head of our household. Therefore, to me we are accountable to him (not questioning our accountability to the Lord) as our spiritual headship on earth. So yes, I feel and we have taught our daughter from a young age that we do have to answer to Hubby/Daddy with our decisions.
No we do not own people, but she is our responsibiltiy and the Lord entrusted us to care for her in every way possible and it is a job we relish and take very seriously. We only have one opportunity to instruct her adequately with scripture and the strength to protect her purity...I am fighting the world for my child...is how I often feel. I am not sure this is making sense...it is much easier to vocalize than type....
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RE: Purity Rings? - 5/2/2008 10:17:48 PM
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IMO, we're not just speaking of daughters wearing purity rings. My son is in middle school and quite frankly the idea that he wear a purity ring as a commitment to his mother until he gets married is slightly creepy. He is God's child first and his comitment to abstainance should be to Him, not to me.
Not to mention I have not let the world make me "cynical and judgemental" at all. Just because I don't agree with purity rings doesn't mean I've allowed myself to be care what the world thinks. 
First of all..the purity ring for either the male or female is not a commitment to the parent in any way shape or form..and if anyone has done it that way, that is not the purpose or the intent. It is symbol of the person's commitment to God, themselves and their future spouse. The parents are just the ones that help them understand that and buy the ring for them.
and it really doesn't matter whether one uses the purity ring or not...but rather that one trains one's child to be sexually pure...not simply just remain a virgin, but to be truly sexually pure...abstaining from sexually explicit material (movies, books, music, etc) and from suggestive practices as well.
Really....virginity is the LAST stronghold in the line of purity defense...the mind and soul are the first.
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RE: Purity Rings? - 5/2/2008 10:23:47 PM
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ORIGINAL: 29redballoons
The use of ownership terms is from the bible, not terms made up for this thread.
Just curious, but how many of you believe that God wants you to consider your children as something/someone you (and/or your spouse) "own"?
we do not own them...but as 29redballons stated...they are our responsibility and our husband's and we have authority over them as long as they are living in our home.
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RE: Purity Rings? - 5/6/2008 10:49:57 AM
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I just wanted to throw in my two cents. I'm 23 years old, and I wore a purity ring from early high school until the day I was married. I purchased the ring myself, as a representation (and a self-reminder) of the commitment that I made to God and to my (then) future wife. At our wedding, my wife and I exchanged purity rings, and we keep them with all of our valuables. Those $20 rings mean more to she and I than many of the other things we possess.
All of that said, I don't think the idea of a parent buying a purity ring for their son/daughter sends the right kind of signal. I feel that the issue of purity before marriage is an issue that should be talked about openly in a family, and that the symbolism of a purity ring should only reflect a deep-down commitment to Christ.
We are commanded to love one another as Christ loves us(especially our spouses), and reminded of how He gave Himself for us (Eph. 5:25). Christ gave Himself to us as a pure and untarnished gift. If your child understands that kind of commitment to purity and the symbolism between marriage and Christlikeness, then they have probably already made the commitment, and the wearing of the ring makes no difference in their spiritual decision to remain pure. However, it may help them as a reminder when they find themselves in situations where the flesh makes it challenging to honor the commitment.
Sorry for the lengthy post. Basically, I feel like a purity ring can be like a wedding ring on some levels. If the commitment is there, then there may be a desire to wear the ring. Not having the ring, however doesn't mean they aren't committed. I am still married to my gorgeous wife even when I take my ring off to work on the car or re-stain the deck. The ring is just a symbol of the decision to remain faithful.
Thanks for your patience. 
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RE: Purity Rings? - 5/6/2008 11:00:29 AM
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That is a great post, and thank you for sharing your experience.
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