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For men only: does your wife love you? Respect you?


She loves me.
  30% (6)
She respects me.
  5% (1)
She loves me & She respects me.
  65% (13)


Total Votes : 20
(last vote on : 4/29/2008 10:22:23 PM)
(Poll ended: 4/30/2008 1:20:00 AM)


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nekkew -> For men only: does your wife love you? Respect you? (4/24/2008 1:21:55 AM)

For men only: does your wife love you? Respect you?



tfkeel -> RE: For men only: does your wife love you? Respect you? (4/25/2008 6:53:27 PM)

My wife loves me. She says so every day. She buys me presents. She gives me greeting cards. When it comes to "love", my wife has that all wrapped up....

My wife does not respect me. She does not respect my time, my goals, my ambitions, my dreams, or my desires of life. She doesn't respect my need for rest or good food. The only thing important to my wife is her comfort zone, and her deeply-engrained belief that I am her PROPERTY, her SLAVE who God has sent to her for her purposes.

Interestingly enough, I respect my wife. I make sure she has everything she needs and most of the things she wants. I work two jobs to keep her in medical care and drugs and to provide a fine lifestyle for her.

But, I don't love her. I simply stay here out of a sense of duty and to try to please God the best I can.



armydude -> RE: For men only: does your wife love you? Respect you? (4/27/2008 9:16:10 AM)

Does she love me? I have no doubt. Does she respect me? At times I doubt this, but it isn't long until I realize that it's not her that's causing these doubts, but our mutual enemy. She does love and respect me, and I do love and respect her. Sometimes we just need a gentle reminder of that fact.



ta_mosquito -> RE: For men only: does your wife love you? Respect you? (4/27/2008 9:30:18 AM)

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GrapeApe -> RE: For men only: does your wife love you? Respect you? (4/27/2008 3:01:07 PM)

tfkeel, that sounds like a horrible relationship.



denbert -> RE: For men only: does your wife love you? Respect you? (4/27/2008 8:33:41 PM)

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No doubt about it, she loves me. I'm not so sure about the respect part.



APZR -> RE: For men only: does your wife love you? Respect you? (4/27/2008 11:22:38 PM)

We are in it together, glued together, and are a well oiled machine. Everyone has bad days, and we know when the other needs a break or weekend off. [sm=heart.gif]



Konstantinos -> RE: For men only: does your wife love you? Respect you? (4/28/2008 5:30:28 AM)

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My wife does not respect me. She does not respect my time, my goals, my ambitions, my dreams, or my desires of life. She doesn't respect my need for rest or good food. The only thing important to my wife is her comfort zone, and her deeply-engrained belief that I am her PROPERTY, her SLAVE who God has sent to her for her purposes.


wow sounds like the way mom treats my dad and me and my brother. honestly half the times she tells us to star studying so that she sees us studying so that she is relieved.

im not doubting if moms love, but im starting to really doubt whether they know whats best for their kids. society overrates them in that way...



APZR -> RE: For men only: does your wife love you? Respect you? (4/28/2008 11:39:04 AM)

Well that's interesting... love and respect are receiving the most votes. Yet, reading the postings would make you believe that apathy and deceit are common in Christian marriages.



mrtigger -> RE: For men only: does your wife love you? Respect you? (4/28/2008 8:45:04 PM)

My wife loves me too much. She once told me she loved me more than God. I don't belong in that spot.

I'm not sure what respect is. It seems to be one of those terms that differs in meanings depending on the context & who is using it. But I think my wife respects me.



tfkeel -> RE: For men only: does your wife love you? Respect you? (4/29/2008 4:52:15 PM)

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Yet, reading the postings would make you believe that apathy and deceit are common in Christian marriages.


Well, out of 7, only one gets respect, if he doesn't get both. The other category would be where he gets neither love nor respect. I expect this category would not be null, either.



alaskadrifter -> RE: For men only: does your wife love you? Respect you? (4/29/2008 8:11:23 PM)

I don't know how you can separate the two. If she loves you, then she will be respecting you. If she respects you, then it should be because she loves you.



denbert -> RE: For men only: does your wife love you? Respect you? (4/29/2008 8:14:12 PM)

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ORIGINAL: alaskadrifter

I don't know how you can separate the two. If she loves you, then she will be respecting you. If she respects you, then it should be because she loves you.


Nope. Not really.



armydude -> RE: For men only: does your wife love you? Respect you? (4/29/2008 8:16:38 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: alaskadrifter

I don't know how you can separate the two. If she loves you, then she will be respecting you. If she respects you, then it should be because she loves you.
There is the possibility that a wife loves her husband, but doesn't know how to respect him. There's also the possibility that she respects him as a man, but there's no love there.



tbrobinson -> RE: For men only: does your wife love you? Respect you? (4/29/2008 10:23:27 PM)

My loving wife both loves and respects me. She has put up with more than any woman should ever have had to do, and came through it.



alaskadrifter -> RE: For men only: does your wife love you? Respect you? (4/30/2008 12:16:00 AM)

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ORIGINAL: armydude

quote:

ORIGINAL: alaskadrifter

I don't know how you can separate the two. If she loves you, then she will be respecting you. If she respects you, then it should be because she loves you.
There is the possibility that a wife loves her husband, but doesn't know how to respect him. There's also the possibility that she respects him as a man, but there's no love there.


I see what you mean by the last part. And how the first could possibly be. But my point is that if she truly does love you, she should be at least be striving to respect you. No one is perfect, so its not like she will perfectly respect you if she does love you.

PS. On the last part, I put the "should" in there for a reason.



Konstantinos -> RE: For men only: does your wife love you? Respect you? (4/30/2008 6:55:36 AM)

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I don't know how you can separate the two. If she loves you, then she will be respecting you. If she respects you, then it should be because she loves you.


respect has a lot to do with trust

you love your child but you nowhere near trust it.. specially the younger it is.



freakofnature -> RE: For men only: does your wife love you? Respect you? (5/9/2008 11:49:10 AM)

I know my wife both loves and respects me. 1)It is in her culture to be that wife, the one the bible calls for. HOWEVER, she has a difficult time trying to express love and asking forgivness when she knows she is wrong. She will not say "I'm Sorry." I have a difficult time with that.



gengwall -> RE: For men only: does your wife love you? Respect you? (5/9/2008 12:02:09 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Konstantinos

quote:

I don't know how you can separate the two. If she loves you, then she will be respecting you. If she respects you, then it should be because she loves you.


respect has a lot to do with trust

you love your child but you nowhere near trust it.. specially the younger it is.

Marital relationships are very different than parent/child relationships. I hope your wife doesn't relate to you as she would a child. The bible commands women to unconditionally respect their husbands just as it command us to unconditionally love our wives. Respect is not supposed to have to be earned (even though that is the attitude of most wives).

Read "Love and Respect" by Emmerson Eggerichs for a full perspective on the scriptural aspects of this issue.

My wife loves me but all of the women in her family have problems with respect for their men. My wife is learning, but it is really hard for her to bring herself to show or even understand what respect is, let alone to give it unconditionally. It is a long process, but we are getting there.

Women in general do not understand respect in the way that men do. It is very difficult for them to wrap their head around the idea that respect is just a big, if not bigger, of a need in husbands as love. (And yes, love and respect are two very different things. They do not inherently go together.) Men have an equally hard time. We get what respect is but what our wives really crave is unconditional and constantly reassured love from us. We have just as hard a time showing them love in ways that are meanignful to them as they have showing us respect in ways that are meaningful to us.



kostnicata -> RE: For men only: does your wife love you? Respect you? (5/10/2008 12:54:13 PM)

I'm not married yet, but she loves me (i am 101% sure about that), now my girl is in Spain, and i miss you so much :)



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