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RE: Marsha's thread - 4/23/2005 7:22:01 PM
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cherish405
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Thanks Sharon. How are you?
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RE: Marsha's thread - 4/23/2005 7:27:58 PM
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I'm doing fine Trish, thanks for asking. Just got up from a nap and am getting ready for supper. I need to get a Sunday School subject together for tomorrow. There are only 3 Sunday's left for SS until September again.
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RE: Marsha's thread - 4/23/2005 7:31:57 PM
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Hi Sharon.
Marsha, I am sorry to hear that you are having a bad day!
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RE: Marsha's thread - 4/24/2005 1:38:42 AM
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Thanks, guys. So often, I've come close to fainting right before God stepped. I haven't been angry at God in a long while. It's a bad place to be because it's difficuld to get comfort when anger is directed toward God.
One day, about ten years ago, I got relevation into the "why". Well, actually, it says right there in Matthew 6, I think it is. They ask why a person was born blind or palsied or something. Jesus, "So the Father may be glorified."
The Bible also says, does the clay tell the Potter what to do? It also says and for His pleasure we were created. That can be enough...that SHOULD be enough, but I feel in the midst of a tantrum, screaming, "No, God, I wanted to be created for MY pleasure!!!"
Actually, I learned at a young age to live inspite of my disability. Yet, it seems reasonable to me that had it not been for palsied state, some hunk IN HIS RIGHT MIND would have fallen in love with me. Some delicious hunk that I probably never even met.
Even tho', all I have to do is look at my own mother's choice of my father to realize not all pretty, able-bodied woman marry men in their right minds.
But, of course, I would have married the best of the best. Be living in the lap pf luxury, sleeping with a husband who looked like Carmen or Paul   
of course, i would 
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RE: Marsha's thread - 4/24/2005 3:16:18 AM
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You know, sometimes I've thought the same, Marsha. If only I would be FREE of this man, all would be so much better! But in my saner moments I realize that there are good things about being married to the man I have. I suspect you can do the same. My kids have often expressed loathing and hatred of their dad. To me that's been confirmation of the rightness of my own loathing. But maybe it's simply a reflection of my attitude. Maybe my attitude helps determine theirs. And then I remember that sometimes they loathe ME of all people! How could they? Kids are fickle. So are my feelings.
Luxury and hunks aren't guarantee of happiness. I've been told my dh is a hunk. All I can see (more times than not) are his faults. And, compared to living on welfare as I grew up, it seems (at times), that I live in luxury. I still can't buy what I want, I'm deep in debt and my cupboard is bare the last week of each month. It's all relative. Look at the lives of the rich, beautiful and famous. Are THEY happy? No! The women are forever switching one hunk for another. The first one won't do. They are using their money to buy youth and happiness and never succeed. Martha Stewart with all her money wasn't happy with what she had. She needed more and now sits in jail.
It seems that the answer lies in learning to be content with what we have. You KNOW the trouble I have with that. I rail at God as much as you are doing now at how unfair he is. Why can't I have what everyone else seems to have? Ha! Maybe he IS fair. Everyone else has the same hunger and discontent that I have (though perhaps focused on different things) and everyone must learn, as you and I must do, dear Marsha, to be content with what God's given us amidst the choices we've made.
I want to believe that this is possible. Sometimes I see glimpses that it is. Surely it must be, if this is something God has told us to be. Perhaps getting there is part of the refining fire. I hate getting burned but I sure do want to shine like gold. What about you?
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RE: Marsha's thread - 4/24/2005 12:57:43 PM
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Thanks, Mags, for bringing me back to perspective. As far as how the boys feel, however, would be much worse had I not ran interferance when they were younger. Tim and I were talking yesterday. He said no one can really understand what we go thru' unless they lived with Dad. He's just off-the-wall in the way he sees things and no one can convince him otherwise.
It's just getting harder; I think his physical illness on top of everything else is taking a toll on the four of us. God is faithful. I know that.
It's a cold, gray, snowy, wintery day here. I've seen snow at the start of April, but never this late. ICK.
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RE: Marsha's thread - 4/24/2005 1:02:59 PM
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I wish things weren't so tough for you and your family. I know that it's not much fun.
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RE: Marsha's thread - 4/24/2005 1:33:31 PM
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Ick on the snow. An Ohio friend was blaming it on Canada. I turned around and blamed the cold weather we're getting starting to day on Ohio. It's all YOUR fault!
Tim is right, Marsha. No one can understand what you're going through. I can't imagine what it's like for you and I have a pretty good imagination. Do you ever discuss these things with your social worker? Do you HAVE a social worker? Do you discuss them with your pastor? At what point does a man's illness necessitate him being in a facility where he can be properly cared for rather than at home where his illness, while perhaps refining his family members into gold, may also be hurting them deeply?
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RE: Marsha's thread - 4/24/2005 1:59:14 PM
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That's just it Mags...USA has given the mentally ill so many rights they're filling shelters and sleeping on streets. Especially, considering his physical limitations we just have to wise above. None of us are cruel enough to put him out, although we were hoping he could stay in the nursing home. I'm sure we aren't the only ones suffering with mentally ill family; it just feels that way at times.
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RE: Marsha's thread - 4/24/2005 2:30:45 PM
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Can you give me a good link for avarators or whatever they're called.?
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RE: Marsha's thread - 4/24/2005 2:37:08 PM
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Avatarity.com
Along what lines were you thinking of subject matter Marsha?
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RE: Marsha's thread - 4/24/2005 2:44:38 PM
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Sigh. {{{{{{Marsha}}}}}}
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RE: Marsha's thread - 4/24/2005 3:09:59 PM
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I'm getting this feeling Don will be back in the hospital within 24-48 hours. The legs is still quite red, maybe moreso, and he's still sleeping alot. His head feels clamy. I just woke him to check on him.
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RE: Marsha's thread - 4/24/2005 3:33:02 PM
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I hope Don can get the help he needs, Marsha. You obviously can't take him to the doctor. Do you call an ambulance if he gets really bad? Does his doctor do housecalls?
I'll bet you could find all sorts of interesting frogs. Do a Google image search for frog and see what you can find.
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RE: Marsha's thread - 4/24/2005 3:59:43 PM
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If stablizes until morning, he can call our family doc just up the road. oft times I call 9-1-1 and let them take him.
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RE: Marsha's thread - 4/24/2005 4:36:55 PM
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I musta overlooked this froggy before. It'll work. I'm increasingly concerned about Don. I just sense the oral antiobitic isn't doing it's job. I really don't hate him, just the illnesses and the toil.
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RE: Marsha's thread - 4/24/2005 9:18:31 PM
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It's certainly not an easy time for you. Will be praying.
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RE: Marsha's thread - 4/24/2005 10:20:17 PM
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Marsha, I'm sure we all know you don't hate him. If he does need to go to the hospital, maybe it's just the break you and the boys need. Has he gotten any better or worse since this afternoon when you posted??
I like your frog 
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RE: Marsha's thread - 4/24/2005 10:54:59 PM
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Marsha, I just caught up here. No one here thinks you hate Don! We all know the struggles you face and we understand those moments of feeling nothing will ever get better...maybe not in the same area as you do, but we all have those areas of discontent where we're just sure if this one thing would go right or work out, then life will be good! But as Maggs said, NO one is ever totally content in themselves...we have to find content in Christ. For me, I have never experienced discontent in my marriage, but there are other areas in my life that I struggle with BIG time....some on a daily basis. Things out of my control. I give them to God for while, then I take them back to wallow with them for awhile. Somehow I just know if I had these other areas worked out, life would be perfect. But, reality is that will never happen...it will always be something. Satan is never going to let us rest and be contnet with the gifts God has given us...he will stir up that restlessness until we can't see the blessings...just the hardships. Don't be so down on youself for feeling low and discontent...we ALL feel that way at times even when we don't talk about it.
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RE: Marsha's thread - 4/25/2005 10:25:00 AM
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Well, Don finally seems a little better or at least no worse. We'll take it a day at a time. Or less. At least the weekend is over, so it'd be easier to check in with the doctor. This doctor is around the corner and up the street. If there's an emergancy, he'll say to come on over. He's good, too. Very good.
Leah, Karlie, Trish, and the rest of ya' are true friends and we haven't even met. You always know my heart, even when I rant and rave. I am concerned for the boys, tho'. Add Tim and Nate to your prayer lists, just that God would have His way with them.
Ooou, I did a load of dishes and have another staring at me. At times, I'd like to take the frying pan to those boys. Of course I'd have to catch-em first. 
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RE: Marsha's thread - 4/25/2005 10:32:46 AM
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Consider it done, dear friend.
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RE: Marsha's thread - 4/25/2005 10:45:07 AM
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Consider it done, dear friend.
Thanks, Trish. How are you feeling today? Haven't made it to many threads yet. I need to do more dishes and I wanna write a letter, but I'm feeling drowsey. So I'm not sure what I'm going to do first.
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RE: Marsha's thread - 4/25/2005 10:53:37 AM
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I'm hanging in there, Marsha. I heard this morning about a doctor/friend of mine who is going to be going home to her Lord soon. Her body is ravaged with cancer. We knew that it wouldn't be long, but none of us thought it would be this soon. Any day now.
I've had a pretty relaxing weekend. It's been a long weekend here. Haven't really done much. I haven't been well for a lot of the weekend, so there's been much sleeping, trying to do some knitting and trying to find other ways to occupy myself.
Is there somebody that you can talk to that can give you some assistance with Don? A social worker or something? Somebody who can help you and the boys and the way you're all feeling? Even if it's just talking? A pastor maybe? A doctor?
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