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RE: Deal or No deal - 10/10/2008 12:01:48 PM
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joy2give2u
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DOND: Has a teenager that is constantly in trouble (with the law...) or running with the wrong crowd.
Though I would not say no deal I would be more hesitant. Who the teenager lives with would be a big factor.
DOND He/she is a non custodian parent of teenagers. Though he/she only sees the children every other weekend he/she wants you to step into a mother role to the teenagers instead of a aunt type role.
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RE: Deal or No deal - 10/10/2008 1:49:12 PM
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DOND: Has a teenager that is constantly in trouble (with the law...) or running with the wrong crowd.
Though I would not say no deal I would be more hesitant. Who the teenager lives with would be a big factor.
DOND He/she is a non custodian parent of teenagers. Though he/she only sees the children every other weekend he/she wants you to step into a mother role to the teenagers instead of a aunt type role.
Deal: Wanting me to play the Aunt type role would make it a no deal.
DOND: They expect you to play something other than a parental role to their children. (live in or out)
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RE: Deal or No deal - 10/10/2008 2:04:40 PM
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LOL good thing we aren't dating waitingforBoaz........hmmmm you just gave me a idea for a thread.
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DOND: They expect you to play something other than a parental role to their children. (live in or out) No deal I would not want to "play" a role in anyone's life....but I would expect him/her to want me to be a huge part of the teenagers life.......stepping into the role best suited for the needs of a teenager.
DOND He/She does not see the role of uncle/aunt as an important valuable role in a child's life and does not wish to do things with your nieces or nephews
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RE: Deal or No deal - 10/10/2008 3:51:23 PM
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Also there is nothing wrong with playing a role in life. I don't mean it as pretending. We are not a dentist at home that is a role we play at work. SWIM
Also, If you go into a marriage with children as anything other than a full fledged parent, with full authority, there are children and teens that will take full advantage of that and run roughshot over you. Anything other than a full fledged parent is disrespectful IMHO. It basically puts you and the child on the same level, role wise.
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RE: Deal or No deal - 10/10/2008 3:52:50 PM
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RE: Deal or No deal - 10/10/2008 3:57:41 PM
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DOND: Your spouse has a summer home and lives there for the summer.
Depends on whether he plans on doing so with or without me........with me deal.......without NO DEAL
DOND...He/She speaks fast when they are excited
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RE: Deal or No deal - 10/10/2008 4:07:06 PM
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DOND: Your spouse has a summer home and lives there for the summer.
Depends on whether he plans on doing so with or without me........with me deal.......without NO DEAL
DOND...He/She speaks fast when they are excited
Deal! I tend to do the same thing... but only when really excited or nervous
DOND - Your SO can't carry a tune in a bucket and LOVES to sing.
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RE: Deal or No deal - 10/10/2008 4:30:15 PM
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DOND - Your SO can't carry a tune in a bucket and LOVES to sing.
deal..........I tend to sing all the time........I should have been in a musical cause sometimes I will even sing to the girls what I am saying...........they love doing it and tend to sing back so that we have these whole conversations singing..........he can just join in LOL
DOND.........idle chit chat isn't really their cup of tea but tack on a question at the end of statements and they will chit chat all day
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RE: Deal or No deal - 10/10/2008 8:45:08 PM
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DOND: They expect you to play something other than a parental role to their children. (live in or out)
No deal. If I'm married to her, my kids are her kids and her kids are my kids. Nothing less than Dad will do.
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DOND He/She does not see the role of uncle/aunt as an important valuable role in a child's life and does not wish to do things with your nieces or nephews
Deal. Aunt or uncle pales in comparison to parent. If we have time to do tings with the extended family we would but it would not be a driving goal in my life.
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DOND.........they tend to be childlike in their excitement which would not be so bad except little things, such as getting to take the girls to the drive in movie to see a dog movie, brings out the child in them.
Deal. Childlike excitement is good.
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DOND: Your intended has a summer home and lives there for the summer.
Deal. If she's rich enough to live at the summer place she's rich enough to take me with her for a few weeks. I'll even bring the boat.
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DOND...He/She speaks fast when they are excited
Deal. As long as they don't mind me asking them to repeat from time to time. I listen slow
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DOND - Your SO can't carry a tune in a bucket and LOVES to sing.
Deal. If I love her her singing will sound like the angels to me.
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DOND.........idle chit chat isn't really their cup of tea but tack on a question at the end of statements and they will chit chat all day
You mean if I stop asking questions they'll shut up?? DEAL!! 
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Deal or no deal: They have to have their way all the time
No deal. (I get my way!!)
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Deal or No Deal: They won't talk about their hopes and dreams
I'd have to say no deal. Can't get to know if we are going to the same place if they won't say where they are going.
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DOND: S/he likes very spicy foods and puts jalapeno's on everything... and you don't.
No deal. I won't even date someone who is unkissable.
DOND: Your way of communicating, and their way of communicating are totally incompatible. While you both believe the same things, you talk so differently that you're constantly misinterpreting each other
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RE: Deal or No deal - 10/10/2008 10:03:38 PM
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DOND: Your way of communicating, and their way of communicating are totally incompatible. While you both believe the same things, you talk so differently that you're constantly misinterpreting each other
I've met a few people like this before. Our personalities are so different... it's interesting when you find someone whom you try and try to understand, but you just don't "click", and others whom you just connect with so quickly and easily. (And isn't it always that the one you don't click with matches your "list" perfectly, while the person you connect with has a few deal-breakers? *sigh*)
DOND: S/he is a deep thinker, and you just like to have fun.
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RE: Deal or No deal - 10/10/2008 11:48:14 PM
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DOND: They expect you to play something other than a parental role to their children. (live in or out)
No deal. If I'm married to her, my kids are her kids and her kids are my kids. Nothing less than Dad will do.
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DOND He/She does not see the role of uncle/aunt as an important valuable role in a child's life and does not wish to do things with your nieces or nephews
Deal. Aunt or uncle pales in comparison to parent. If we have time to do tings with the extended family we would but it would not be a driving goal in my life.
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DOND.........they tend to be childlike in their excitement which would not be so bad except little things, such as getting to take the girls to the drive in movie to see a dog movie, brings out the child in them.
Deal. Childlike excitement is good.
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DOND: Your intended has a summer home and lives there for the summer.
Deal. If she's rich enough to live at the summer place she's rich enough to take me with her for a few weeks. I'll even bring the boat.
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DOND...He/She speaks fast when they are excited
Deal. As long as they don't mind me asking them to repeat from time to time. I listen slow
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DOND - Your SO can't carry a tune in a bucket and LOVES to sing.
Deal. If I love her her singing will sound like the angels to me.
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DOND.........idle chit chat isn't really their cup of tea but tack on a question at the end of statements and they will chit chat all day
You mean if I stop asking questions they'll shut up?? DEAL!!
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Deal or no deal: They have to have their way all the time
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No deal. (I get my way!!)
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Deal or No Deal: They won't talk about their hopes and dreams
No Deal.....they either don't have a vision or they don't care. I don't like either option.
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DOND: S/he likes very spicy foods and puts jalapeno's on everything... and you don't.
Deal....BTDT That is what floss and mouthwash is for.
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DOND: Your way of communicating, and their way of communicating are totally incompatible. While you both believe the same things, you talk so differently that you're constantly misinterpreting each other
BTDT here too. I am not sure I would go that route again. But, we were able to work it out. We used to joke that he thought in Italian, (his first language) and had to translate it into English, so it lost something in the translation. Really, I don't recommend it. I think the only reason we faired so well, is because we were trained to council other couples and applied what we knew to our own marriage. Plus, he had a great sense of humor.
DOND: They feel the need to explain everything to you as if you can't figure things out for yourself.
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RE: Deal or No deal - 10/11/2008 7:39:47 PM
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DOND: They feel the need to explain everything to you as if you can't figure things out for yourself.
No deal. I would find this insulting and condescending - we would not get past the first month of dating if that were to to happen.
DOND: Looks a bit sloppy and unkept when they go out.
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RE: Deal or No deal - 10/11/2008 10:56:26 PM
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(And isn't it always that the one you don't click with matches your "list" perfectly, while the person you connect with has a few deal-breakers? *sigh*)
I've not found that to be true. I figure if she matches my list perfectly, we'll understand each other.
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DOND: S/he is a deep thinker, and you just like to have fun.
I love thinking deeply about having fun. Deal!
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DOND: h/she confuses an enjoyment of asking deep hmmmmm questions of oneself as dwelling on an issue.......
Deal. I'm that way so we'd think alike.
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DOND: They feel the need to explain everything to you as if you can't figure things out for yourself.
Once in a while is OK (even I don't know everything) but consistently would be a no deal. (checks over shoulder for lurking OH) I've seldom met anyone smarter than I am (in general knowledge) so having them explain stuff to me, especially if they happen to be wrong, would be an ugly situation.
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DOND: Looks a bit sloppy and unkept when they go out.
No deal. I don't date guys.
DOND: They travel a lot, to Hawaii and Japan and the coasts.
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RE: Deal or No deal - 10/12/2008 12:31:19 AM
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DOND: Looks a bit sloppy and unkept when they go out.
No deal, how someone appears on the outside can tell you alot about who they are on the inside.
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DOND: They travel a lot, to Hawaii and Japan and the coasts.
Some travel, deal, alot of travel, no deal. that would be really hard on the kids.
DOND: Their parents are divorced and not on good terms, so you have to squeeze in trips to both parents homes on holidays.....not to mention trying to get together with your own family.
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RE: Deal or No deal - 10/12/2008 5:30:27 AM
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(And isn't it always that the one you don't click with matches your "list" perfectly, while the person you connect with has a few deal-breakers? *sigh*)
I've not found that to be true. I figure if she matches my list perfectly, we'll understand each other.
Oh, I have. We met at church and he fit my list in every way, but we just didn't click personality-wise. I've also met several who had deal-breakers but conversation just flowed so easily. 
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DOND: Looks a bit sloppy and unkept when they go out.
Sloppiness, as in wrinkled, torn clothing shows they havent' put any care or thought into going out so no deal -- I want someone who really cares. Now, going a bit more casual, as in jeans and older tennis shoes, is more appropriate for really fun dates, so that would be deal!
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DOND: They travel a lot, to Hawaii and Japan and the coasts.
I'm single with a grown kid so I can travel... just give me a laptop for school and I can go anywhere. Deal!
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DOND: Their parents are divorced and not on good terms, so you have to squeeze in trips to both parents homes on holidays.....not to mention trying to get together with your own family.
That's hard, because my family is close and I'm used to staying in one place and seeing all my family (we're rather clannish). But for the right person, I'd do it. Deal.
DOND: They come from a different culture than you.
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Are you saying deep thinkers don't just like to have fun? LOL No deal I need someone who will engage with me in conversation which ask deep questions but I also need someone who just likes to have fun........ 
