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RE: Deal or No deal - 4/25/2008 1:25:04 PM
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JustJeannie
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DOND: They refuse to do house and/or yard work so you either have to do it all yourself or hire it out.
Deal: If we can afford to hire it out some of the time. I have a son who particularly LOVES to mow (on riding mower) right now, and my daughter and I work together on the housework most of the time.
DOND: He/she doesn't enjoy cooking, but would clean up after you if you were willing to do the cooking.
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RE: Deal or No deal - 4/25/2008 1:40:27 PM
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DOND: He/she doesn't enjoy cooking, but would clean up after you if you were willing to do the cooking.
Deal I don't like cooking but don't mind cleaning up.
DOND: You like watching a sport which they don't like and they watch a sport you don't like.
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RE: Deal or No deal - 4/25/2008 1:43:39 PM
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JustJeannie
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DOND: You like watching a sport which they don't like and they watch a sport you don't like.
Deal: As long as he will watch ANY sport my children are active in, meaning that he watches them play as oppose to the professional version of said sport!
DOND: He/she likes to sleep in on Saturdays and you're an early riser everyday.
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RE: Deal or No deal - 4/25/2008 6:52:40 PM
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DOND: He/she likes to sleep in on Saturdays and you're an early riser everyday.
Deal. I need a little alone time (not too much, but a bit) to function well, so this would be the perfect time to do it.
DOND: He looks feminine / she looks masculine (but is heterosexual).
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RE: Deal or No deal - 4/26/2008 2:12:51 PM
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DOND: They are very protective of you. Not controlling or even jealous, but very protective.
That's a tricky one. I want to be protected, but I also don't want him to think that I can't take care of myself. Deal but probably with some trial and error.
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DOND: They sing constantly.
No deal if it's constant (and I'm a singer!). Some things just can't be said in song, no matter what the musicals think.
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DOND: They refuse to do house and/or yard work so you either have to do it all yourself or hire it out.
No deal. We should each assume tasks as part of doing our share.
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DOND: He/she doesn't enjoy cooking, but would clean up after you if you were willing to do the cooking.
Deal (although he'd hate to clean up my cooking mess!)
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DOND: You like watching a sport which they don't like and they watch a sport you don't like.
Deal as long as we don't force each other to always watch them together. If he watched that sport all the time, though, I wouldn't enjoy it. I don't want the boob tube to control and direct our lives and activities.
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DOND: He/she likes to sleep in on Saturdays and you're an early riser everyday.
No problem.
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DOND: He looks feminine / she looks masculine (but is heterosexual).
No deal. I already look feminine and wouldn't be attracted to a feminine-looking man.
DOND: They were once deeply entrenched in the world but now lived sold out to God.
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RE: Deal or No deal - 4/26/2008 3:30:40 PM
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DOND: They are very protective of you. Not controlling or even jealous, but very protective.
Deal; I prefer a protective man. But one who is secure also.
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DOND: They sing constantly.
Deal;
Nothing like a happy heart.(My little sings constantly, they can sing together.)
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DOND: They refuse to do house and/or yard work so you either have to do it all yourself or hire it out.
No deal. Laziness is something I do not handle well. I need a guy with a little motivation.
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DOND: He/she doesn't enjoy cooking, but would clean up after you if you were willing to do the cooking.
Deal; I really like to do the planning and the cooking. That way I can make sure we are all eating balanced meals. If he cleans up that would be cool, I have never had that. It would be nice.
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DOND: You like watching a sport which they don't like and they watch a sport you don't like.
Deal ; As long as he does not want me to sit thru it with him.
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DOND: He/she likes to sleep in on Saturdays and you're an early riser everyday.
Deal; I am an early riser, but I could read until he gets up.
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DOND: He looks feminine / she looks masculine (but is heterosexual).
I am really attracted to a manly man. so no deal.
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DOND: They were once deeply entrenched in the world but now lived sold out to God.
Deal; As long as that was a long time ago.
Therefore, I tell you, her many sins have been forgiven—for she loved much. But he who has been forgiven little loves little." Luke 7:47
DOND: They are an artist and have their work all over their house, You do not really like their art.
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RE: Deal or No deal - 4/26/2008 6:58:30 PM
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rgod
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DOND: They were once deeply entrenched in the world but now lived sold out to God.
Deal. I'd praise the Lord for it.
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DOND: They are an artist and have their work all over their house, You do not really like their art.
No Deal. The reason is because if they are an artist, the work is a very important part of their identity. It is one thing to not like a few pieces, but a whole different thing to not like any of it. I could only hide my dislike for it for so long - and I think that he would feel really crushed and hurt because in many ways, it is an extension of him. If someone hated all of my books (when I write them) - I'd feel badly. Plus artists tend to be a bit insecure and sensitive; they (we) need bolstering. I need to be able to appreciate his art to do that.
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DOND: They refuse to do house and/or yard work so you either have to do it all yourself or hire it out.
No Deal unless we can hire all of the yardwork and part of the housework out.
It is nice to hear from some of you that are singers (shemaromans, followtheleader's little child?). I spontaneously sing a lot and think it would be very hard to be married to me if you don't like singing.
OK .... drum roll please ....
DOND: Your spouse doesn't generally like to be touched, held or hugged - unless absolutely necessary for the task at hand (like a speeding car is hurtling in their path and you need to push them out of the way).
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RE: Deal or No deal - 4/30/2008 7:33:02 AM
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DOND: He/she doesn't enjoy cooking, but would clean up after you if you were willing to do the cooking.
Sounds like a match... I enjoy cooking, just not the cleaning. Deal!!
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DOND: You like watching a sport which they don't like and they watch a sport you don't like.
Deal! We could either compromise and watch each other's sport, or each watch our own sport!
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DOND: He/she likes to sleep in on Saturdays and you're an early riser everyday.
Depends on how late they like to sleep in. If it's just an hour or two past me, then deal! But if I have to be quiet around the house for several hours... sorry, I've had enough of that already with a teenager. 
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DOND: He looks feminine / she looks masculine (but is heterosexual).
Doesn't matter too much to me. I've known a lot of guys who looked "feminine" according to society's standards, and they were some of the most caring people I knew. Deal!
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DOND: They were once deeply entrenched in the world but now lived sold out to God.
Deal! They usually have awesome testimonies and a deep love for God.
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DOND: They are an artist and have their work all over their house, You do not really like their art.
I would prefer a simple living space, but if they want to display their art, then deal. My mom and dad both have their art and woodwork all over the house and it doesn't match, but it doesn't look bad either.
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DOND: Your spouse doesn't generally like to be touched, held or hugged - unless absolutely necessary for the task at hand (like a speeding car is hurtling in their path and you need to push them out of the way).
No deal. While I'm not an overly affectionate person, I don't want to live life without being touched, either.
DOND: He/she wants you to make all the big adjustments/changes in the relationship (i.e. moving, changing to their church).
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RE: Deal or No deal - 4/30/2008 4:21:44 PM
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John_O
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DOND: They sing constantly.
Deal. We'll do duets!
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DOND: They refuse to do house and/or yard work so you either have to do it all yourself or hire it out.
Yard work is my job. If they want to help that's great. House work is normally her job. I choose to help as I can. Right now I do it all so any assistance I get is a huge bonus. Deal.
Of course they would have to be contributing to the household somehow, not just lazy dead weight. KWIM?
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DOND: He/she doesn't enjoy cooking, but would clean up after you if you were willing to do the cooking.
It's probably the other way. Most folk enjoy cooking more than I do. But I will clean up after as a division of labor. Deal
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DOND: You like watching a sport which they don't like and they watch a sport you don't like.
Deal. We can get our reading time in.
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DOND: He/she likes to sleep in on Saturdays and you're an early riser everyday.
I'm the sleeper inner. As long as she lets me sleep. Deal.
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DOND: He looks feminine / she looks masculine (but is heterosexual).
No deal. (OK so I'm shallow)
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DOND: They were once deeply entrenched in the world but now lived sold out to God.
Deal. The present is what counts. The past is just the lessons we learned on the way to here. God has used my past before even though there's things there I'm not proud of.
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DOND: They are an artist and have their work all over their house, You do not really like their art.
Ooohh this one is tough. I'd have to say no deal though. A person's artistic expression normally displays who they are inside. If I didn't like their art then I probably wouldn't like them inside either.
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DOND: Your spouse doesn't generally like to be touched, held or hugged - unless absolutely necessary for the task at hand (like a speeding car is hurtling in their path and you need to push them out of the way).
No deal. I am very tactile and intend to be touching her, holding her, carressing her a lot (even more if I can figure out how!)
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DOND: He/she wants you to make all the big adjustments/changes in the relationship (i.e. moving, changing to their church).
This is very hard for me as I am that person. While the church we attend is open to the leading of teh Holy Spirit once we get married, the location is set in stone. I can't rip the Girl away from her mamaw. She's lost too much already. So I'd have to say no deal to this simply because I cannot move.
DOND: They are the person that everyone brings there problems to. They have an excellent ear to listen and people talk to them.
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RE: Deal or No deal - 4/30/2008 5:12:16 PM
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JustJeannie
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DOND: He/she doesn't enjoy cooking, but would clean up after you if you were willing to do the cooking. It's probably the other way. Most folk enjoy cooking more than I do. But I will clean up after as a division of labor. Deal
That is me, too.
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DOND: He/she likes to sleep in on Saturdays and you're an early riser everyday. I'm the sleeper inner. As long as she lets me sleep. Deal.
Again, me too.
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DOND: He/she wants you to make all the big adjustments/changes in the relationship (i.e. moving, changing to their church). This is very hard for me as I am that person. While the church we attend is open to the leading of teh Holy Spirit once we get married, the location is set in stone. I can't rip the Girl away from her mamaw. She's lost too much already. So I'd have to say no deal to this simply because I cannot move.
Another similarity....spooky.........
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DOND: They are the person that everyone brings there problems to. They have an excellent ear to listen and people talk to them.
Deal: I think it would be a nice change of pace. I am usually the listener. I would like to have a mate who can empathize for once........
DOND: He/she treats his/her own children differently than yours (not necessarily better, either, just different).
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RE: Deal or No deal - 4/30/2008 9:47:39 PM
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DOND: They are an artist and have their work all over their house, You do not really like their art.
Deal if he had a studio to keep them in. I can't imagine getting involved with an artist, though.
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DOND: Your spouse doesn't generally like to be touched, held or hugged - unless absolutely necessary for the task at hand (like a speeding car is hurtling in their path and you need to push them out of the way).
No deal. Touch is important.
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DOND: He/she wants you to make all the big adjustments/changes in the relationship (i.e. moving, changing to their church).
It depends upon the relationship and the circumstances involved, but deal if he's a near-perfect match.
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DOND: They are the person that everyone brings there problems to. They have an excellent ear to listen and people talk to them.
Deal. It shows that he's more than likely a good listener, compassionate, and wise.
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DOND: He/she treats his/her own children differently than yours (not necessarily better, either, just different).
Deal depending upon the reason. The children would probably be different, so different treatment would make sense. If he treated them differently in a negative way, then no deal. I don't have children, so this doesn't apply to me.
DOND: They're quiet when tired and overworked and just want to be hugged for a while.
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RE: Deal or No deal - 5/1/2008 12:29:42 AM
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DOND: Your spouse doesn't generally like to be touched, held or hugged - unless absolutely necessary for the task at hand (like a speeding car is hurtling in their path and you need to push them out of the way).
NO DEAL!!!! Affection is a must.
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DOND: He/she wants you to make all the big adjustments/changes in the relationship (i.e. moving, changing to their church).
No deal!!!! I would eventually feel resentful and would probably very stubborn on some "little" point. I know myself.
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DOND: They are the person that everyone brings there problems to. They have an excellent ear to listen and people talk to them.
Deal - but I think it would be difficult. I am this way as well, and this could be draining. We'd have to police each other to make sure that we are not getting too drained.
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DOND: He/she treats his/her own children differently than yours (not necessarily better, either, just different).
No Deal. I know exactly what this feels like and wouldn't inflict this on any other person.
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DOND: They're quiet when tired and overworked and just want to be hugged for a while.
Deal - I could easily do this or even leave him to himself while I love him in other ways (like fixing him a nice dinner or keeping the kids away while he unwinds a bit.)
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RE: Deal or No deal - 5/1/2008 1:58:12 PM
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DOND: He/she treats his/her own children differently than yours (not necessarily better, either, just different).
No deal. Whille it may be hard to do it is so essential to the health of the children and of the family. When I remarry there will be no "steps" No step brothers or sisters, no step mom's or dads. Family is family.
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DOND: They're quiet when tired and overworked and just want to be hugged for a while.
Seeing as I am very tactile I will love holdingher anyway I think we can say deal to this. Who know's? If she's lucky that day I may just throw in a backrub or a foot massage too.
DOND: Their work habits are somewhta bi-polar. They are a whirlwind of activity for a while and then calm and still for a while. This means that jobs around the house get done in fits and starts but always get done.
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RE: Deal or No deal - 5/1/2008 5:02:12 PM
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DOND: They are the person that everyone brings there problems to. They have an excellent ear to listen and people talk to them.
Deal! It shows they are well-trusted and compassionate -- two traits I consider very important for a healthy relationship.
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DOND: He/she treats his/her own children differently than yours (not necessarily better, either, just different).
Deal! I think we treat everyone a little differently -- some people need more gentleness, some more firmness, depending on their personality. And of course, we treat our children differently than others. They're our children. As long as they're respectful, kind, and loving towards my son, I'm happy with that.
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DOND: They're quiet when tired and overworked and just want to be hugged for a while.
Deal. I'm the same way.
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DOND: Their work habits are somewhta bi-polar. They are a whirlwind of activity for a while and then calm and still for a while. This means that jobs around the house get done in fits and starts but always get done.
Deal. I think most people are like this. It's not easy to sustain attention on housework, or even work-work, when there's more important things that need our attention. But it shows that he enjoys the work, otherwise he wouldn't be giving it so much attention, even if just for a little while.
DOND: He/she Is not a very good patient. Will follow doctors orders, but cannot completely rest or let others do their work for them.
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RE: Deal or No deal - 5/1/2008 6:16:45 PM
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shemaromans
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If she's lucky that day I may just throw in a backrub or a foot massage too.
Deal! (I know it wasn't presented in that fashion, but it's too enticing to pass up)
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DOND: Their work habits are somewhta bi-polar. They are a whirlwind of activity for a while and then calm and still for a while. This means that jobs around the house get done in fits and starts but always get done.
Deal as long as the really important stuff doesn't get put off. I'm often like that.
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I think we treat everyone a little differently -- some people need more gentleness, some more firmness, depending on their personality. And of course, we treat our children differently than others. They're our children. As long as they're respectful, kind, and loving towards my son, I'm happy with that.
Michelle, that's kind of what I was getting at. As long as favoritism isn't shown, it's okay to approach the kids in varying ways.
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DOND: He/she Is not a very good patient. Will follow doctors orders, but cannot completely rest or let others do their work for them.
Deal. That can be remedied (I knew there was a reason that God made me stubborn).
DOND: You'd have to wait a year before they could relocate to be in the same city/town/village/hamlet as you.
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RE: Deal or No deal - 5/1/2008 9:51:24 PM
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John_O
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DOND: He/she Is not a very good patient. Will follow doctors orders, but cannot completely rest or let others do their work for them.
Deal. M was that way. Great nurse but rotten patient. I found that if I sat on her I could get her to do what the doctor ordered.
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DOND: You'd have to wait a year before they could relocate to be in the same city/town/village/hamlet as you.
Deal. waiting a year when you know they are coming is easy. Waiting because you don't know them yet is tough. Besides it lets you get ready for the move in.
DOND: They are a serious hiker and expect you to walk with them. Lots
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RE: Deal or No deal - 5/1/2008 11:08:02 PM
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DOND: They are a serious hiker and expect you to walk with them. Lots
Deal. That's a lot of fun, and the longer the hike, the better.
DOND: They only like butter on their toast and pancakes. No preserves or syrup.
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RE: Deal or No deal - 5/1/2008 11:16:19 PM
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shemaromans
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Deal...but that's just weird, fellow angel of mine.
LOL! I never said I was normal. 
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RE: Deal or No deal - 5/5/2008 6:20:17 PM
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DOND: Pours sugar on everything he/she eats.
As long as I don't have to eat it, deal--although I'd worry about his health.
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DOND: She gets caught up in movies, he prefers the internet.
Deal. I'm sure we'd compromise at times and give each other space at others.
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LOL! I never said I was normal.
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I get the feeling few other people have either.
LOL! What would ever give you that idea?
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DOND: Dissects all the food they eat (Whe eating pizza for example, they eat the sausage and then the pepperoni and then the cheese and then the crust)
Deal as long as I don't have to do the same (especially with pizza. A solitary pepperoni here and there, sure, but overall it's meant to be eaten whole).
DOND: Sometimes they like to stare out the window deep in thought and watch the rain.
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