Proverbs 31 Ministries is a non-denominational, non-profit Christian ministry that seeks to lead women into a personal relationship with Christ. With Proverbs 31:10-31 as a guide, Proverbs 31 Ministries reaches women right in the middle of their busy day through free daily devotions, radio program, speaking events, conferences, monthly magazine, resources, online communities, and Gather and Grow groups. We are real women offering real-life solutions to women who are striving to maintain life’s balance, in spite of today’s hectic pace and cultural pull away from godly principles. Wherever a woman may be on her spiritual journey, Proverbs 31 Ministries exists to be a trusted friend who takes her by the hand and walks by her side, leading her one step closer to the heart of God.
OCTOBER 28, 2014
Why are Women so Hard on Each Other?
"Do not withhold good from those who deserve it when it's in your power to help them." Proverbs 3:27 (NLT)
"Why, when a woman walks in a room, do all the other women size her up?" my husband asked.
Where was the nearest rock? I thought, as I desperately wanted to crawl under one. My husband had just pointed out what I've often seen, but didn't think others noticed. Our insecurity tends to come out when we're in situations where we feel "less than" or uncomfortable.
Greg's comment that evening stirred a series of questions in my mind.
What holds us back from offering encouragement when we know most of us struggle with feelings of insecurity?
Why, when we have the power to do so much good for each other, do we not do it?
Why would I not, when I have a good thought about another person, simply say it?
Beautiful comments we think in our head, yet fail to say such as:
"I noticed your kind act in the grocery store. You inspired me!
"Your generous heart makes me want to be giving as well!"
"When I see the boldness of your faith, I'm encouraged to be bold too."
The more I thought about it, the more I knew how easy it would be to start speaking good things about others.
King Solomon reinforced my thoughts as I read Proverbs 3:27, "Do not withhold good from those who deserve it when it's in your power to help them."
My heart heard a thought from God as I read this verse, "Lynn, do not withhold a compliment. When you speak good, you are doing My good."
So, I'm starting with this resolve: If I have a positive thought, I'm going to say it. It doesn't matter if I know you or if you are a woman I've never met. With God's help, I no longer want to withhold good from those who deserve or those who need it, when it is in my power to help them.
My prayer is that not only will I encourage others along the way, but my kids will see God's goodness pouring through me and they too will be inspired to not withhold good from others. If we'll join together and make sharing the good we see normal, we might just bring some really good change to the world.
Jesus, I want to be a bringer of Your good to my world today. In everyday moments like at the grocery store, when seeing my neighbor and as I go about my work, open my eyes to see the good in others and then call it out and encourage them with the power of my words. In Jesus' Name, Amen.
TRUTH FOR TODAY:
Galatians 5:22-23, "But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law." (NIV)
James 4:17, "If anyone, then, knows the good they ought to do and doesn't do it, it is sin for them." (NIV)
Do you know a teen girl you long to see grow in goodness and reach her God-given potential? If so, Lynn Cowell's latest book Magnetic: Becoming the Girl He Wants, a study based on the fruit of the Spirit, is for her!
Lynn is sharing on her blog today 10 Ways to Living out Goodness in our families. She's also giving away two copies of her new book!
REFLECT AND RESPOND:
Why do you think we can tend to be quick to judge but not easily share the good we see?
What holds you back from sharing the good you see in others?
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