Jennifer Kostick– Jennifer has been married for twenty-three years to her high school sweetheart, Paul. She is the mother of three children, Paul IV (22), Samuel (6), and Grace (6). She also has six babies residing in heaven. It is those six tiny souls who have propelled her into women’s ministry. She is a conference speaker and author of the book Nothing to Hold but Hope (one woman's journey through miscarriage, stillbirth, and infertility). Jennifer blogs at www.Jenniferkostick.com and is passionate about encouraging women through a godly message of mercy and hope.
Have you ever awakened to a new day filled with fresh mercy, but you just can’t see it? As soon as your eyes open there begins an assault of thoughts in your head that say you aren’t who you’re supposed to be. You’re not enough…
I fight it. I know it all too well.
Here is what I’ve learned:
It’s all about Him and should never be about me.
I’ve always been the type of person who views myself with an extremely critical eye. I tend to focus on what I could have done better. After my stepfather died I spent every second of every day trying to figure out why I didn’t see the warning signs. And then I practically drove myself crazy wondering how I was going to live with guilt that said I didn’t do anything to save him. Eventually, I recognized it’s not that I didn’t, it’s that I couldn’t. I wasn’t meant to.
This life and all the details that surround our biggest sorrows and greatest joys are not about us. They are about Christ. And if we can learn to see ourselves the way Christ sees us, then we will be spared heartache birthed from our own critical eyes. We have to come to the point where we understand that it’s possible to stop the infliction of shame and guilt. We were never intended to suffer it.
We bear too many burdens that we were never meant to carry, we worry more often than we should, and we fight battles we were never suited to fight. Why? Because we try to take everything into our own hands rather than hand the weight over to God. We draw attention to ourselves and the present battle, rather than on the God who already won every battle. Oh, friend, if we changed are war strategies to falling on our knees and letting God do what He must, life would be so much easier. Control is detrimental to the soul. It hurts way down deep.
I know I say this a lot, but I believe it’s a key component in learning how to live in the fullness and grace of our Lord Jesus. So here it is again, friend. You have worth because Christ is worthy.
There is therefore now no condemnation to those who are in Christ Jesus, who do not walk according to the flesh, but according to the Spirit.
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