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Courtnaye is a Christian blogger who loves writing to help women grow in their walk with the Lord. It's all about real talk, real issues, and real life in the faith! Don't miss out on her weekly posts every Monday at 7:30am on www.insideoutwithcourtnaye.org. For more info or questions, you can visit Courtnaye’s website or contact her via email. Also be sure to "Like" her page on Facebook. God bless!  

Courtnaye Richard

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Courtnaye is a Christian blogger who loves writing to help women grow in their walk with the Lord. It's all about real talk, real issues, and real life in the faith! Don't miss out on her weekly posts every Monday at 7:30am on www.insideoutwithcourtnaye.org. For more info or questions, you can visit Courtnaye’s website or contact her via email. Also be sure to "Like" her page on Facebook. God bless!  

When Plans Fail

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It’s quite normal to shout, “WHAT! But God?” Trust me. I get it! I’ve totally been there. And by the looks of it, you’re either here now or want to know more about how to get over it when your plans fail.

For starters, when this happens, I know it can be pretty disappointing, disheartening, or even downright humiliating. It may even be devastating! Again, I know all about it. Yet, I have also learned over the years that when our plans fail, it’s often because God either has a better plan or because He’s teaching us a life-changing principle or valuable lesson.

Simply stated - we’re not in control, sis. Plans go wrong or not as anticipated for all sorts of reasons. For instance, the Bible tells us in…

  • Proverbs 15:22, “Plans go wrong for lack of advice; many advisers bring success.”
  • Proverbs 16:3, “Commit your actions to the Lord, and your plans will succeed.”
  • Proverbs 19:21, “You can make yours plans, but the Lord’s plans will prevail.”
  • Proverbs 16:9, “We can make our plans, but the Lord determines our steps.”
  • Isaiah 55:8, “For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways, saith the Lord.”

The life lesson and application from these verses are…

  • We need to get advice. This means talking to people whom you trust and who will give you good, wise godly counsel before moving forward with your plans. This takes humility. But God can use that individual or individuals to give you exactly what you need.
  • Lift up your ideas and action plans to God. In other words, don’t move without Him. Commit it all to Him. Pray and ask the Lord what He would have you to do. Consult Him.The Bible states, “and your plans will succeed.”
  • At the end of the day, we can make our plans, but what God ultimately wants us to do will actually happen. His plans just work! #amen
  • Proverbs 16:9 is my personal favorite verse as it relates to planning. Visionaries have great ideas and plans. However, we have to know that the Lord will determine what steps will actually be taken. Trust is sooooo needed here. Letting go and relinquishing control, while also following His lead is crucial for a successful outcome.
  • Lastly, when we women get to thinking, we can really think, right? We can put a lot together in our minds. Yet, again. God is in control. On a grander scale, He knows exactly what needs to be done in our world. His ways are higher than ours (from experience, His thoughts are truly better too!) ;-)    

I know firsthand about this when I started writing my first book. I was going to write about something else. I had already written the title, laid out the front cover, wrote the back cover text and introduction...until I opened my Bible and read, Isaiah 55:8. I knew it was a God-shift.

Initially, I was like, "What! But God?" But after the initial disappointment, I knew that it wouldn't be wise to reason away His leading. So I went with the shift, ditched that title, and followed His lead on the new title, "IDENTIFIED: Knowing Who You Are in Christ & Moving Forward in Your Purpose." He told me, "I know where my people are right now. I know what they need." I'm super glad that I followed His plan over my own. It truly is all about His purpose.  

Guess what sis? It’s going to work out. And it’s going to work out for the best. You may or may not be familiar with the verse Romans 8:28, “And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose.” Key statement…His purpose. Key point…for good.

I say all of this to say, He loves you, sis. He’s called you for a purpose. And as long as you seek Him for direction, follow His Word and Holy Spirit, while also trusting that His plan is best, you will succeed. Again, disappointments will come. But when they do, try to embrace the new reality that even though your plan may have failed, God’s plan won't. In the long run, it will benefit everyone - including you. #trusthim #follow

Remember, Jesus is coming back soon! And those who endure unto the end shall be saved. So let’s be ready from the Inside Out!

~Courtnaye

QUESTION: Did a plan fail? How are you dealing with it? If you need prayer, state your prayer request here or you can email me directly @ [email protected]. I look forward to hearing from you and praying for you.

ALSO, just want to encourage you to grab my NEW book, “IDENTIFIED: Knowing Who You Are in Christ & Moving Forward in Your Purpose!” ORDER IT TODAY right here on Amazon.com! And if you already have it and have read it, please give me a REVIEW on Amazon.com. Thanks so much in advance.

*Tune in every Monday at 7:30am for new posts, “Like” my Facebook page (https://www.facebook.com/InsideOutWCourtnaye), and follow me on Twitter at https://twitter.com/InOutwCourtnaye. Also, share this blog with friends, family, co-workers, or your women’s group or ministry. I’d love to stay connected and help more women grow in the Lord! Thanks again and may God be with you!


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Remember, Jesus is coming back soon! And those who endure unto the end shall be saved. So let’s be ready from the Inside Out!

~Courtnaye

Prayer Request: If you need prayer in any area this week, let me know here in the comment section or you can email me directly @ [email protected]

ALSO, just want to encourage you to grab my NEW book, “IDENTIFIED: Knowing Who You Are in Christ & Moving Forward in Your Purpose!” ORDER IT TODAY right here on Amazon.com! And if you already have it and have read it, please give me a REVIEW on Amazon.com. Thanks so much in advance.

*Tune in every Monday at 7:30am for new posts, “Like” my Facebook page (https://www.facebook.com/InsideOutWCourtnaye), and follow me on Twitter at https://twitter.com/InOutwCourtnaye. Also, share this blog with friends, family, co-workers, or your women’s group or ministry. I’d love to stay connected and help more women grow in the Lord! Thanks again and may God be with you!


Becoming a Good Leader

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Do you believe in your heart that God is calling you to be a leader? Whether it’s at work, in your community, or in ministry, do you feel that tug? Some of you reading this may already be in a leadership position, but I believe there’s always room for growth…especially spiritually. Wherever you are at this point in the process, I believe that God has placed this post on my heart to share these helpful nuggets with you as He makes you into the leader that He has called you to be!

Now, let’s dive in! When God is making us into the leaders that He has called us to be, we have to try to wrap our minds around the fact that it takes time to make a great leader. So be patient with your leadership, yourself, others, and most importantly…God. Not only that, but it takes humility, proper training, personal growth through prayer, God’s Word and various sound teachings, tests, trials, self-discipline, staying faithful, and so much more. What I’ve found over the years is that to be a great leader, you will be proven.

And this means being proven by leadership, how we handle stress, tests, trials, assignments, and God’s people. In this post, I’m going to focus on certain points that I pray will be helpful to you as God shapes and molds you into the Christ-like leader that He desires you to be. So here goes…

Servant Leadership – This kind of leadership, I believe is what God desires of us. Corporate America teaches us to lead another way, but God’s way of leadership is through servant-hood. Keep in mind, Jesus came to serve, not to be served, and to give his life as a ransom for many (Matthew 20:28-NLT). So if we are going to be Christ-like leaders, then we are going to have to learn how to lay down our lives for others and genuinely serve those whom we lead. If you don’t really know how to do this, pray and ask God to show you when and how to implement this action. Also, here are a couple of good resources entitled, “Leading from the Heart: Choosing to be a Servant Leader” by Jack Kahl and “God’s Secret to Greatness: The Power of the Towel” by David Cape & Tommy Tenney.” Listen, sis. In order to be a leader, you have to be a servant. Jesus teaches us this principle in Matthew 20:26, “…Whoever wants to be a leader among you must be your servant.” (NLT) So serve well.

Letting Go of Bossiness – This type of leadership gets us nowhere. God is ultimately the Boss. We work for Him. And if we don’t want to be fired, demoted, or unqualified for the job, then we have to learn how to lead with humility. Humility means meekness. And meekness means being gentle, patient, mild, and not inclined to anger or resentment. Loaded right?! Sometimes, it may even look like you’re weak and you may even feel embarrassed at times or hurt when being humble. But this is ultimately God’s way and His process for honor and promotion. God loves working with humble people, because their reliance is totally on Him.

First Peter 5-6 tells us, “…And all of you, serve one another in humility, for ‘God sets himself against the proud, but he shows favor to the humble.’ So humble yourselves under the mighty power of God, and in his good timing he will honor you.” (NLT) There it is! If we want to be good leaders and receive God’s favor upon our lives, then we have to be humble. The bossiness has to go! Because in all actuality, that’s pride. And God hates it. So let’s practice leading with humility.

Don’t Micromanage – Been there! Don’t do it. All it does is aggravate people and it makes more work for you. Learn to delegate. I love it! It takes a load of stress off of you, and it allows you to focus more on what you need to do. Know that we’re all working together to get the job done. So, if you hire someone to do a job or fill a role – by all means, follow-up with them, but don’t micromanage them. Trust that he or she can get the job done. Give them the opportunity and the freedom to utilize their gifting, make mistakes, and grow. You and I are not the master of all things. Only God is…so let Him work through those whom He’s chosen you to lead to get the mission accomplished. You’ll be amazed at the peace you experience, the new relationship formed, and the end result. *I’ll tell you, the best boss that I’ve ever had not only encouraged me to do a good job, but he also trusted me to do what I was hired to do! And I’ll never forget his great leadership. ;-)

Lead with Intention – In other words, please lead. Have some goals in mind, share them with those you lead, and be intentional. Don’t expect people under your leadership to automatically know what to do. Train them. Jesus taught His disciples. He didn’t just say, “Okay, go out and change the world.” No, He spent time with them, taught them what they needed to know when He wouldn’t be around, and then He gave them the power to do what they needed to do. That’s a great leader! So take the time to spend time with those entrusted to you, care about them (not just the job or assignment), love them, train or teach them, and lead with intention.  

Take Care of Yourself as a Leader- Meaning…Take care of yourself spiritually and physically. First Timothy 4:7 says, “…spend your time and energy in training yourself for spiritual fitness. Physical fitness has some value, but spiritual exercise is much more important.” As leaders, we have to train spiritually. We have to study God’s Word, meditate on it, memorize it, and most importantly, do what it says. It doesn’t make sense to go to church, hear a message, or read a good article, blog, or Scripture and not OBEY what it says. That is deception according to what James 1:22 says, “But be ye doers of the word, and not hearers only, deceiving your own selves.”

Now, let me also say here, that the Bible is not telling us that exercise is not important. Yet, it’s simply telling us that spiritual fitness is much more important than it. So we still have to take care of our bodies. And we have to rest and please enjoy life. Take a nap, break, or mini-vacation. Schedule a massage, refresh or recharge your battery by going to a leadership seminar and/or Christian women’s conference. This is totally healthy on so many levels! In the end, they will work together to help you endure this race to the finish line well.

Managing Stress & Emotions as a Leader – No doubt, this is a tough one, especially for women in leadership. However, as a Christ-like leader, we have to be able to manage stress and our emotions better (particularly when we’re on assignment or deadline). Don’t let the crunch make you into a meanie cat! We still have to have fruit when we work together and when we’re under immense pressure. Jesus teaches us in John 15:8, “My true disciples produce much fruit. This brings great glory to my Father.” So you see, we have to lead with character. (See Galatians 5:22-23).

Actually, I believe this is when God is watching us the most. He’s watching us to see how we handle stress and His people as a leader. This is crucial, because we don’t want to hit the rock like Moses did in Numbers 20, right? Instead, we want to be like “Joshua!” Our goal is to go into the promise land, not forfeit it because of the people or uncontrolled emotions. God knows how to deal with the people. Our job is to lead them through our obedience to the Father, and by extending grace, mercy, and love, while keeping our emotions at bay. When we do this, God will be glorified!

Personally, I’ve discovered over the years that managing our emotions has a lot to do with our mindset. Just think about what you’re thinking about (Joyce Meyer quote). If we renew our minds with the Word of God, while setting our affections on things above and not on this earth, we’ll not only experience God’s amazing peace, but we’ll be able to manage our emotions and stress levels a whole lot better. The next time you’re in an emotional hot spot, try these biblical principles and see what happens. Also, here are a few extra Scripture references: Romans 12:2, Colossians 3:2, Isaiah 26:3, and Philippians 4:8.

*Listen sis. God makes leaders. It doesn’t just happen. Nothing happens by chance with God. So while you wait on those God promotions or walk in them, follow His lead to become a good leader. I know, this is far from easy. But anything that comes easy, doesn’t last.

It’s through God’s training process that He produces fruit that will remain, an anointing that destroys the yokes, and prepares you to handle His calling for your life. That’s right…His calling.  We have to always remember that it’s His plan, not ours. We’re just the vessels that He chooses to use to get the job done. ;-)

Remember, Jesus is coming back soon! And those who endure unto the end shall be saved. So let’s be ready from the Inside Out!

*Recommended books, “A Leader in the Making” by Joyce Meyer and “How to Enjoy Balanced Emotions” by Dr. Beverley Wolmarans (Call 210-490-2393 or visit www.christianfamilychurchsa.com for this resource).

QUESTION: Are you a leader? Or do you believe or know that God is training you to become a good leader at this time? How are things going? If you would like me to join you in prayer on something pertaining to leadership, you can either write it here or email me directly @ [email protected]. I look forward to hearing from you and praying for you.

ALSO, just want to encourage you to grab my NEW book, “IDENTIFIED: Knowing Who You Are in Christ & Moving Forward in Your Purpose!” ORDER IT TODAY right here on Amazon.com! And if you already have it and have read it, please give me a REVIEW on Amazon.com. Thanks so much in advance.

*Tune in every Monday at 7:30am for new posts, “Like” my Facebook page (https://www.facebook.com/InsideOutWCourtnaye), and follow me on Twitter at https://twitter.com/InOutwCourtnaye. Also, share this blog with friends, family, co-workers, or your women’s group or ministry. I’d love to stay connected and help more women grow in the Lord! Thanks again and may God be with you!