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Courtnaye is a Christian blogger who loves writing to help women grow in their walk with the Lord. It's all about real talk, real issues, and real life in the faith! Don't miss out on her weekly posts every Monday at 7:30am on www.insideoutwithcourtnaye.org. For more info or questions, you can visit Courtnaye’s website or contact her via email. Also be sure to "Like" her page on Facebook. God bless!  

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Courtnaye is a Christian blogger who loves writing to help women grow in their walk with the Lord. It's all about real talk, real issues, and real life in the faith! Don't miss out on her weekly posts every Monday at 7:30am on www.insideoutwithcourtnaye.org. For more info or questions, you can visit Courtnaye’s website or contact her via email. Also be sure to "Like" her page on Facebook. God bless!  

Recognizing the Season You're In

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If you were to examine your current situation or season in life right now, what would you say? Think about that for a quick moment. Would you say that you’re in a grinding season, dry season, getting married season, waiting for your godly mate season, raising small kids or teens season, empty nesting season, spiritual warfare season, tests and trials at nearly every turn season, growing closer to God season, and the list could go on and on, right? Gotcha! So let’s talk (or read) about recognizing life seasons in this week’s post.

In a natural sense, we know that seasons change. There’s winter, spring, summer, and fall. And although I’m not about to get poetic on you, I simply want you to truly recognize that just like the natural seasons change, the same happens as it relates to seasons in our lives. Yet, the key to success in getting through any of them well, is first recognizing where you are.

The Bible tells us in Ecclesiastes 3:1, “For everything there is a season.” It also tells us in Ecclesiastes 3:11, “Yet God has made everything beautiful for its own time.” Ultimately God is in control of all of the seasons, whether natural or within life. So it’s important for us to recognize that from the start.

Whichever season you’re currently in, try to understand that He’s making everything beautiful for its time. Let’s go a bit further…

The Dry Season – This is no doubt a tough season! Trust me. I’ve been there at various moments in my life, and I personally know how hard this one can be. For Christians, it’s usually called a spiritual dryness or a dry season. It’s when God is quiet or you can’t hear His voice or sense His presence as you once did. He seems very distant.

I believe one of the keys in getting through this challenging season is realizing that you are in this particular one, and to press through it. Meaning draw closer to Him anyway. Don’t wither up. Continue reading His Word. But also talk to Him, even though He’s quiet. Because guess what, sis? He is there. He hasn’t left His throne. Psalm 37:7 says, “Be still in the presence of the Lord, and wait patiently for him to act.”

In this season, it’s also good to do a self-examination. In other words, check to see if there’s anything that may be causing the silence or dryness (like unconfessed sin). If you think so, confess it, ask His forgiveness, repent, and keep drawing closer to Him (see 1 John 1:9). He’s a loving and forgiving Father.

And I’ll tell you, one thing about dry seasons…they don’t last forever. This season will change. Just keep the faith, keep trusting Him in the dryness, keep going to church, and keep praising and worshiping Him even when it’s hard and dry. The rain is coming.

The Waiting Season – Let me kick this one off by saying, "Waiting is NOT easy!" If you’re there now, I know…I know. Whether you're waiting on your godly husband, waiting for circumstances to change, waiting on something to be completed, or waiting on your purpose, waiting can be quite difficult. But hang in there, sis. You can get through this season. God has not forgotten you.

He’s planning. He’s pruning you. He’s chiseling away what’s not needed for the next level. He’s making you ready. So let Him work. And however long it takes, go with His flow and grow, because Father knows what’s best (and whose best).

And just know…one day the wait will be over! But until God says, "It's time." Keep the faith, don’t doubt, and wait with expectancy. King David cried out to God in Psalm 5:3, “Listen to my voice in the morning, Lord. Each morning I bring my requests to you and wait expectantly.” He’s listening and knows exactly where you are. Just hold onto your faith.

The Grinding Season – This is the busy season. This is the “I don’t have enough time in a day to get everything done!” season. But yes, you do. Remember, you have 24 hours in day and 7 days a week (but please find one day to rest). I’m just saying. ;-)

But seriously. I’m in this season right now as I write this to you. But the key to success and accomplishing much in this particular season is seeking God for direction the moment your feet hit the floor (if not the night before) and then plowing through your priorities when your work day begins. Attacking your priorities first will also help alleviate undue stress. You'll be amazed at how much you get accomplished when you do this. Try it.

Oh, and by all means...don't burn out! Pace yourself and your tasks. There's only one you. Breathe. Pray. Take a lunch break. Then carry on in your grind. Amen!

Also in this season, recognize what needs to get done, write things down, and press through with the strength God gives you, His provision, and divine grace. Rely on the Holy Spirit to lead and help you get through the grinding season. And don’t forget to spend time with those you love during this season. They need you.  #balance

The Tests & Trials Season - If you’re going through some hard times in this season, know that God is with you right there in the midst of it all. He’s totally at work. I know it’s hard when you’re in the middle of it, and you might not even understand what you’re going through or why. But I want to encourage you that God knows, and in due time, all will be revealed. In the meantime, don’t give up or get tired of doing good, sis.

This season will pass. If you need comfort, let Him comfort you. If you need strength beyond yourself, let Him strengthen you. If you need wisdom, ask and the Bible promises that it will be given to you (James 1:5). Sis, as hard as tests and trials may be, allow God to be God. Allow Him to do the supernatural work that only He can do. Allow Him to strengthen and increase your faith in this season of hardship or affliction.

Second Corinthians 4:17 states, “For our present troubles are small and won’t last very long. Yet they produce for us a glory that vastly outweighs them and will last forever! So we don’t look at the troubles we can see now; rather we fix our gaze on things that cannot be seen…” In this season, fix your thoughts on heavenly things, not on things on the earth. Fix your eyes on Jesus. #endure

The Spiritual Warfare Season – If you are in spiritual warfare, gird up! Don’t get caught up in civilian affairs, instead stay focused on what’s in front of you. If you are being spiritually attacked, evidently you’re doing something right…and the devil doesn’t like it. And whether you’re walking by faith regardless to your situation or doing what God has called and commissioned you to do…the enemy will wage a war against you. It comes with Christianity.

That’s why you’ll have to recognize that this is what’s happening and break out the Word to fight him and win. It’s not a natural battle against flesh and blood (even though it may appear to be), it’s the enemy. So put on your full armor as Ephesians 6:12-17 says.

Before I close this portion, just know that in every battle, there is an end. Someone wins. Let it be you! Get through this season with the Sword of the Spirit, faith, and prayer. Win!

Whew! There are so many seasons in life that we go through, right? So much so, that I was not able to get through many of them in one post. I would have liked to get to motherhood, marriage, and more, but if you have any questions or need prayer about any these areas, you can email me directly at [email protected].

I pray that this post has helped you this week. The key is recognizing which season you’re in and shifting your thought process to “God is with me. This too shall pass. He’s got me in this season and beyond.” ;-)

Remember, Jesus is coming back soon! And those who endure unto the end shall be saved. So let’s be ready from the Inside Out!

~Courtnaye

ALSO, just want to encourage you to grab my NEW book, “IDENTIFIED: Knowing Who You Are in Christ & Moving Forward in Your Purpose!” ORDER IT TODAY right here on Amazon.com! And if you already have it and have read it, please give me a REVIEW on Amazon.com. Thanks so much in advance.

*Tune in every Monday at 7:30am for new posts, “Like” my Facebook page (https://www.facebook.com/InsideOutWCourtnaye), and follow me on Twitter at https://twitter.com/InOutwCourtnaye. Also, share this blog with friends, family, co-workers, or your women’s group or ministry. I’d love to stay connected and help more women grow in the Lord! Thanks again and may God be with you!


How to Overcome Disappointments

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If you've opened this post, you’re either disappointed right now about something or someone, or maybe you simply want to learn more on how to overcome disappointments when they strike. Wherever you are on the topic, I pray that this post ministers to you, greatly.  Now let’s go deeper.

Either way you look at it, disappointments hurt. Yet, it’s a rather unique type of hurt. It’s more of an emotional pain. It’s like an internal let down to what you may have expected from someone or out of something. So without further delay, let’s talk about how to overcome this feeling as it relates to being disappointed in people, circumstances, and yourself.

Disappointed in People – When someone disappoints you, choose to forgive quickly. I know this one is not easy. Trust me, I know! But it’s freeing. And granted, it’s not that you’re denying the hurt, disappointment, or even frustration. Yet, the point here is that you try to make a conscious effort to release the individual.

Think about it this way. If you disappointed someone because you didn’t do what you said you were going to do, you would want that individual to forgive you, right? So do as Luke 6:31 states, “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.” It's truly the golden rule!

Disappointment in Circumstances – When things go wrong or not as expected on your job, for a church or ministry assignment, or even at home with your family, choose to pray and quickly renew your mind with the Word of God. You can also renew your mind by simply talking to yourself by saying something like, “It’s okay. I can get through this. Lord, please help me to get through this.”

Remember King David? He talked to himself in Psalm 42:11 crying out, “Why am I discouraged? Why is my heart so sad? I will put my hope in God! I will praise him again-My Savior and my God!”

You see. You have to be open and honest with yourself and God, and then shift your focus. Place your hope and trust in Him and praise Him in the midst of the disappointment. God is truly at work...even when you don't see or feel it.

Disappointment in Yourself – Have you ever beat yourself up over something you did or didn’t do? How did you get through it before reading this post? Either way, I want to encourage you, don’t beat yourself up. Again, go to God about it and talk to Him. Again, be open about where you are and get free...today sis.

Once you realize that you’ve missed a step in something, confess it, repent, ask for God’s forgiveness, and move forward. Because if you don’t, the enemy would love to play with you in your mind…constantly reminding you about your failure or lack of accomplishment. But don’t give him the satisfaction. Instead, shrug him off with the Word in Psalm 34:17-18, “The Lord hears his people when they call to him for help. He rescues them from all their troubles. The Lord is close to the brokenhearted; he rescues those whose spirits are crushed.” BOOM!

Listen sis. Nothing happens by chance. Actually, God has already pre-screened your life’s disappointments. However, because you don’t know when they will strike, your job is to purposefully kick into trusting and praising Him in the midst of the emotional pain, let down, or discouragement.

Also know that it’s going to work out for the good in the end. Romans 8:28 tells us, “And we know that God causes everything to work together for the good of those who love God and are called according to his purpose for them.” Believe this verse. He’s got a purpose and a plan for it all, my sister.

So grow from your hurt, release it to Him, choose forgiveness, keep your head lifted, allow joy to shine forth, praise the Lord, keep moving forward, and trust the Holy Spirit to show you what to do next. Loaded right? Yet, this is how you overcome disappointments.

Remember, Jesus is coming back soon! And those who endure unto the end shall be saved. So let’s be ready from the Inside Out!

~Courtnaye

QUESTION: Are you disappointed about something right now? Want to talk about it? If you need prayer in this area, I’ll join you on it. You can email me directly @ [email protected]. Talk to you soon!

ALSO, just want to encourage you to grab my NEW book, “IDENTIFIED: Knowing Who You Are in Christ & Moving Forward in Your Purpose!” ORDER IT TODAY right here on Amazon.com! And if you already have it and have read it, please give me a REVIEW on Amazon.com. Thanks so much in advance.

*Tune in every Monday at 7:30am for new posts, “Like” my Facebook page (https://www.facebook.com/InsideOutWCourtnaye), and follow me on Twitter at https://twitter.com/InOutwCourtnaye. Also, share this blog with friends, family, co-workers, or your women’s group or ministry. I’d love to stay connected and help more women grow in the Lord!

Thanks again and may God be with you!


Silencing the Noise in Your Busy Life

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We live in a noisy world, today. This was actually confirmed even more so at a recent women’s conference that I attended this past weekend. Everybody’s busy. Are you? I know that I am. But guess what? I would venture to say that yes, God wants us to be busy doing what He’s called us to do, no doubt! However, I don’t think He wants us to be so busy to the point where we allow the responsibilities to outweigh the relationship.

Are you getting this?

Again, we live in a noisy world. Think about it. For most of us, when we wake up in the morning, the alarm clock buzzes loudly, our phones start going crazy with Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, LinkedIn, Pinterest and email alerts or text messages. Then all of a sudden, we begin to hear reminders of what needs to be done for the day or the kids, hubby, boss, or news on TV gets louder and louder.

Let’s face it. We live in a noisier world than ever before! And we do in fact, have busy lives. Yet, at some point, it needs to be silenced to connect with God on a deeper level. It needs to be silenced to spend quality time with our kids. It needs to be silenced to stop and pray or intercede for someone else’s need. It needs to be silenced to re-prioritize or reassess. It needs to be silenced to take time off to spend with your husband or a friend uninterrupted by the dings from your phone. It needs to be silenced to get things back in the proper order for whatever that looks like in your personal life. The noise needs to be silenced.

For a brief moment I want to share with you an excerpt from the book “Breaking Busy” by Alli Worthington. It’s actually something that Christine Cain wrote in the Forward of her book. She said, “Busy is intoxicating. We live in a day and age when we seem to get high on being busy. In fact, we wear the label like a badge of honor, a secret seal of approval, a validation and proof of our worthiness.” Ouch! That passage hit me like a ton of bricks, because it’s true…unfortunately.

Are you guilty of saying, “I’m busy,” when someone asks you, “How are you these days?” I know I’m guilty. But have you ever thought about how much you say this? For a minute, think about why you say it so much. Do you wear busyness like a badge of honor, a secret seal of approval, or to validate or prove your worth?

I want to encourage you this week, to break busy…to silence the noise so that you can spend more time in God’s Word, in prayer for you and others, but to also open up space to spend time with those you love and even do something for yourself that’s mindless. In other words, watch a good movie, read a book you’ve been wanting to read, schedule that massage or spa day…whatever you do, silence the noise.

Here are a few Scriptures to help you accomplish this…

James 4:8, “Draw nigh to God, and he will draw nigh to you.”

Psalm 119:133, “Guide my steps by your word, so I will not be overcome by evil.”

Psalm 119:11, “Thy word is a lamp unto my feet, and a light unto my path.”

Psalm 46:10, “Be still and know that I am God.”

Psalm 23:1-3, “The Lord is my shepherd; I have all that I need. He lets me rest in green meadows; he leads me beside peaceful streams. He renews my strength. He guides me along right paths, bringing honor to his name.”

Philippians 2:3-4, “Don’t be selfish, don’t try to impress others. Be humble, thinking of others as better than yourselves. Don’t look out only for your own interests, but take interest in others, too.”

When we spend time in God’s Word, we not only draw closer to Him, but we also have more peace, fruit (character), strength, and wisdom to accomplish all that He desires. We also have more to spend with others that we love and care about. And keep in mind of what God’s Word says in Philippians 1:6, “He who began a good work in you will complete it until the day of Jesus Christ.” He will do it! So let's keep calm and silence the noise in our busy lives.

Remember, Jesus is coming back soon! And those who endure unto the end shall be saved. So let’s be ready from the Inside Out!

~Courtnaye

QUESTION: Is the world around you noisy? Are you super busy and know that you need to spend more time with God and others, yet just can’t seem to silence the noise because of all the demands on your life right now? If you need prayer in this area, I’ll join you on it. You can email me directly @ [email protected]. Talk to you soon!

ALSO, just want to encourage you to grab my NEW book, “IDENTIFIED: Knowing Who You Are in Christ & Moving Forward in Your Purpose!” ORDER IT TODAY right here on Amazon.com! And if you already have it and have read it, please give me a REVIEW on Amazon.com. Thanks so much in advance.

*Tune in every Monday at 7:30am for new posts, “Like” my Facebook page (https://www.facebook.com/InsideOutWCourtnaye), and follow me on Twitter at https://twitter.com/InOutwCourtnaye. Also, share this blog with friends, family, co-workers, or your women’s group or ministry. I’d love to stay connected and help more women grow in the Lord! Thanks again and may God be with you!