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Courtnaye is a Christian blogger who loves writing to help women grow in their walk with the Lord. It's all about real talk, real issues, and real life in the faith! Don't miss out on her weekly posts every Monday at 7:30am on www.insideoutwithcourtnaye.org. For more info or questions, you can visit Courtnaye’s website or contact her via email. Also be sure to "Like" her page on Facebook. God bless!  

Courtnaye Richard

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Courtnaye is a Christian blogger who loves writing to help women grow in their walk with the Lord. It's all about real talk, real issues, and real life in the faith! Don't miss out on her weekly posts every Monday at 7:30am on www.insideoutwithcourtnaye.org. For more info or questions, you can visit Courtnaye’s website or contact her via email. Also be sure to "Like" her page on Facebook. God bless!  

Responding Properly Under Pressure

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If you clicked onto this post, you’re probably shouting, “Yes! How do you do it?” Trust me. If you feel this way, I totally get it, because I’ve been where you are before, too. Actually, I wish I could’ve read a post like this one years ago! But here it is, my sister. Tried and true. So let’s talk about how to respond properly under pressure.

First of all, let me ask this quick question. What’s got you under pressure? Or maybe I should also pose this question, “Who’s stressing you out?” Either one of those should work for this particular post. Yet, in either case, the first step to responding well under any form of pressure is finding out where the pressure point lies. Once you know, breathe in. And then breathe out.

And the reason why I’m saying this is because taking a deep pause before you respond or react to the current situation, problem, or person will allow you to think and consider what your next action steps will be. It will also allow you the time to pray and quickly ask the Lord to help you to respond the way He would want you to respond, as His daughter.

The Bible tells us in Philippians 4:6, “…pray about everything.” And Philippians 2:13-14 says, “For God is working in you, giving you the desire and the power to do what pleases him. Do everything without complaining and arguing, so that no one can criticize you. Live clean, innocent lives as children of God, shining like bright lights in a world full of crooked and perverse people.”

There is nothing that our great enemy Satan wants more than to accuse us (the brethren/saints) of some wrongdoing against God’s truth (See Job 2:1-6). He wants us to respond improperly, and he knows that we’re especially vulnerable or more likely to do that when we’re under pressure. That’s why we have to be sensitive to our own feelings, emotions, pressure points, and the enemy before we do or say something that we will later regret.

Think about it for a moment. How many people have lost jobs over “losing it” because they just couldn’t take anymore from a boss or another employee? Or what about blowing up over something or making a fuss over something that didn’t require that much fussing over. And then realizing afterwards that it really didn’t have to be all of that. Emotions are powerful, and that’s why we have to keep them in check.

Personally, I just had a situation happen to me this past week where I was emotionally high and super overwhelmed with work, kids, home stuff, and ministry work. I was really reaching a boiling point. The spiritual warfare was full on! And just as I felt this immense pressure building even more, I got an email alert on my phone about something dealing with one of my kid’s assignments at school. The teacher gave my son a 0 for homework that according to her records wasn’t completed.

Well, as an already stressed out woman and mother, my initial thought was to call the teacher to let her know that the grade was wrong, because I personally worked on the assignment with him, and yadda, yadda, yadda. But I didn’t call. Instead, I took a deep breath, paused, talked to my husband and told him that I just needed to take a ride. And I did. I also prayed along the way. But do you know what really helped me more than anything else as I poured out my heart to God? His Word.

You see, on my emotional journey, my husband in-boxed me a video on Facebook to watch about how “not” to allow your feelings to control you and to be more disciplined in getting what needs to get done in the season you’re currently in, done. Not to mention, my devotion that morning was also talking about not letting your feelings control your actions. So God was definitely speaking to me. With that being said, I heeded the messages. And I’ll tell you, the heaviness began to lift almost immediately. I experienced true freedom and joy through the Word of God. Hallelujah!

So I’m saying all of this to say, breathe, pray, and allow God’s Word to help you respond well when you’re under pressure. Don’t let your emotions take over and mess things up. Because guess what? When I got back home (after my long and awesome emotional breakthrough ride), I noticed that my son’s schoolwork (that was supposed to be turned in) was on my office desk. WHOA!!!!

Now imagine if I would’ve called the school to gripe about his grade. My son forgot it at home! So the teacher was absolutely right. And as I sat there alone in my office, I asked, “Now God, what was that about?” And He showed me through that real life experience how important it is for us to control our emotions and to be mindful of the enemy when we’re under pressure (because he is an accuser of the brethren…he wants us to displease God or sin against Him in some way to point the finger at us to our Father). God allowed it, just as He did with Job.

But this experience also reminded me to walk in the Spirit by responding with godly character (the fruit of the Spirit: love, joy, peace, patience, gentleness, goodness, faith, humility, or self-control-See Galatians 5:22-23). Because before I took that long ride, I prayed and asked, “Okay Lord, which fruit of the Spirit do I need right now?” And the Holy Spirit’s response to me was self-control and meekness (humility). So that’s what I did. I put my flesh under subjection to operate in self-control as I humbled myself under God’s Word and the Holy Spirit’s direction. And it all worked out! I grew from it.

Listen, sis. If you’re super busy right now, be on guard. If you’re stressed out by anything or anyone, bring it to God in prayer, open up to Him, and listen to His Word. Because ultimately He knows how to help you through it. Also, be open to what He may want to teach you in the process. In addition, keep in mind that the enemy loves it when you’re busy or under a lot of stress or pressure. So stay sober and alert.

One more thing...Don’t explode! Don’t blow the roof off. Don’t go crazy! Because the Holy Spirit is right there to help you respond properly under pressure. Just let the Word of God minister to you to help lift your weary or frustrated spirit and to bring your joy back. And don’t forget to ask, “Lord, which fruit of the Spirit do I need to operate in right now?” And flow in it. Trust me. It works!

Remember, Jesus is coming back soon! And those who endure unto the end shall be saved. So let’s be ready from the Inside Out!

~Courtnaye

QUESTION: Are you under a lot of pressure right now in the season? Are you busy and overwhelmed? Need prayer or want to talk about it? If so, you can email me directly @ [email protected] and we can talk and stand together in prayer about it.

ALSO, my new book is OUT!!! YAY!!! It’s entitled, “IDENTIFIED: Knowing Who You Are in Christ & Moving Forward in Your Purpose!” GRAB IT TODAY!!! You can order it from Barnes & Noble, Amazon, or download it on your Kindle. Here’s the link and I would also LOVE it if you can give me a REVIEW on Amazon.com about it after you’ve read it. That would help not only more women to take notice of the book, but also bump me to becoming a Best Seller in my industry! So I would greatly appreciate if you would consider doing that for me. Thanks for reading my blog today! Here’s the link to order your copy of IDENTIFIED…https://www.amazon.com/s/ref=nb_sb_noss_2?url=search-alias%3Daps&field-keywords=identified+courtnaye+richard

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I hope this blog post has ministered to you in some way and I pray that you’ve been enlightened from this post. Feel absolutely free to leave a comment or for questions you can email me directly at [email protected], and I will respond promptly. Also, if this post and ministry has blessed your life, please consider making a donation of any amount today to help further the gospel here @ http://www.insideoutwithcourtnaye.org/.

*And don’t forget to tune in every Monday at 7:30am for new posts, “Like” my Facebook page (https://www.facebook.com/InsideOutWCourtnaye), and follow me on Twitter at https://twitter.com/InOutwCourtnaye. Also, share this blog with friends, family, co-workers, or your women’s group or ministry. I’d love to stay connected and help more women grow in the Lord! Thanks again and may God be with you!


How to Deal with Difficult People

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Have you ever dealt with difficult people in your life before? You know, the ones that you just want to pull your hair out over! Think about that for a moment. I would imagine that you probably didn’t have to go that deep in thought. Now let me ask you this question. Can you think of a few people in your life currently, that may be a little difficult to deal with right now?

If so, I’ve been there before, too! I don’t know if you’ve noticed, but I’ve discovered that once you overcome one, here comes another. It’s like they are assigned to you! LOL! Nevertheless, I know that God is at work here, and I’m sure He’s at work in you too (and He will complete it until the day of Jesus Christ). With that being said, I believe that one of the sheer reasons God allows this continual process of being around difficult people, is so that we can truly learn how to “love” individuals the way Christ loves us.

When I began working on this post, I kept hearing the word, “love.” Now, some of you may be thinking, “What? That’s it. That’s all you’ve got Courtnaye?!” And I would answer a wholehearted, “Yes.” Romans 13:8 states, “Owe no man anything, but to love one another…” It may seem simple, but if you’ve ever overcome to some extent in this area, you’ll agree that loving a difficult person is anything but easy - especially when you’re met with opposition.

Before we go any further, let’s take the love test. This is a good way to tell if you’re around a difficult person. Here we go! Do you cringe when that individual comes around? Do you feel like you’re walking on eggshells with him or her? Does that person say negative things when you’re trying to be positive? Let me ask another question…please. How have you dealt with that difficult person in the past or recently?

Did you lash out, give him or her piece of your mind, or respond improperly in some way? If you did, and if you haven’t asked the Lord for forgiveness already, take a moment to do so right now. Get free. Because God is calling you to love…no matter how difficult the individual or individuals may be, He’s making you more mature in your love walk.  

Trust me. I know this is not easy. Remember, I’ve been there before countless times. But here’s the key. Here’s the how-to-part. When you’re face-to-face with a difficult person in your life, love them with a friendly greeting, give a hug, smile, be cordial, and pray for him or her and yourself in the process. This is not being fake. Instead, it’s being a Christian.

Also, choose to respond properly. Choose to keep loving them in spite of the difficulty. And choose to go out of your way to make things right, it at all possible. The Bible says in Romans 12:17-18, “Never pay back evil with more evil. Do things in such a way that everyone can see you are honorable. Do all that you can to live in peace with everyone.” The King James Version actually says, “If it be possible, as much as lieth in you, live peaceably with all men.” So you see here, sometimes difficult people won’t receive your acts of love, peace, and reconciliation. Yet, your job is to do what the word says and live righteously, even if that person does not want to receive it.   

Listen. I have to tell you, sis. We will experience difficult people in our lives. It’s inevitable and hard. And whether they are new friends, co-workers, church members, bosses, family, or people in our community, we will encounter them. But again, it’s really not about whether we encounter them; rather it’s about how we handle each encounter. Again, the keys are love, peace, and having the proper response. The Holy Spirit will also show you fresh ways along the way to show you even more how to deal with those individuals specifically. Just be sensitive and open for His direction and then follow his lead.

I’ll leave you with this familiar, but life-changing passage of Scripture found in 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 which says, “Love is patient, and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud or rude. Love does not demand its own way. Love is not irritable, and it keeps no record of when it has been wronged. It is never glad about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out. Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance.” This is how to deal with difficult people.     

Remember, Jesus is coming back soon! And those who endure unto the end shall be saved. So let’s be ready from the Inside Out!

~Courtnaye

QUESTION: Are you dealing with a difficult person right now? Need prayer? If so, you can email me directly @ [email protected] and we can stand together in prayer.

ALSO, my new book is OUT!!! YAY!!! It’s entitled, “IDENTIFIED: Knowing Who You Are in Christ & Moving Forward in Your Purpose!” GRAB IT TODAY!!! You can order it from Barnes & Noble, Amazon, or download it on your Kindle. Here’s the link and I would also LOVE it if you can give me a REVIEW on Amazon.com about it after you’ve read it. That would help not only more women to take notice of the book, but also bump me to becoming a Best Seller in my industry! So I would greatly appreciate if you would consider doing that for me. Thanks for reading my blog today! Here’s the link to order your copy of IDENTIFIED…https://www.amazon.com/s/ref=nb_sb_noss_2?url=search-alias%3Daps&field-keywords=identified+courtnaye+richard

I hope this blog post has ministered to you in some way and I pray that you’ve been enlightened from this post. Feel absolutely free to leave a comment or for questions you can email me directly at [email protected], and I will respond promptly. Also, if this post and ministry has blessed your life, please consider making a donation of any amount today to help further the gospel here @ http://www.insideoutwithcourtnaye.org/.

*And don’t forget to tune in every Monday at 7:30am for new posts, “Like” my Facebook page (https://www.facebook.com/InsideOutWCourtnaye), and follow me on Twitter at https://twitter.com/InOutwCourtnaye. Also, share this blog with friends, family, co-workers, or your women’s group or ministry. I’d love to stay connected and help more women grow in the Lord! Thanks again and may God be with you!


How to Tell Your Friend the Truth

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Lately, God has been showing me some pretty fresh things about friendship. One of the things I’m learning is that friends can be lifelong and seasonal. For instance, like a close friend, close sister, co-worker, friend from school, sister in Christ, mother (as an adult relationship), or even an acquaintance. However, something the Lord showed me a while ago is that no matter who they are or how long they’ve been in my life, I must have integrity with them. And this means telling them the truth, even if it’s hard or hurts.

Sometimes this can be quite challenging and scary, simply because you don’t want to hurt your friend’s feelings. However, if God is impressing upon your heart to share with her the truth or bring to light something she may have done or said that is clearly in error with Him, sometimes He’ll beckon you to help your friend to get back on the right track. And of course, we must do this with all humility, not arrogantly. I’m reminded of the Scripture in Galatians 6:1-2 which says, “Dear brothers and sisters, if another Christian is overcome by some sin, you who are godly should gently and humbly help that person back onto the right path. And be careful not to fall into the same temptation yourself. Share each other’s troubles and problems, and in this way obey the law of Christ. If you think you are too important to help someone in need, you are only fooling yourself. You are truly a nobody.”

God is interested in people, and He wants us to show love to our friends. But not just through going out to lunch, or having a spa day (which I absolutely love), but He desires that we have wholesome friendships where we’re able to tell the truth in love…even if it hurts or causes some discomfort. God is in the tough stuff. Yet, I’ve found that once you work through the kinks (or rough spot), it’s a beautiful thing and you have so much joy afterwards!

Let me give you a practical illustration…actually a personal one. I can recall a time when I was combing my daughter’s hair to prepare for church the next day. Now, at first she was handling it pretty well, as I began rolling her hair. But when I started getting to the nitty gritty, she began scooting, squirming, and eventually tears began to fall. Why? Well, quite naturally, it’s because she’s tender-headed. And it hurt.

Granted, even though I was as gentle as I possibly could be, there were times when I had to get through the kinks in order for her hair to come out smooth and beautiful for the next day. I knew that if I didn’t do it then, it would hurt her even more, later. So I had to do what was best. And in the end, it worked out! I have to say here, that I was quickened by the Holy Spirit that that is exactly how it can be with our friends sometimes.

Everything could be all smooth at first, and then all of a sudden, there’s that kink! What do you do? Do you just brush over it and let it get knotted up, or do you comb through the issue as gently as you can, so that it works out best for her and everyone else around her? The bottom line here is that we need to address the real issues with our friends and tell them the truth at all cost, even if it hurts.

Let’s get real, for a quick moment. For instance, if you have a friend that is in an adulterous situation or having sex with someone she’s not married to, will you talk to her about it or simply sweep it under a rug and say, “That’s not my business.” Or what if you have a friend that’s not behaving in a manner that pleases God and you know that it can hinder her walk and effectiveness for the kingdom, will you talk to her about it or say, “Oh well, she knows better. That’s not my problem. She knows how to talk to God. I’ll just pray for her.” Or how about if you have a friend or colleague that doesn’t know Christ? Will you share Jesus with her, or just let her wallow in sin and go to hell someday?

It’s just that serious, ladies. Proverbs 12:26 says, “The godly give good advice to their friends, the wicked lead them astray.” When we see our friends going down a wrong path, we need to stop, pray, and ask God, “Lord, how can I help?” Because ultimately, He knows how to reach His daughters and aspiring ones! Sometimes it’s simply through a prayer, but then other times He requires us to go a little bit further to work out the kinks for their best interest and others they influence.

I have to mention here that sometimes your friend may not like it initially when you start combing through the issues (like my daughter), but I believe, later she will really appreciate the tough love. Be encouraged sis. Proverbs 27:17 says, “As irons sharpens iron, a friend sharpens a friend.” So tell the truth in love, and you’ll both be stronger in Christ! This is how you do it.

Remember, Jesus is coming back soon! And those who endure unto the end shall be saved. So let’s be ready from the Inside Out!

~Courtnaye

QUESTION: Have you ever had to tell a friend the truth about something, but it was hard? How did you work through it? Are you there now, and feeling a little apprehensive about it? Let me know.

NOTE: I’ll be talking more about friendships in my next LIVE chat “Let’s Talk” on Facebook, Tuesday, September 6th @ 8:30pm. Join me as I talk about “Healthy & Unhealthy Friendships.” I’m pumped about this one, because there are so many things to discuss about this topic! JOIN ME on my Facebook Page (Inside Out with Courtnaye) next Tuesday! Talk to you soon!   

*Don’t forget my NEW book is scheduled to release September 1st!!!! It’s entitled, “IDENTIFIED: Knowing Who You Are in Christ & Moving Forward in Your Purpose!” I’m pumped and I want you to GRAB it! PRE-BUY it today @ www.insideoutwithcourtnaye.org/identified! And share, share, share (tell other women too!). Thanks sis!

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*Thanks for reading! I hope and pray that you’ve been enlightened from this post. Feel absolutely free to leave a comment or for questions you can email me directly at [email protected], and I will respond promptly. Also, if this post and ministry has blessed your life, please consider making a donation of any amount today to help further the gospel here @ http://www.insideoutwithcourtnaye.org/.

*And don’t forget to tune in every Monday at 7:30am for new posts, “Like” my Facebook page (https://www.facebook.com/InsideOutWCourtnaye), and follow me on Twitter at https://twitter.com/InOutwCourtnaye. Also, share this blog with friends, family, co-workers, or your women’s group or ministry. I’d love to stay connected and help more women grow in the Lord! Thanks again and may God be with you!