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Courtnaye Richard

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Courtnaye is a Christian blogger who loves writing to help women grow in their walk with the Lord. It's all about real talk, real issues, and real life in the faith! Don't miss out on her weekly posts every Monday at 7:30am on www.insideoutwithcourtnaye.org. For more info or questions, you can visit Courtnaye’s website or contact her via email. Also be sure to "Like" her page on Facebook. God bless!  

Courtnaye Richard

Courtnaye Richard
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Courtnaye is a Christian blogger who loves writing to help women grow in their walk with the Lord. It's all about real talk, real issues, and real life in the faith! Don't miss out on her weekly posts every Monday at 7:30am on www.insideoutwithcourtnaye.org. For more info or questions, you can visit Courtnaye’s website or contact her via email. Also be sure to "Like" her page on Facebook. God bless!  

Getting a Handle On Anger

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I’m going to start this post by saying that everyone gets angry at some point in time or another. It’s inevitable. It happens. It’s a natural emotion that God created us with. And it can come in many forms such as getting angry with your kids for misbehaving or becoming disrespectful to your husband, not responding the way you would like, being upset with your boss or leader not giving you the promotion, from someone hurting you or saying or doing something that made you really mad. The truth is, we all get angry at times. But I do believe the key to balancing this real-life emotion is learning how to get a handle on it when it strikes!

Again, no doubt, anger happens. Yet, when we feel this emotion rising, that’s when we need to have the power to control it. And this is not always easy to do (trust me. I know). Yet, Proverbs 16:32 tells us, “It is better to be patient than powerful; it is better to have self-control than to conquer a city.” Meaning, we can have the power to do great things, but it’s better to be patient in tough situations and with difficult people. It’s better to have self-control than to conquer a great task or issue. *Controlling anger has a lot to do with being patient, meek (humble), and having self-control under pressure…it’s character (See Galatians 5:22-23 for the fruit of the Spirit).

Jesus tells us that apart from Him, we can do nothing. He says through John 15:5, “Yes, I am the vine; you are the branches. Those who remain in me, and I in them, will produce much fruit. For apart from me you can do nothing.” (NLT) This is so true. If we want to respond properly, then we have to stay connected to the vine. It’s when we’re disconnected, that our fruit begins to rot and stink.

Listen, sis. When anger or other emotions try to get the best of us, that’s when we have to check ourselves, confess where we are, and run back to Jesus. And it’s totally okay to pick up the phone and call a trusted friend or mentor to help you get through it. We also need to ask for the Lord’s help to overcome it and forgive those who may have trespassed against as Ephesians 4:31-32 instructs us saying, “Get rid of all bitterness, rage, anger, harsh words, and slander, as well as all types of malicious behavior. Instead, be kind to each other, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, just as God through Christ has forgiven us.” (NLT)

Now here are a few more helpful and life-changing Scriptures as it relates to getting a handle on this emotion…

James 1:19-20, “…be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to get angry. Your anger can never make things right in God’s sight.” (NLT)

Ephesians 4:26-27, “And don’t sin by letting anger gain control over you. Don’t let the sun go down while you are still angry, for anger gives a mighty foothold to the Devil.” (NLT)

Romans 12:21, “Don’t let evil get the best of you, but conquer evil by doing good.”

Proverbs 29:11, “A fool gives full vent to anger, but a wise person quietly holds it back.” (NLT)

Proverbs 14:29, “Those who control their anger have great understanding; those with a hasty temper will make mistakes.” (NLT)

Proverbs 15:1, “A gentle answer turns away wrath, but harsh words stir up anger.” (NLT)

These verses are very helpful as we aim to conquer anger. But also, as I prepare to close this post, I need to say this. If you have allowed yourself to get so angry to the point where you’re lashing out at people, cursing, backbiting, holding unforgiveness in your heart, thinking evil thoughts, or just acting out in ways that you know is displeasing to God, then I encourage you to admit where you are and repent right now.

If not, then these things could have a stronghold on you and potentially hinder your progress and effectiveness in your personal life and for work that you’re doing. Let it go. Let people go. Choose forgiveness. Choose to release the anger. You can do it. You can get a handle on anger, today.

Remember, Jesus is coming back soon! And those who endure unto the end shall be saved. So let’s be ready from the Inside Out!

~Courtnaye

**Recommended book this week, “Breaking Free from Anger and Unforgiveness” by Dr. Linda Mintle. Action-packed little book! Grab it today! 

QUESTION: Are you struggling with getting a handle on anger, sis? What's gotten you so upset?  Do you need prayer today? If you need prayer, you can email me directly @ [email protected]. I look forward to hearing from you and praying for you.

ALSO, just want to encourage you to grab my NEW book, “IDENTIFIED: Knowing Who You Are in Christ & Moving Forward in Your Purpose!” ORDER IT TODAY right here! And if you already have it and have read it, please give me a REVIEW on Amazon.com. Thanks so much in advance.

*Tune in every Monday at 7:30am for new posts, “Like” my Facebook page (https://www.facebook.com/InsideOutWCourtnaye), and follow me on Twitter at https://twitter.com/InOutwCourtnaye. Also, share this blog with friends, family, co-workers, or your women’s group or ministry. I’d love to stay connected and help more women grow in the Lord! Thanks again and may God be with you!

 


In a Battle?

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Are you in a battle, sis? What's going on? I want to tell you that the struggle is real! I know. But guess what? The Bible tells us that our fellow Christian brothers and sisters are going through the same struggles all around the world. First Peter 5:8-9 says, "Stay alert! Watch out for your great enemy, the devil. He prowls around like a roaring lion, looking for someone to devour. Stand firm against him, and be strong in your faith. Remember that your Christian brothers and sisters all over the world are going through the same kind of suffering you are." (NLT)

So you're not alone. And if you've clicked onto this post, I believe  Jesus is calling you to be encouraged in your faith, but also put to remind you to put on the full armor of God and wear it to fight and win!

But before I get into this familiar weaponry, I want to give you a few practical tips. When you are in a battle, I know it's hard, sis. I know the weight feels really heavy to bear. I know the tears and the lack of understanding, "Why is this happening?" But when those things happen, I want to encourage you to pray for starters, but also call someone to pray for you as well.

Also, seek ways to calm down, release the stress in a godly manner, and allow the Lord to work it all out in His perfect timing to either ease the pain or hurt, or to work out the situation for everyone's good and best interest. He is a very BIG God and He cares about you and all that concerns you (See 1 Peter 5:7). He is with you in the battle. He's totally got your back! So trust Him for the victory.

Now, let's take a look at what it looks like to put on the Full Armor of God, because that's also what you'll need to win in this battle you're facing…

  • The Belt of Truth
  • The Breastplate of Righteousness
  • The Gospel (Shoes) of Peace
  • The Shield of Faith
  • The Helmet of Salvation
  • And the Sword of the Spirit (which is the word of God)

All of this comes from Ephesians 6:14-17 (*I recommend that you read it, meditate on it, memorize it, and study it). ;-)

Ephesians 6:10-11 tells us, “Finally, my brethren, be strong in the Lord, and in the power of his might. Put on the whole armour of God, that ye may be able to stand against the wiles of the devil.” And Ephesians 6:12 says, “For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places.” *Always remember that our battle is not necessarily with people. Our true battle is with our great enemy Satan.

Put on the Belt of Truth – Break out the Word of God. Whether that is reading your Bible in devotion or app, on your refrigerator, on a coffee mug, on an index card, or whichever method you use. Put that Word on! But also be truthful in all you do. In your conversations, writings, texts, inboxes, emails, etc. Be a woman of integrity. Make a conscious choice to live out God’s truth and be truthful. John 8:32 says, “And ye shall know the truth, and the truth shall make you free.” Live truthfully in every way, and you will overcome him!

Put on the Breastplate of Righteousness – Know that it’s His righteousness. So always make your boast in Him. Putting on this piece of God’s armor guards your heart from unwanted sin and it also tells the devil, “I’m living right according to God’s Word. So back up, because my heart is for God!” 1 John 3:7-8 says, “Dear children, don’t let anyone deceive you about this: When people do what is right, it is because they are righteous, even as Christ is righteous. But when people keep on sinning, it shows they belong to the devil, who has been sinning since the beginning…” (NLT) So watch him! Put on your breastplate today.

Put on the Gospel of Peace (Shoes of Peace) – Protect your feet by putting on the gospel of peace. Be ready to share the Good News about Christ which brings peace to those who are ready to receive Him or hear about Him. Be ready to move when God says move. And let the Lord lead you to the right people, to the right places, and through the right methods in sharing the gospel. But before you go, do what 1 Peter 3:15 says, “But sanctify the Lord God in your hearts: and be ready always to give an answer to every man that asketh you a reason of the hope that is in you with meekness and fear.” If you do this, with all humility, reverence of God, and with a pure heart, you will be a force to be reckoned with!

Put on the Shield of Faith – Raise up your shield, sis. When the enemy throws arrows of doubt, fear, worry, unbelief, defeat, lack of hope, lack of trust, depression, guilt, condemnation, you name it…raise up your shield of faith and raise it up quickly, so that it doesn’t penetrate your heart or head. Of course, if you’re wearing your helmet of salvation and breastplate of righteousness, he won’t be able to get you anyway. ;-) But your shield gives you that extra protection against your enemy. Why? Because it's FAITH. It shows that you trust God no matter what the enemy throws your way. Ephesians 6:16 says, “In every battle you will need faith as your shield to stop the fiery arrows aimed at you by Satan.” So don’t fight without it. Raise it up and BELIEVE GOD!

Put on the Helmet of Salvation - Guard your mind. Protect it at all cost. You do this by casting down imaginations, unwelcome or unholy thoughts, a negative mindset, worry, fear, doubt, unforgiveness, and more. All of this weighs heavily on the mind. So think about God’s Word and what He says about you while in the battle you're facing. Speak 2 Corinthians 10:5 which says, “Casting down imaginations and every high thing that exalteth itself against the knowledge of God, and bringing into captivity every thought to the obedience of Christ.” *Kick the devil out of your thoughts quickly by renewing your mind with the Word of God, so that you can move on and have a peace of mind.

Pull Out the Sword of the Spirit – This is the WORD OF GOD! And it’s a very powerful weapon used against the enemy. Second Corinthians 10:4 says, “For the weapons of warfare are not carnal, but mighty through God to the pulling down of strongholds.” God will help you tear down strongholds in your life and help you fight against the enemy through His Word. So use it! And use it wisely. It’s there not only to help you fight against him, but also sin in your life. Remember, Satan wants you to sin against God. He's in a war against God for souls. So when he brings sin to you, cut it up like the game, “Fruit Ninja!” Hebrews 4:12 says, “For the word of God is full of living power. It is sharper than the sharpest knife, cutting deep into our innermost thoughts and desires. It exposes us for what we really are.” (NLT) Cuts like a knife!

Use the Weapon of Prayer - Whatever you do, don't stop praying. There is sooooooo much power in prayer. It's another great weapon. So use it! Ephesians 6:18 says, "Pray at all times and on every occasion in the power of the Holy Spirit." (NLT)

I want to also remind you sis, that if you’re going to do anything for the Lord, know that you are going to experience spiritual warfare. It’s inevitable. And that battle can come from within and the outside of your home. But remember, we’re fighting unseen enemies that will stop at nothing to try to hinder us from fulfilling God’s plan for our lives or to just wreak havoc! However, you and I need to understand that we’re not alone and we have power. We’ve got supernatural protection for a supernatural fight.

Well, there it is! I hope this helps you fight this battle that you're in. Declare God's Word, pray, bring in prayer warriors, find ways that will help you to get through God's way, and by all means...get dressed for the battle and WIN! You are more than a conqueror through Jesus Christ! Believe it, sis!

Remember, Jesus is coming back soon! And those who endure unto the end shall be saved. So let’s be ready from the Inside Out!

~Courtnaye

QUESTION: Are you in a battle right now, sis? Have you put on your full armor yet? Do you need prayer today? If you need prayer, you can email me directly @ [email protected]. I look forward to hearing from you and praying for you.

ALSO, just want to encourage you to grab my NEW book, “IDENTIFIED: Knowing Who You Are in Christ & Moving Forward in Your Purpose!” ORDER IT TODAY right here! And if you already have it and have read it, please give me a REVIEW on Amazon.com. Thanks so much in advance.

*Tune in every Monday at 7:30am for new posts, “Like” my Facebook page (https://www.facebook.com/InsideOutWCourtnaye), and follow me on Twitter at https://twitter.com/InOutwCourtnaye. Also, share this blog with friends, family, co-workers, or your women’s group or ministry. I’d love to stay connected and help more women grow in the Lord! Thanks again and may God be with you!


How to Deal with a World in Crisis

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There is no doubt that we are currently facing some dire and dark days for everyone. No one is exempt contrary to popular belief. If you’ve noticed or have been watching the news (at the time of this post), Hurricane Harvey hit the coast and devastated parts of Texas such as Houston, Beaumont, Rockport, Corpus Christi, and surrounding areas (my heart, prayers, and assistance goes out to them as I know what it’s like to live through a major hurricane disaster – Hurricane Katrina). But there’s also and all of sudden racial tension, new political fights, the threat of a nuclear war, and eventually, there will be a stronger persecution for us as believers, so get ready for that.

Yet, that’s not it! Unfortunately, many in the body of Christ (the church) are at war with one another on various issues and topics which cause more and more division vs. focusing on fulfilling the Great Commission, showing love to one another, helping each other with our gifts and talents, personal transformation, and strengthening our faith and fellowship. There are so many arguments spewing over conversations at work, in the church, coffee shops, and over social media. So much so, that it’s not only heartbreaking, but a lot of the reactions or responses are contrary to the Word of God. With that being said, if you haven’t realized that we’re living in the last days by now, I don’t know what to say, sis. Because we are!

The Apostle Paul warned us of these days in 2 Timothy 3:1-5 saying, “…in the last days there will be very difficult times. For people will love only themselves and their money. They will be boastful and proud, scoffing at God, disobedient to their parents, and ungrateful. They will consider nothing sacred. They will be unloving and unforgiving, they will slander others and have no self-control. They will be cruel and hate what is good. They will betray their friends, be reckless, be puffed up with pride, and love pleasure rather than God. They will act religious, but will reject the power that could make them godly. Stay away from people like that.”

I believe this passage of Scripture covers the world and the church as it relates to living in the last days. Do you see any of the things described in the Scripture above happening today? How about in your own life? In either case, repentance is necessary.

And even though we see that these days are getting darker (as the Bible predicted would happen before Christ returns) and as the love of many is waxing cold and people are becoming very vile, there is a way to deal with a country, and I might add,  a world in crisis. It will take us, as Christians, to start shining brighter in the home, church, and especially the world.

Jesus said in Matthew 5:14-16, “You are the light of the world-like a city on a hilltop that cannot be hidden. No one lights a lamp and then put it under a basket. Instead, a lamp is placed on a stand, where it gives light to everyone in the house. In the same way, let your good deeds shine out for all to see, so that everyone will praise your heavenly Father.”

It’s time to turn your light up higher, sis. Our response to everything that’s happening around us as Christians should be different than the world’s response. We need to be letting our good deeds shine forth, so that others will praise God because they see Him working in and through us. We will need to smile more, love deeper, treat others right regardless of culture, religious background, or race (remember God has no favorites), and grow in the Word and character in these last days, so that we will have the proper response to everyone we encounter whether he or she be a fellow believer or someone who is unsaved.

Jesus never promised that life would be easy down here for us (He totally knows that from experience as well as the early disciples). So that’s why He left us with these words to encourage us in John 16:33, “…Here on earth you will have many trials and sorrows. But take heart, because I have overcome the world.” Be encouraged my sister, and shine brighter than ever before, because in the end, we will overcome too!

Remember, Jesus is coming back soon! And those who endure unto the end shall be saved. So let’s be ready from the Inside Out!

~Courtnaye

QUESTION: How are you handling things in your area, sis? Does everything that's happening around you bother you to some extent? If so, in what ways and how can you help? Also, if you need prayer, let me know here or you can email me directly @ [email protected]. I look forward to hearing from you and praying for you.

ALSO, just want to encourage you to grab my NEW book, “IDENTIFIED: Knowing Who You Are in Christ & Moving Forward in Your Purpose!” ORDER IT TODAY right here! And if you already have it and have read it, please give me a REVIEW on Amazon.com. Thanks so much in advance.

*Tune in every Monday at 7:30am for new posts, “Like” my Facebook page (https://www.facebook.com/InsideOutWCourtnaye), and follow me on Twitter at https://twitter.com/InOutwCourtnaye. Also, share this blog with friends, family, co-workers, or your women’s group or ministry. I’d love to stay connected and help more women grow in the Lord! Thanks again and may God be with you!