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What "type" of women should I find attracitve? - 5/12/2008 9:54:23 AM
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BlackCapnHarlock
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Hello brothers in Christ I need your help.
I was on another website (a secular one) and they were commenting on this woman who has a lot of plastic surgery and has large, well you know. A lot of folks, some non Chrisitan of course, found her disgusting.
I thought and thinks she looks great!!! Is it wrong for me and is it a bad witness for Christ for me as a Christian to find women who are "plastic" and "oversized" attractive? I don't find all of them of course but I do.
I know it's a sin to lie, so to me why lie? If I think she looks attractive and she does, why am I seen as being hypocritical or foolish?
I do find some women who are a bit "trampy" looking attractive. This could be a blowback from all the years battling with pornography and maybe those images have sort of changed my view of women and how they should and could look.
My question is, am I in sin and am I a bad witness for Christ for telling the truth and finding SOME of these type of women attractive?
Is there something spiritually wrong about finding these type of women attractive?
I know some guys like skinny women, some like fit women, some like shapely women, some like fat women, doesn't matter. What I am talking about here is more of appearance and style more than overall shape.
Am I wrong?
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RE: What "type" of women should I find attrac... - 5/12/2008 11:23:40 AM
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McFatty
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I don't see how the physical shape to which a man is attracted can be broken into right and wrong, since it's completely different for everyone.
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RE: What "type" of women should I find attrac... - 5/12/2008 8:11:20 PM
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Konstantinos
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no theres nothing wrong with that. what you find attractive has got to do with your nature, you cant change it and there is no point in doing so.
its not the same as consciously lusting after some girl thats not your wife and not doing anything to stop it
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RE: What "type" of women should I find attrac... - 5/13/2008 8:52:35 AM
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beauregarde
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its not the same as consciously lusting after some girl thats not your wife and not doing anything to stop it
You see that massive barbell that Konstan the Barbarian is using? He will throw it on top of your head if you lust.
He is a beast, and he will also get the Boogie Man (KC from KC and the Sunshine Band) after you too!
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RE: What "type" of women should I find attrac... - 5/13/2008 10:35:58 AM
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TheBrad
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Now, I personally don't find women with excessive cosmetic surgery attractive, but if you have no problem with it than that is you. I am me. So you shouldn't let my (or any other man's) opinion of what makes a woman attractive influence your decision
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RE: What "type" of women should I find attrac... - 5/13/2008 1:34:59 PM
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notmycity
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Want to know what a godly man will find attractive in a woman?
“...[The] ornament of a meek and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God of great price.”
1 Peter 3:4
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RE: What "type" of women should I find attrac... - 5/13/2008 3:00:39 PM
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BlackCapnHarlock
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quote:
ORIGINAL: notmycity
Want to know what a godly man will find attractive in a woman?
“...[The] ornament of a meek and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God of great price.”
1 Peter 3:4
Amen Cephas . . AMEN . ..
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RE: What "type" of women should I find attrac... - 5/13/2008 3:57:56 PM
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McFatty
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ORIGINAL: notmycity
Want to know what a godly man will find attractive in a woman?
“...[The] ornament of a meek and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God of great price.”
1 Peter 3:4
That's not necessarily what automatically attracts a Christian man, though... Suggesting otherwise challenges the Christianity of godliness of a man who is not drawn to those qualities.
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RE: What "type" of women should I find attrac... - 5/13/2008 4:21:21 PM
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I think the more important question is not what type of woman you are attracted to but why you are attracted to a certain type of woman. I think a lot of men who look at porn are conditioned to focus on the physical aspects of women and to see women as objects for sexual gratification rather than human beings with feelings and emotions. I don't wont to be too graphic here but there's a very misleading presumption about such women when it come to sex if you know what I mean. There are many downsides to getting involved with a woman like that (many have a very twisted view of sex just like the man who views porn, many have deep unresolved psychological scars, many are shallow because that's were all the attention has been placed and that's all they see themselves as valued for - the outer appearance and the list goes on). So again, consider why it is you are attracted to such women and that should give you a better idea of whether or not the attraction is appropriate.
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RE: What "type" of women should I find attrac... - 5/15/2008 3:39:44 PM
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BlackCapnHarlock
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ORIGINAL: ChoirDJ
I think the more important question is not what type of woman you are attracted to but why you are attracted to a certain type of woman. I think a lot of men who look at porn are conditioned to focus on the physical aspects of women and to see women as objects for sexual gratification rather than human beings with feelings and emotions. I don't wont to be too graphic here but there's a very misleading presumption about such women when it come to sex if you know what I mean. There are many downsides to getting involved with a woman like that (many have a very twisted view of sex just like the man who views porn, many have deep unresolved psychological scars, many are shallow because that's were all the attention has been placed and that's all they see themselves as valued for - the outer appearance and the list goes on). So again, consider why it is you are attracted to such women and that should give you a better idea of whether or not the attraction is appropriate.
Cool, thanks.
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RE: What "type" of women should I find attrac... - 6/5/2008 3:49:13 PM
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NealIRC
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(As per the title of the topic.)
Re: What "type" of women should I find attracitve?
I see the problem in that you're asking others for advice on what you 'should' find attractive. It's genetic, no?
I suppose you could rephrase your question to, "What are some objective traits that a heterosexual man should find attractive in women?"
Note that, I think the particular usage of "should" is very dangerous, in the sense, there may not be a "should" for this question.
To answer that question, I would say it would be the same for what you look for in a human: a good sense of morality (ethics) and a follower of the Golden Rule. And some logic and rationality wouldn't hurt.
As for the plastic surgery/implants stuff, I honestly can't tell the difference.
< Message edited by NealIRC -- 6/5/2008 3:57:37 PM >
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