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The Single Parent support Thread - 10/10/2008 9:31:30 PM

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A thread for single Moms and Dads.
Encourage, hope and even vent a little.

Let's just try not to turn it into the x-files if we can avoid it.

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RE: The Single Parent support Thread - 10/10/2008 9:43:20 PM

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DD ran off to Seattle mid July. Wanted to spend time with her Mom and
other Brothers (not mine) She was going to Finish up her College and then(?).

It all tanked.
No luck at finding a job. Getting her AA degree accepted has been a hassle
and worse Her relationship with her Mom has really tanked.

Now DD will be coming home.

But my heart just aches for her over
the Mom stuff. She is very broken hearted.

Blah, Tin roof ice cream won't fix this one.

I'm glad to have DD back but hate the way its' come about.

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RE: The Single Parent support Thread - 10/10/2008 9:54:05 PM

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Oh, I'm sorry to hear about your daughter's relationship with her mother. That must stink for her! She probably had some expectations, and now... well, you can be there for her.

I haven't seen much of my son lately (he's 19), but he does have a girlfriend now, and she's got a great personality. They play in a band together, and my mom and I are going to watch them play next weekend. I always try to go to these events for him. I've been a little worried about him because he's in his third year of college but he's not really interested in regular college activities or getting to know too many other students. He finds others he already knows and hangs out with them. I pray for that, and his social circle is gradually widening.

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RE: The Single Parent support Thread - 10/10/2008 9:57:37 PM

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GC (15) has her first boyfriend.

I'm not freaking out. I'm not freaking out. I'm not freaking out.

Anyway, that effectively takes me off the market. I just cannot stomach the thought of both of us dating at the same time. Nope.

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RE: The Single Parent support Thread - 10/10/2008 10:05:26 PM

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quote:

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GC (15) has her first boyfriend.

I'm not freaking out. I'm not freaking out. I'm not freaking out.

hahahah sure you're you not.
I think you need the tin roof ice cream.

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Grace-N-Mercy
Oh, I'm sorry to hear about your daughter's relationship with her mother. That must stink for her! She probably had some expectations, and now... well, you can be there for her.

True, unreal expectations in my heart, Guess I was hoping for the best as well.

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RE: The Single Parent support Thread - 10/10/2008 11:26:39 PM

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GC (15) has her first boyfriend.

I'm not freaking out. I'm not freaking out. I'm not freaking out.

Anyway, that effectively takes me off the market. I just cannot stomach the thought of both of us dating at the same time. Nope.

Ha....now the pressure is on for me to begin dating before the twins
(14 1/2) do.

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RE: The Single Parent support Thread - 10/10/2008 11:28:40 PM

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My daughter has been pressuring me to begin dating....so that I don't drag her along in all of my activities, lol. She's only 11. If I start dating, she'd have to come along anyway as I can't leave an 11 year old all alone at home.

I think I'll be the one sneaking around when one of us starts dating, lol.

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RE: The Single Parent support Thread - 10/12/2008 3:38:20 AM

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My daughter has been pressuring me to begin dating....so that I don't drag her along in all of my activities, lol. She's only 11. If I start dating, she'd have to come along anyway as I can't leave an 11 year old all alone at home.

There's trouble. What if she likes the guy and you don't or vise versa?

However I did have a brain dead thought...

Double dating with your kid.

I've added that to my "creepy things never to do list"
In TVland it would be a comedy skit, in reality it would be a steel cage death match.

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RE: The Single Parent support Thread - 10/12/2008 3:41:06 AM

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in reality it would be a steel cage death match.

I think it would be quite sweet actually.

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RE: The Single Parent support Thread - 10/12/2008 7:14:21 AM

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Double dating with your kid.

I've added that to my "creepy things never to do list"

Boats

*shudder*

Creepy....yep.

I'm all for embarrassing and otherwise bothering the kids at every opportunity. I feel it's part of my job. But that's too much even for me.

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RE: The Single Parent support Thread - 10/13/2008 11:53:30 AM

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quote:

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ORIGINAL: Boats

Double dating with your kid.

I've added that to my "creepy things never to do list"

Boats

*shudder*

Creepy....yep.

I'm all for embarrassing and otherwise bothering the kids at every opportunity. I feel it's part of my job. But that's too much even for me.

LOL. Yeah, almost as creepy as the dad of one of her friends asking me out....

THAT was creepy!!

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RE: The Single Parent support Thread - 10/13/2008 4:57:05 PM

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LOL. Yeah, almost as creepy as the dad of one of her friends asking me out.... THAT was creepy!!

I don't see how that's creepy. (seeing how just about the only people I meet are the Girl's friend's parents save me from a possible major social faux paus here) If he's OK why would it be creepy?

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RE: The Single Parent support Thread - 10/13/2008 4:57:22 PM

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I could use some encouragement re: my relationship with my son. He is 11 and it is a major battle to get him to do anything. I no longer want to have these battles but he still needs to get ready for school in the morning, get his homework done, etc. I'm at a loss.

This morning was especially hard fro me because I'm going away on a business trip for a week and this morning was the last time I will see him until I come back. I was hoping for a nice departure but we had one of the worst battles yet (his 6 year old sister didn't help). I'm trying to think of ways I can change how I handle things to help solve the problem...

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RE: The Single Parent support Thread - 10/13/2008 5:00:23 PM

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LOL. Yeah, almost as creepy as the dad of one of her friends asking me out.... THAT was creepy!!

I don't see how that's creepy. (seeing how just about the only people I meet are the Girl's friend's parents save me from a possible major social faux paus here) If he's OK why would it be creepy?

Well, for HER it would be creepy if I dated the dad of ANY of her friends, but I just meant this particular person. I am friends with his EX-wife. He KNOWS this, and he just is creepy to me in general. Does that make sense???

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RE: The Single Parent support Thread - 10/13/2008 5:00:34 PM

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I could use some encouragement re: my relationship with my son. He is 11 and it is a major battle to get him to do anything. I no longer want to have these battles but he still needs to get ready for school in the morning, get his homework done, etc. I'm at a loss.

This morning was especially hard fro me because I'm going away on a business trip for a week and this morning was the last time I will see him until I come back. I was hoping for a nice departure but we had one of the worst battles yet (his 6 year old sister didn't help). I'm trying to think of ways I can change how I handle things to help solve the problem...

Hey, Geeky, maybe you can give us some examples of the types of battles that you have with your kid. I have an 11 year old too, and we do occasionally have battles, but it's not as bad as when she was younger. I can see it coming back in her teen years, so I'm enjoying these days when she still thinks I'm the coolest mom in the world.

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RE: The Single Parent support Thread - 10/13/2008 5:20:21 PM

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I could use some encouragement re: my relationship with my son. He is 11 and it is a major battle to get him to do anything. I no longer want to have these battles but he still needs to get ready for school in the morning, get his homework done, etc. I'm at a loss.

This morning was especially hard fro me because I'm going away on a business trip for a week and this morning was the last time I will see him until I come back. I was hoping for a nice departure but we had one of the worst battles yet (his 6 year old sister didn't help). I'm trying to think of ways I can change how I handle things to help solve the problem...

Is he not getting out of bed in the morning? One semi-full bucket of very cold water would solve that in one day.

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RE: The Single Parent support Thread - 10/13/2008 5:25:34 PM

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I could use some encouragement re: my relationship with my son. He is 11 and it is a major battle to get him to do anything. I no longer want to have these battles but he still needs to get ready for school in the morning, get his homework done, etc. I'm at a loss.

This morning was especially hard fro me because I'm going away on a business trip for a week and this morning was the last time I will see him until I come back. I was hoping for a nice departure but we had one of the worst battles yet (his 6 year old sister didn't help). I'm trying to think of ways I can change how I handle things to help solve the problem...

Is he not getting out of bed in the morning? One semi-full bucket of very cold water would solve that in one day.

I like the way you think Lioness!

A squirt gun of very cold water works too... and you can get those big ones that work from all the way across the room!!

My kids are grown, and I didn't single parent - just stopped in here to let you all know you have my highest admiration for doing this job on your own!

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RE: The Single Parent support Thread - 10/13/2008 5:30:24 PM

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I read this from James Dobson's column yesterday. One way to ensure that they get up early is to turn off the hotwater at a certain time--like let's say, if he's not up by 7, the hot water will be turned off and he'll have to take a shower using cold water. Of course, this only works if the boy takes a shower in the morning like my daughter does.

I know for me, if my daughter ever has problem getting up, I told her I'd remove the door to her room....and play loud music...like maybe some polka or something, lol. I'm sure that would get her up.

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RE: The Single Parent support Thread - 10/13/2008 7:00:20 PM

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I could use some encouragement re: my relationship with my son. He is 11 and it is a major battle to get him to do anything. I no longer want to have these battles but he still needs to get ready for school in the morning, get his homework done, etc. I'm at a loss.

This morning was especially hard fro me because I'm going away on a business trip for a week and this morning was the last time I will see him until I come back. I was hoping for a nice departure but we had one of the worst battles yet (his 6 year old sister didn't help). I'm trying to think of ways I can change how I handle things to help solve the problem...

Is he not getting out of bed in the morning? One semi-full bucket of very cold water would solve that in one day.

That's too funny, I have used a bicycle style water bottle around here (the kind that you can squeeze and it shoots a big wide stream of water). It only took once for my kids to realize that I seriously would do it. From that point on, when they have chosen to sleep in when it is not appropriate, one little mention of the water bottle is enough to change their entire outlook on life.

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RE: The Single Parent support Thread - 10/13/2008 7:04:21 PM

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I have tried that! Didn't even phase them. Maybe it wasn't cold enough. Next time gotta use ICE.

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RE: The Single Parent support Thread - 10/13/2008 7:05:21 PM

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Exactly, Benelchi. You just need to convince them that they can't be certain you wouldn't do something outrageous. It keeps them on their toes. After that, you can coast on merely mentioning what you might do should they not see things your way.

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RE: The Single Parent support Thread - 10/13/2008 7:06:30 PM

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ORIGINAL: Prairiehiker

I read this from James Dobson's column yesterday. One way to ensure that they get up early is to turn off the hotwater at a certain time--like let's say, if he's not up by 7, the hot water will be turned off and he'll have to take a shower using cold water. Of course, this only works if the boy takes a shower in the morning like my daughter does.

I know for me, if my daughter ever has problem getting up, I told her I'd remove the door to her room....and play loud music...like maybe some polka or something, lol. I'm sure that would get her up.

Actually I already have resorted to turning off the hot water, but that was because my son would take 30-40 minute showers; after giving him a few warnings about staying in their that long, I started turning the hot water off after 10 minutes. You should have heard him scream the time he had shampoo in his hair and had to rinse with very cold water. It took about 5 minutes of screaming before he came to the realization that the hot water wasn't going to turn back on. Since then I have seldom had a problem, and when I do a gentile reminder is all it takes.

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RE: The Single Parent support Thread - 10/13/2008 7:07:20 PM

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I have tried that! Didn't even phase them. Maybe it wasn't cold enough. Next time gotta use ICE.

You tried pouring a bucket of water on them and it didn't do the trick?

Whoa.

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RE: The Single Parent support Thread - 10/13/2008 7:07:45 PM

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I have tried that! Didn't even phase them. Maybe it wasn't cold enough. Next time gotta use ICE.

Use Ice, lots of water, and aim at the face! You will only have to do it once, so make sure to do it real good!

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RE: The Single Parent support Thread - 10/13/2008 7:09:56 PM

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I have tried that! Didn't even phase them. Maybe it wasn't cold enough. Next time gotta use ICE.

You tried pouring a bucket of water on them and it didn't do the trick?

Whoa.

I think she probably timidly dripped water on them. You have to go for broke if they push it that far.

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