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Is this rude? - 5/6/2008 8:35:24 AM
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JenP
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A few years ago, I was friends with a group of people. There were 4 couples and one single girl. Over the past few years, some things happened and we grew apart. I only very recently started talking to them all again, over the past few months. My fiance and I are starting to get closer to one of the couples.
Three of the four couples invited us to their wedding. While we talk to some of them now, we arent really friends anymore and while it seems that its looking like the friendships could be building back up, we cant afford to invite everyone to our wedding, even though three of the couples invited us to theirs.
The couple who we are getting closer with, and were closer with in the past, we really are excited to be starting over a friendship with and really really want them at our wedding.
Wouldl it be rude to only invite them and none of the others, or would it be better to just not invite any?
See, my parents want to invite so many of their friends and family (they are paying for the reception part and at this point its too late to change their minds). There will be so many people, that we decided not to invite any friends, except have bigger wedding party and only have our closest friends there but be in the wedding party, then that would make it easier for us to tell people why they werent invited, because we ddidnt invite friends! Well, we invited my one friend who is moving to Egypt for missions in December, but that's a little different cause I dont know if and when I will see her again!
Would it be rude to invite this ONE other couple?
The wedding is in June. I am afraid everyone will be mad at me. The invites started going out already so it isnt too late to add them but I am pretty sure others will be mad at me if I do this and I dont want that either but really want this couple there.
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RE: Is this rude? - 5/6/2008 8:40:20 AM
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LaurainAL
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This is a tough one. But I do wonder why your parents can invite their friends to your wedding, but you and fiancee can not. Afterall, it is your wedding, right? Could Mom and Dad invite a few less people so that you could have your friends there?
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RE: Is this rude? - 5/6/2008 9:07:28 AM
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JenP
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Too late for that most of the invites have gone out!
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RE: Is this rude? - 5/6/2008 9:14:54 AM
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Mrs.Wifey
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If you are planning on the number of dinners for those invited already, I would say it's safe to invite 3-4 more couples. Not everyone who is invited will RSVP, and not all those who RSVP will actually show up.
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RE: Is this rude? - 5/6/2008 9:19:39 AM
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If you are planning on the number of dinners for those invited already, I would say it's safe to invite 3-4 more couples. Not everyone who is invited will RSVP, and not all those who RSVP will actually show up.
That was my thought also. When planning the reception, most people figure a little higher than they actually expect anyway, don't they?
I'd tell your parents you are inviting all of those couples. It is YOUR wedding.
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RE: Is this rude? - 5/6/2008 10:26:01 AM
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manda59
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What time of day is the reception?
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RE: Is this rude? - 5/6/2008 9:17:03 PM
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I think it's time for a little talk with mom and dad. Your wedding, your guests. And adding a few more couples isn't such a big deal. If your parents are concerned about money, maybe you can offer to help pay a little towards the reception. This is your special day - invite who YOU want to share it with.
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RE: Is this rude? - 5/6/2008 9:28:55 PM
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ta_mosquito
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Why can't you invite them to the wedding and not the reception? Is there limited seating at the ceremony?
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RE: Is this rude? - 5/31/2008 8:13:38 PM
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Kath
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Why can't you invite them to the wedding and not the reception? Is there limited seating at the ceremony?
I've never heard of anyone doing that.
We paid for 100 at my son's wedding and only 60 or so showed up so I'd say that inviting 3-4 extra couples will not mess up any of the arrangements.
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RE: Is this rude? - 5/31/2008 9:05:53 PM
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nicole6598
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I agree with Donna, it's YOUR wedding, not theirs! You get to invite who you want not them!
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RE: Is this rude? - 5/31/2008 9:39:48 PM
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I know a number of couples around here who invited everyone to the ceremony, but cut that number in half for the dinner part of the reception ... and then had everyone who didn't come to the dinner show up for the dancing afterwards. (ie. wedding at 2pm with everyone, dinner at 5pm with selected guests, dancing at 7:30pm with everyone again) That kept the reception costs down (due to the food plate cost) BUT they still got to enjoy most of the evening with their friends.
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RE: Is this rude? - 5/31/2008 10:35:49 PM
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ta_mosquito
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quote:
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Why can't you invite them to the wedding and not the reception? Is there limited seating at the ceremony?
I've never heard of anyone doing that.
We paid for 100 at my son's wedding and only 60 or so showed up so I'd say that inviting 3-4 extra couples will not mess up any of the arrangements.
I've seen it a lot.
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RE: Is this rude? - 6/1/2008 6:03:49 PM
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ORIGINAL: Mrs.Wifey
If you are planning on the number of dinners for those invited already, I would say it's safe to invite 3-4 more couples. Not everyone who is invited will RSVP, and not all those who RSVP will actually show up.
That was my thought also. When planning the reception, most people figure a little higher than they actually expect anyway, don't they?
I'd tell your parents you are inviting all of those couples. It is YOUR wedding.
I agree with this. I think we had a guest list around 150 and ended up with 125 showing up.
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RE: Is this rude? - 6/2/2008 3:19:43 PM
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MrsTracy72
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I have to agree with the post above mine. Not only is it your wedding, but not everybody is going to come anyway so you could invite those other couples. They did invite you to their weddings and it is only a few more people.
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