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RE: Choosing Friends (What Do You Look For?) - 9/4/2008 4:22:09 PM
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gal220
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communication and trust are key factors for me in all relationships. Honest, trustworthy, sincere, generous, kindhearted, compassionate, loyal, confident are also other qualities that I admire in my friends.
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RE: Choosing Friends (What Do You Look For?) - 9/5/2008 4:13:47 PM
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sudden
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Dear imit8him:
Friends are the only people we choose to let into our lives and for that reason they are very special. I only have a few myself but having friends requires time ...time to talk, to listen and to learn about one another...time to cultivate the friendship. I wish I had all the time in the world to cultivate more friendships. Anyhow, these are some of the key characteristics that are common between my friends.
They are: honest, humourous, compassionate, well-mannered, have an interest in the world around them and making it better, like to have fun and are as loyal as the day is long, have the ability to carry on an interesting conversation and are not terribly preoccupied with themselves.
I think that the main commonality between us is the interest in making the world better while having a good laugh.
Yours for thinking about friends,
Sudden
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RE: Choosing Friends (What Do You Look For?) - 9/5/2008 6:19:13 PM
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preserved
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A true friend is one who treats you lcloser than a brother or sister. There are with you thru good times and bad times..one of whom you can confide in, trust communicate with. If one has two good friends then they are bless...not every one that is in your life are meant to be friends...they are more like associates..
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RE: Choosing Friends (What Do You Look For?) - 9/6/2008 5:17:20 AM
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Hislittleone
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Our pastor preached a sermon about this not long ago. He said that a friend should:
1) challenge you (to be your best, challenge you intellectually etc.)
2) support you emotionally
3) grow you spiritually (we should only be close friends with other Christians)
That's all I can remember right now. I do agree with what the other posters have mentioned as well.
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RE: Choosing Friends (What Do You Look For?) - 9/6/2008 10:33:51 AM
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makarizo
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I look for myself.
If I can see some of me in that person, than I know that there is some good in them!!!
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RE: Choosing Friends (What Do You Look For?) - 9/6/2008 12:29:58 PM
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ekserekseez
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I choose friends who like to do the same things I do, play the same sports or eat the same type of food or listen to the same type of music, etc. The venues for these activities are a good place to meet people.
I NEVER base friendships on the other person's political, religious, ideological, or world view. It's a lot of fun to have friends you can hang out and do stuff with, have blistering arguments about life issues, and still be friends.
I'm just never friends with people who bore me.
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RE: Choosing Friends (What Do You Look For?) - 9/6/2008 5:52:16 PM
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buckifn
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Intelligence
Spiritual maturity
shares common interests
honesty/integrity
marital status/family situation
moral/ethical choices there is no way I am going to be friends with liars, cheaters, drug/alcohol abusers, abusers period and people who do not share my values overall.
I am very selective on who I allow close to me because I believe who we spend our time with says a lot about who we become.
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RE: Choosing Friends (What Do You Look For?) - 9/7/2008 6:29:06 PM
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Tricia3517
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Close friendships are sometimes hard to come by. I've seen people at work, who say their friends to their friends, but I see them stabbing them in the back alot. So, it's hard for me to trust people, in the natural; but when I put my trust in God to direct me to the friends, He knows would be good for me, then I truely find good friends.
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Pray the promises of God even when you do not see how they are to be fulfilled. Pray w/the simplicity of a little child & believe that He'll answer your prayers.
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RE: Choosing Friends (What Do You Look For?) - 9/21/2008 10:50:43 PM
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imit8him
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quote:
ORIGINAL: sudden
Dear imit8him:
Friends are the only people we choose to let into our lives and for that reason they are very special. I only have a few myself but having friends requires time ...time to talk, to listen and to learn about one another...time to cultivate the friendship. I wish I had all the time in the world to cultivate more friendships. Anyhow, these are some of the key characteristics that are common between my friends.
They are: honest, humourous, compassionate, well-mannered, have an interest in the world around them and making it better, like to have fun and are as loyal as the day is long, have the ability to carry on an interesting conversation and are not terribly preoccupied with themselves.
I think that the main commonality between us is the interest in making the world better while having a good laugh.
Yours for thinking about friends,
Sudden
TY Sudden for sharing. 
The point that struck me the most personally was the part about "not terribly preoccupied with themselves." I confess I need to be less concerned about my own time, interests, and issues with others and just be content to give to others sometimes. Good thoughts and thank you again.
-Imit 
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RE: Choosing Friends (What Do You Look For?) - 9/22/2008 7:34:17 PM
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LivingParadox
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Depends on the level of friendship as I can be friends with most people. But those that move into the category of good friends usually they have similar values (not everything but most things), I can openly talk about just about anything and share my heart without worrying about confidence being trounced, they make me laugh, they bring me up instead of sucking energy out of me. They are there handing you kleenex on your worst day and listening for the 15th time. They are you biggest cheerleader on your best day. If they can't talk you out of jumping off that cliff they make sure to put a safety net at the bottom. Basically, I'm free to be myself as they are free to be themselves as well.
< Message edited by LivingParadox -- 9/22/2008 7:40:17 PM >
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